cumming question

[Guest]

my bf and i have been having sex for about a month now and he just cant make me cum during sex. he has made me cum every other way, with is tongue, fingers etc, but not during sex i love him so much and i dont have the heart to tell him,and i know ur thinking if i love him so much i would tell him but i just cant.
i still enjoy the sex but the gratification would be nice as well.
if we do it doggy i can finger my clit and cum, but we prefer to do it missionary, and i just cant cum. ive come to the conclusion that i need a lot of clit stimulation to cum, but i dont get it this way so can anyone suggest a way of increasing this, or yeah something

thanx in advance

 

[dreamer]

Well, the easy answer is that's just how it is. I think you'll find this is a common situation. Many women just can't come this way.

Now for suggestions...I've seen some cock rings that supposedly provide clit stimulation...I haven't had much success with them though. I've seen the butterfly vibrator that kind of straps on and can be used during sex...I look forward to giving a report on this before too long, but as of today I haven't tried this...

Also there's the idea of different positions...as a guy, I've found the best position for hitting those sweet spots is with her on top. It allows the woman the opportunity to really control the stimulation and pace.

I personally am a big fan of making sure she comes once or twice before actual intercourse anyhow...but for those quickies try on top.

Best of luck, and have fun exploring!!!

 

[dreamer]

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[Manhunter]

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[Guest]

thanx for the advice i will give that a try

oh and i am a member but the thing is so is he so thats why i didnt use my username

but im a bit of a ".....goddess"

 

[dreamer]

Gotcha, sometimes we all just want to be annonymous...BUT...like I end up saying on practically every How To board post, talking to your partner usually solves all problems. Honesty, communication; some of the better parts of any relationship.

Maybe you should talk to him about this? I'm under the impression that you may see this as a problem. It isn't. Some positions just aren't what works for some people. IMHO, that's one of the great things about sex. The discovery of each other and ourselves...

 

[Amfig]

if we do it doggy i can finger my clit and cum, but we prefer to do it missionary, and i just cant cum. ive come to the conclusion that i need a lot of clit stimulation to cum, but i dont get it this way so can anyone suggest a way of increasing this, or yeah something

1. Most women come from clitoral stimulation, so you are not unusual.

2. What's wrong with fingering your clit in missionary? An understanding lover knows about No.1 and would not mind. In fact, kind of turns me on to watch her rub herself while having intercourse.

 

[SexyChele]

Most women can only climax with direct clitoral stimulation. Very few that I've actually known can acheive an orgasm through penetration alone.

Talk to your bf. Be honest with him. Trust me, if you "fake it", he will eventually find out, and that is even worse than if you tell him up front. I know, it seems kinder not to say anything, but it does catch up with you.

By letting him know that you need that direct clitoral stimulation, he can spend more time orally or manually bringing you to climax, making certain you are completely satisfied. Or, as another poster said, simply use your fingers during the missionary position. There are many different creative ways I'm sure you and your bf can think of to make this a pleasant and enjoyable experience.

But it all begins with communication.

Good luck!