cunnilingue questions

[vargas111]

It seem so strange, so many questions about hot to ge wifes and girlfriends to perform Bj's, questions a bout BJ techniques, the swallowing issue.

Why is thre so little interst in cunniningus. Why do some women not allow it? (e.g. my wife) How did guys first persuade thier wives or girlfrineds to let them do it? Why are some guy reluctant to do it (so I've heard, although it seem incredible to me.) What are the best ways to get her to enjoy it more?

ETC.


Homer

 

[mac340]

not that i am an expert but it usually seems when a woman doesn't want oral sex it's because they are self concious about themselves down there.

 

[PrinceM]

Yeah, i've had some girls tell me they dont like it because they are self conscious about it. I'm sure there are guys that are like that too though.

 

[LadyJeanne]

It's an intimate, personal kind of thing. Sometimes, we don't want that kind of intimacy from someone. Sometimes the guy's not doing it right or not even close to doing it right (just like some guys are really bad kissers). Sometimes we're on our periods and don't want it. Sometimes we're not comfortable letting go of ourselves that way. Sometimes we just want to get fucked.

 

[Meat Whistler]

It's an intimate, personal kind of thing. Sometimes, we don't want that kind of intimacy from someone. Sometimes the guy's not doing it right or not even close to doing it right (just like some guys are really bad kissers). Sometimes we're on our periods and don't want it. Sometimes we're not comfortable letting go of ourselves that way. Sometimes we just want to get fucked.

Some of this is true for me.

I, personally, find this to be one of the most intimate sexual acts. While I have no problem sucking a man off (and quite enjoy it), I am picky about who I let eat me out. I often don't want that type of intimacy with someone and sometimes it's because I've already had it and don't like it from that particular person.

If I'm with a guy for a while, I'll know he does it right and I'll enjoy getting my pussy licked.

 

[Paint The Smile]

I used to be somewhat timid about my guy going down on me. I was aware of what came out of me "down there" - blood, children, urine, the arousal juices, vaginal discharge, etc. I wasn't sure if my mate would be up to putting his lips on that.

So I just made sure I wash up before he goes down and he enjoys it, and I enjoy it. I feel cleaner than if he performs on a "dirty" area.

 

[pink swirl]

It seem so strange, so many questions about hot to ge wifes and girlfriends to perform Bj's, questions a bout BJ techniques, the swallowing issue.

Why is thre so little interst in cunniningus. Why do some women not allow it? (e.g. my wife) How did guys first persuade thier wives or girlfrineds to let them do it? Why are some guy reluctant to do it (so I've heard, although it seem incredible to me.) What are the best ways to get her to enjoy it more?

ETC.


Homer

mmmm, tell her how much you love to lick her, how sweet she smells, tell her how it makes your cock hard to taste her pussy.

then when you're between her legs, show her how much you love it and how much it turns you on - savor it! look up into her eyes as you're licking. slip a finger or two inside. she'll be wet.

 

[Quoll]

The first time I went to go down on my G/F, now wife, she grabbed my head and said "What the hell are you doing" I said "Give me 30 seconds, and if you don`t like it tell me to stop." 25+ years and she hasn`t said stop yet.

Try asking her after she has had a shower, she may have issues about cleanliness.
Do some research first, so that you are prepared to give it all you`ve got, should you get the chance.

As always, love, patience and communication.
Also trust, humour and devotion.




Yes I know, 25+ years and boy is my toungue tired.

 

[Cakegirl]

Quoll, the first time you went down on your wife was like the first time someone went down on me!

I had always assumed that oral was a one-sided thing - girls were always blowing guys, guys were demanding it, stand-up comedians would joke about it, and about how women were never 'satisfied', etc.

I was 21 before someone went down on me, and I had never thought to ask for it before. And when he did, I was like "Holy crap! Guys actually DO this?!?!" and then about 10 seconds later the shock wore of and things got really, really good.

 

[ldlarry52]

I think both cleanliness and intimacy issues are at work here. I am blessed that my wife enjoys and desires for me to go down on her. For her as well as me as long as she has washed we both enjoy it.

We are all naturally oral, from childhood we put things our mouths.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

there's also one more thing that hasnt been mentioned. I didnt like to receive because I'd never gotten it wihtout the guy, right after, saying something along the lines of "glad you're happy, now suck me." and really, how can you enjoy something when you know that they're expecting you to perform immediately after. Things have changed recently, and I've gotta say that it is much more enjoyable if you're spending the time just on her and not expecting anything (or at least not letting it be known) and for the first time I actually enjoy receiving (cant quite get it enough).

 

[Volz]

It seem so strange, so many questions about hot to ge wifes and girlfriends to perform Bj's, questions a bout BJ techniques, the swallowing issue.

Why is thre so little interst in cunniningus. Why do some women not allow it? (e.g. my wife) How did guys first persuade thier wives or girlfrineds to let them do it? Why are some guy reluctant to do it (so I've heard, although it seem incredible to me.) What are the best ways to get her to enjoy it more?

ETC.


Homer

Simple: I don't get off on it. That's not to say that I don't enjoy it, I certainly do, and it does feel good, it just doesn't do a whole lot for me. My husband enjoys going down on me too. The problem is I get bored if it goes on for too long. If it lasts longer than 10 minutes, I've gotta stop him to do something else.


Now, I have cum once or twice during oral, but it's only when I'm REALLY, REALLY horny.

 

[My Own Way]

there's also one more thing that hasnt been mentioned. I didnt like to receive because I'd never gotten it wihtout the guy, right after, saying something along the lines of "glad you're happy, now suck me." and really, how can you enjoy something when you know that they're expecting you to perform immediately after. Things have changed recently, and I've gotta say that it is much more enjoyable if you're spending the time just on her and not expecting anything (or at least not letting it be known) and for the first time I actually enjoy receiving (cant quite get it enough).

I agree with what everyone as said here so far....I'm generally very concerned about taste/odor when I guy goes down on me. I just make sure that I'm extra clean if I know things might be heading south.

I particularly agree with W&U (you give great advice girl!) A lot of times women associates received oral sex as a guy just trying to butter them up to get a blow job. Make sure that you tell your wife, girlfriend, etc how much you want to do this. How hot it makes you, how great she smells, tastes, feels, etc and that this is all about her, that you expect nothing but for her to enjoy this. There's no saying that she really will, but my theory is that you never know what you're gonna like until you try it at least once....

 

[Quoll]

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W&U http://www.planetsmilies.com/smilies/tongue/tongue12.gif

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[VSE]

What can I Say? i love going down on women. Last time was with a definite "I dont do blowjobs" lady. *knock knock* Hello? I'm not doing this because I want a blowjob, I'm doing this because I enjoy it and after 10 years of surreptitiously reading cosmo I'm lead to believe you might as well (though I do recall an article in the self same publication by a woman who picked up a "fuck" for the night and then whined about how he tried to get her off by going down on her and continued despite her lack of indication that it wasn't doing anything to get her rocks off).

I did go out with a lass who wouldn't let me go down on her, the reason she gave was that "she didn't know me well enough" despite the fact we were naked in the same bed together.

If, as Volz suggests, its a pleasant rather than earth moving experience for you, then TELL US! And we'll move on to something you do really like. And if you do enjoy it but we aren't quite getting it right give us a clue, contrary to popular belief we can take directions.

The only advice I would give to anyone wanting their man to go down on them is, if they have been wearing tights all day (pantyhose), invite them into the shower first.

A quick straw poll amongst friends suggests that if asked, 90% of them would, with no expectations, go down on their ladyfriend and enjoy it for what it is

 

[Willing and Unsure]

If, as Volz suggests, its a pleasant rather than earth moving experience for you, then TELL US! And we'll move on to something you do really like. And if you do enjoy it but we aren't quite getting it right give us a clue, contrary to popular belief we can take directions.

I can honestly say that it is not an earth moving experience for me, but it's not always about that. I enjoy it because it is a different feeling and although it doesnt give me the greatest orgasm (if at all), it's the fact that he's there, with his mouth on me and enjoying himself. It's kind of like when I give oral and he wont cum from it. I still enjoy giving to him some pleasure cuz it normally leads to something else. I dont know how else to describe it.

 

[VSE]

I do appreciate what you are syaing, I had a g/f who said pretty much the same thing (which I always took as a personal failure, those mags represent all women right?).

I guess what I am trying to say is that there are a large number of us hairy gorilla types who enoy it anyway ( so please don't stop us on that account) and who think it should be getting you off as well. If it isn't then just give us a clue what it is that we could be doing that will.

 

[ldlarry52]

Oral is a normal part of sex for me and the wife. She knows I enjoy doing her and she only reaches the big O from it, and does she reach it in multiples.

Once she gets off and is happy many times we go into 69. She gets me nice and hard while I she gets another O or two.. Then, we fuck!!



There is nothing dirty or ucky about it as long as you are clean. I would never expect a oral after a long day nor would my wife, but after a shower, well yum yum...

 

[vargas111]

It's an intimate, personal kind of thing. Sometimes, we don't want that kind of intimacy from someone. Sometimes the guy's not doing it right or not even close to doing it right (just like some guys are really bad kissers). Sometimes we're on our periods and don't want it. Sometimes we're not comfortable letting go of ourselves that way. Sometimes we just want to get fucked.

My question was about why too many women (even one is too many <g>) would refuse to let a loving partner (husband) do her EVER?

Of course on any given night there are dozens of reasons.

 

[vargas111]

The first time I went to go down on my G/F, now wife, she grabbed my head and said "What the hell are you doing" I said "Give me 30 seconds, and if you don`t like it tell me to stop." 25+ years and she hasn`t said stop yet.

Ah, but she did love you enough to give you the chance. <sigh>

 

[vargas111]

Quoll, the first time you went down on your wife was like the first time someone went down on me!

I had always assumed that oral was a one-sided thing - girls were always blowing guys, guys were demanding it, stand-up comedians would joke about it, and about how women were never 'satisfied', etc.

I was 21 before someone went down on me, and I had never thought to ask for it before. And when he did, I was like "Holy crap! Guys actually DO this?!?!" and then about 10 seconds later the shock wore of and things got really, really good.

But Cakegirl was willing to try.

 

[vargas111]

I agree with what everyone as said here so far....I'm generally very concerned about taste/odor when I guy goes down on me. I just make sure that I'm extra clean if I know things might be heading south.

I particularly agree with W&U (you give great advice girl!) A lot of times women associates received oral sex as a guy just trying to butter them up to get a blow job. Make sure that you tell your wife, girlfriend, etc how much you want to do this. How hot it makes you, how great she smells, tastes, feels, etc and that this is all about her, that you expect nothing but for her to enjoy this. There's no saying that she really will, but my theory is that you never know what you're gonna like until you try it at least once....

This is notme at all! I'm not particularly intersted in BJ and I've never asked my wife for one. Nor do I think that "squeekly cleanliness" is attractive. I like a nice womanly smell.

 

[vargas111]

What can I Say? i love going down on women. Last time was with a definite "I dont do blowjobs" lady. *knock knock* Hello? I'm not doing this because I want a blowjob, I'm doing this because I enjoy it and after 10 years of surreptitiously reading cosmo I'm lead to believe you might as well (though I do recall an article in the self same publication by a woman who picked up a "fuck" for the night and then whined about how he tried to get her off by going down on her and continued despite her lack of indication that it wasn't doing anything to get her rocks off).

I did go out with a lass who wouldn't let me go down on her, the reason she gave was that "she didn't know me well enough" despite the fact we were naked in the same bed together.

If, as Volz suggests, its a pleasant rather than earth moving experience for you, then TELL US! And we'll move on to something you do really like. And if you do enjoy it but we aren't quite getting it right give us a clue, contrary to popular belief we can take directions.

The only advice I would give to anyone wanting their man to go down on them is, if they have been wearing tights all day (pantyhose), invite them into the shower first.

A quick straw poll amongst friends suggests that if asked, 90% of them would, with no expectations, go down on their ladyfriend and enjoy it for what it is

My question is would 90% of the women let a husband go down on them?

Homer

 

[My Own Way]

We're not saying this is you. You're obvi. a loving husband who wants to please his wife. But you asked why some women don't like being eaten....we're just giving you some reasons.....

 

[LadyJeanne]

Ah, but she did love you enough to give you the chance. <sigh>

You may be asking for answers we can't give you. If your wife has never allowed it after many years of marriage, then she is the only one who has the answer to why not.

It is not likely to be a question of whether she loves you enough! This is more about her than you.

If the rest of your sex life is wonderful, then this is an issue that she has strong feelings about and only she can explain what they are. If you have other problems in the bedroom, focusing on this one is not likely to improve matters.

Please try talking with her