We do share that opinion... the bar is set
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That makes two of us.
CD_Bianca
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I would love to help you with your curiousity
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I hope I can meet some more big cocks
I am in the same position as “Another Curious Guy” . I’m very curious, need to be very discreet, and totally nervous. I’ve never done anything but I’m so curious to try. I’m not into men but very attracted to trans women or attractive CD’s. I have been fantasizing about sucking a cock. Honestly, what holds me back is the fear of loving it. Make sense?
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Yes it does make sense
and yes I'm sure that if you were to spend some time with me you will want to do it again in the future
a number of men have done this with me in the past
I’m sure I would. That’s the other thing. I have no idea where to find CD’s or Trans women.
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there are men's clubs or adult book stores and in my case there is a local park (though you need to be careful there)
a men's club I go to charges a fee to enter each time ($20) you can be dressed or go into a sauna room of video room and they have showers and a place for coffee and a bite to eat
a men's club I go to charges a fee to enter each time ($20) you can be dressed or go into a sauna room of video room and they have showers and a place for coffee and a bite to eat
What area are you?
Unless you're a anyone and anyplace type, the hard part is finding that other person who you find connection and comfortable with. It wouldn't seem that it would be a hard thing to find... but it really is.
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I love to crossdress and I am incredibly curious. I want to get together with another crossdresser. I am not passable at all but live the panties, stockings high heels and a camisole. I live in a very small community so I will have to do some traveling. I think about sucking cock and rimming all the time .
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I love your style. And I would love to go through your wardrobe.
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That sounds like a great time. Love reading all your posts.
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It does seem harder to find someone you connect and feel comfortable with, especially if one tends to be more cautious and the goal is to have something more than a one time thing... versus those who are more open. Sort of a introvert vs. extrovert in a way.
open_minded28
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I have used a number of gay/bi sites, as well as DoubleList trying to find a good match - someone I get along with really well, preferably some common interests, sexual interests align, logistics align, etc. Basically planetary alignment! lol
I find that it takes a ridiculous amount of time searching, communicating with them, and ultimately discover its not a good match. That gets disappointing but even worse is when they misrepresent themselves (ok, a polite way of saying they lie) and its not a good fit after all. This makes me far more reluctant to meet and the whole process much more frustrating.
I inevitably quit for a while, get really horny, return to the search, rinse and repeat.
I actually ended up trying to find someone here on Lit because I had hoped that this group was much more inclined to be communicative and open to being more than a quick hook up. I'm not looking for a new best friend, I just want to feel very comfortable with him. I think I am more inclined to want to be with someone if I see them as a friend, even if we never hang out or do things as friends. Does that make sense? Feeling like friends even though its just sex?
It does happen - there have been a few times (after chatting with 58.2% of the men in the US lol) that I have found someone where everything lines up and its great! Unfortunately one thing or another eventually ends it - usually a change in availability like a move, change in employment, etc.
Since I have already written a novel in this reply I may as well go for broke and add this too:
Another challenge I face is that my interests vary. Not sure how common that is with other people, but its a definite pattern for me. First, I should say that I consider myself "mostly straight" in that I'm not attracted to guys at all, I've just found they can be an easier substitute. Huge generalizations here, and I understand that as generalizations, they obviously don't apply to everyone! But in my limited experience guys can be more more open and direct about wanting to suck, much easier to meet with, can keep it limited strictly to physical connection, etc.
So about my interests varying:
I'm most interested in having someone that just loves to suck. Whether its their first time and want to explore or have a lot of experience doesn't matter. I don't care about age/weight/race/etc as long as they want to take their time, give pleasure in slow motion, make it all about the journey and not the destination. Its not even that Im trying to draw the pleasure out, its more that I crave feeling like someone is genuinely enjoying my cock. That seems tremendously difficult to find, at least where everything else also lines up.
But then there are also times when I really want to reciprocate too. I prefer the chemistry, attraction, and form of a woman that makes my excitement so much higher, but cocks are really cool. Sometimes I just want to provide sexual pleasure and have fun with genitalia and the gender doesn't really matter. I find the hornier I am, the more I want to remind myself how exciting it can be to have a guy give me his dick to play with, and then switch off and take care of mine too. Afterwards I feel like I have satiated that interest and it may be a while before I want to do that again, but the interest in being pleasured is always there.
If I already have a friend I have been meeting with, I'm fine with reciprocating every time. But if I am looking for a partner it can be challenging because my interest varies -- sometimes I just want to be the receiver, and other times I want to reciprocate.
Lastly, I've found that a number of the guys who just want to suck also want me to dominate them, degrade them, etc. I'm sure there is fun to be had in role playing scenarios that we agree to and I would be fine with that, but I'm not aggressive and pushy or demanding like that by nature. So the sexual alignment can be tough to find too; they might be looking to treat them harshly and I just want to lay back and enjoy the intense pleasure.
wow this is a long post.
thanks for reading if you made it this far! Just throwing in my personal experience, frustration in trying to find someone, etc. For all the challenges I have been incredibly lucky to find partners that have been a great fit. It generally takes me years to find someone but it does happen if I put the effort in.
I find that it takes a ridiculous amount of time searching, communicating with them, and ultimately discover its not a good match. That gets disappointing but even worse is when they misrepresent themselves (ok, a polite way of saying they lie) and its not a good fit after all. This makes me far more reluctant to meet and the whole process much more frustrating.
I inevitably quit for a while, get really horny, return to the search, rinse and repeat.
I actually ended up trying to find someone here on Lit because I had hoped that this group was much more inclined to be communicative and open to being more than a quick hook up. I'm not looking for a new best friend, I just want to feel very comfortable with him. I think I am more inclined to want to be with someone if I see them as a friend, even if we never hang out or do things as friends. Does that make sense? Feeling like friends even though its just sex?
It does happen - there have been a few times (after chatting with 58.2% of the men in the US lol) that I have found someone where everything lines up and its great! Unfortunately one thing or another eventually ends it - usually a change in availability like a move, change in employment, etc.
Since I have already written a novel in this reply I may as well go for broke and add this too:
Another challenge I face is that my interests vary. Not sure how common that is with other people, but its a definite pattern for me. First, I should say that I consider myself "mostly straight" in that I'm not attracted to guys at all, I've just found they can be an easier substitute. Huge generalizations here, and I understand that as generalizations, they obviously don't apply to everyone! But in my limited experience guys can be more more open and direct about wanting to suck, much easier to meet with, can keep it limited strictly to physical connection, etc.
So about my interests varying:
I'm most interested in having someone that just loves to suck. Whether its their first time and want to explore or have a lot of experience doesn't matter. I don't care about age/weight/race/etc as long as they want to take their time, give pleasure in slow motion, make it all about the journey and not the destination. Its not even that Im trying to draw the pleasure out, its more that I crave feeling like someone is genuinely enjoying my cock. That seems tremendously difficult to find, at least where everything else also lines up.
But then there are also times when I really want to reciprocate too. I prefer the chemistry, attraction, and form of a woman that makes my excitement so much higher, but cocks are really cool. Sometimes I just want to provide sexual pleasure and have fun with genitalia and the gender doesn't really matter. I find the hornier I am, the more I want to remind myself how exciting it can be to have a guy give me his dick to play with, and then switch off and take care of mine too. Afterwards I feel like I have satiated that interest and it may be a while before I want to do that again, but the interest in being pleasured is always there.
If I already have a friend I have been meeting with, I'm fine with reciprocating every time. But if I am looking for a partner it can be challenging because my interest varies -- sometimes I just want to be the receiver, and other times I want to reciprocate.
Lastly, I've found that a number of the guys who just want to suck also want me to dominate them, degrade them, etc. I'm sure there is fun to be had in role playing scenarios that we agree to and I would be fine with that, but I'm not aggressive and pushy or demanding like that by nature. So the sexual alignment can be tough to find too; they might be looking to treat them harshly and I just want to lay back and enjoy the intense pleasure.
wow this is a long post.
thanks for reading if you made it this far! Just throwing in my personal experience, frustration in trying to find someone, etc. For all the challenges I have been incredibly lucky to find partners that have been a great fit. It generally takes me years to find someone but it does happen if I put the effort in.
I'd subscribe to your news letter... lol. Your comments are spot on with me, and I'd wager that several other guys reading your post would be nodding their heads also.
open_minded28
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not sure who might be interested in this update, but then I guess it doesn't matter, does it!? You can always choose not to read it if not interested =)
As mentioned above, I did finally find someone that is a great fit for me. Met a couple of times but he has had various situations preventing him from meeting for about 6 weeks or more.
I've been very horny lately (ha, what else is new!? lol) so on a whim I decided to log into a website where people post 'personals' ads. I was pretty shocked when right away I found a post that sounded very interesting.
Someone near my age and area who was somewhat new, very curious, and wanting to explore.
I emailed him right away and got a nice response, someone who did indeed seem to want to find a regular play partner and was not into quickies.
Long(er) story short(ish), we met the other day in a parking lot. I approached and he rolled down the window, seemed friendly enough so I climbed into his Jeep for a chat. We talked for about an hour and seemed like we were very similar in interests. We agreed to consider it for a bit, easier to say 'thanks but no thanks' via email, and give me some time to cool off so I wasn't making a decision solely because sexual fun was right in front of me.
We are hoping to meet tomorrow to see how compatible we are physically. That may sound a bit strange at first, but I have met with guys in the past that were not a good fit for me. One was pushing me to use him hard, slamming his mouth, etc. I'm open to whatever might be fun for someone else, and there is always role play and experimentation, but that level of aggression is not me by nature and was really off-putting. I think his ideas of a good time were just too different from my own. I also met with a guy or two that said he was all about exploration, taking time, that sort of thing but when we got together it felt like they just wanted to milk me in the shortest time possible and dash.
So hopefully this guy is the right blend -- not looking for a new bestie but wants to enjoy long slow sessions where we explore.
There is always some concern about someone not being discreet or getting angry if you say 'thanks but we are not a good match.' I've had both happen, but thankfully not often. The indiscreet one the guy just randomly showed up one day, saying he lost my email. The angry responses were guys with low self esteem I think. Took it very personally that I was calling it quits after one meeting (actually, one guy I hadnt even met with and was pissed when I said thanks but no).
I totally understand guys wanting to be ultra careful -- worried about possible bad outcomes, or just fear of getting caught. It's nice that we have this somewhat safe place to chat about our interests without acting on them in real life.
I would never push or even encourage someone to act on their sexual desires if they weren't comfortable with it, there are a lot of things that could go wrong.
I am lucky that I got to explore my curiosities a very long time ago, sort of 'went wild' for a few years before settling down and being super selective now. I get it though, it can be a powerful desire to want to experiment and satiate curiosities.
If I had unlimited time, no family to worry about, etc. I would love nothing more than to chat with guys and help them work through concerns, fears, etc. Be there to meet with them if they desired and give them a cock to play with and finally satisfy some of those curious feelings. A safe, judgement (and STD!) free partner. Someone patient and kind, understanding that it may be better to meet multiple times and just talk before ever trying more.
As mentioned above, I did finally find someone that is a great fit for me. Met a couple of times but he has had various situations preventing him from meeting for about 6 weeks or more.
I've been very horny lately (ha, what else is new!? lol) so on a whim I decided to log into a website where people post 'personals' ads. I was pretty shocked when right away I found a post that sounded very interesting.
Someone near my age and area who was somewhat new, very curious, and wanting to explore.
I emailed him right away and got a nice response, someone who did indeed seem to want to find a regular play partner and was not into quickies.
Long(er) story short(ish), we met the other day in a parking lot. I approached and he rolled down the window, seemed friendly enough so I climbed into his Jeep for a chat. We talked for about an hour and seemed like we were very similar in interests. We agreed to consider it for a bit, easier to say 'thanks but no thanks' via email, and give me some time to cool off so I wasn't making a decision solely because sexual fun was right in front of me.
We are hoping to meet tomorrow to see how compatible we are physically. That may sound a bit strange at first, but I have met with guys in the past that were not a good fit for me. One was pushing me to use him hard, slamming his mouth, etc. I'm open to whatever might be fun for someone else, and there is always role play and experimentation, but that level of aggression is not me by nature and was really off-putting. I think his ideas of a good time were just too different from my own. I also met with a guy or two that said he was all about exploration, taking time, that sort of thing but when we got together it felt like they just wanted to milk me in the shortest time possible and dash.
So hopefully this guy is the right blend -- not looking for a new bestie but wants to enjoy long slow sessions where we explore.
There is always some concern about someone not being discreet or getting angry if you say 'thanks but we are not a good match.' I've had both happen, but thankfully not often. The indiscreet one the guy just randomly showed up one day, saying he lost my email. The angry responses were guys with low self esteem I think. Took it very personally that I was calling it quits after one meeting (actually, one guy I hadnt even met with and was pissed when I said thanks but no).
I totally understand guys wanting to be ultra careful -- worried about possible bad outcomes, or just fear of getting caught. It's nice that we have this somewhat safe place to chat about our interests without acting on them in real life.
I would never push or even encourage someone to act on their sexual desires if they weren't comfortable with it, there are a lot of things that could go wrong.
I am lucky that I got to explore my curiosities a very long time ago, sort of 'went wild' for a few years before settling down and being super selective now. I get it though, it can be a powerful desire to want to experiment and satiate curiosities.
If I had unlimited time, no family to worry about, etc. I would love nothing more than to chat with guys and help them work through concerns, fears, etc. Be there to meet with them if they desired and give them a cock to play with and finally satisfy some of those curious feelings. A safe, judgement (and STD!) free partner. Someone patient and kind, understanding that it may be better to meet multiple times and just talk before ever trying more.
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Definitely!
CuriousGuyVa
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Excellent post. Thank you for the open and honest sharing of your thoughts and experiences. I'm sure there are plenty of guys who read it and can and will relate to it.
IMHO, you can't go wrong with meeting with some one first to see if there is a connection. If we're all honest, there are times when how one person paints themselves on line may not exactly be what they are like in real life.
Whether experienced or curious, it is nice to have this relatively safe place to share interests and ideas with others, or just read what others have to say and either roll their eyes or maybe say "... yea that's me too".
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