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GeorgiaGuy48 said:
As I said in another post, I went into my marriage knowing up front what she was. We discussed open relationships, but I was in one of those before my wife, more times than not it ended up in disappointment. Tried swinging, more frustrating than rewarding for me at least. So when I was introduced to the woman that is now my wife, i was warned that she was promiscuous, and she was divorced 3 times. We went out, we had fun, we laughed, she is the hottest woman I had ever been with. So we sat down and had a talk, I asked her about her marriages and the rumor of her being a slut. She did not deny it, then told me that she didn't have any plans to be monogamous. So I asked her what it was that she wanted me to be , and what she wanted. Her answer floored me, she said a cuckold husband. As I said before she gave time to think about things, ask questions, we were on shakey ground as I was uncertain about the future. Then one day I went to her house, and I told her that I had to have her in my life. 2 weeks later it was her that proposed to me. 3 months later we were married. It has been at times a crazy 11 years now. As far as is this forever? I don't know that, but I don't believe either of us as plans to leave. We have a life together, we own things together, the cuckolding is just part of our sex life. Yes it is sort of a female led relationship, but she isn't bossy, she isn't demanding, she isn't demeaning. I just follow her lead because she makes good decisions. As far as the other men, she sets that all up. She will come to me tell me what's she is doing, when she is doing it, where she will be. Sometimes she will ask me if I am available to join them, if of course she has discussed that with her date. If I don't go, that is my free time to really do as I wish. When she gets home, I get my time with her. It may not be regular sex. That is fine with me. She comes home

First thing I had to learn is to let go of the "where is mine" mentality. Let her do what she does, and she makes sure I get mine too.

On very rare occasions she sets things up with a woman, for us both to enjoy.
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Your point about letting go of the "where is mine" mentality is spot on. Husbands often seem to confuse limiting their wife to sexual exclusivity with optimizing their own sexual activity. The two have little to do with each other. And those guys often end up being the ones complaining about their wife's lack of sexual engagement later in the marriage. Any healthy wife is capable of satisfying all the sexual needs and desires of more than one man. Having the latitude to pursue her sexual desires with other men if she so chooses as well as her husband results in her having greater engagement and satisfaction in her sex life, which works to the benefit of all the men in her life including her husband.

We tried an open relationship. It worked great for me but not so much for my husband. So he found that many date nights he effectively had two choices. He could pursue other women knowing it rarely worked out and when it did was usually inferior to our sexual interaction. That pursuit still took him away from home and left me unsure what his plans were so I would just assume he wouldn't be available that night. If he struck out with his date or failed to find a woman that was the end of his sexual potential for that evening. Or he could wait at home for me while enjoying a hockey game or a movie or go out with his friends and plan to be home by a certain time. If I knew that ahead of time I would be home to take care of his sexual needs at the end of the night. He actually got everything he wanted or needed that evening. If he wanted to fuck me twice then I was down to fuck and frankly twice was all he could muster. So what if another man fucked me earlier in the evening? It took nothing away from my husband yet enhanced my sex life.

Now some will say why didn't I go on a date with my husband that night and spend the whole evening with him. We do that often. But there are nights he is actually happier to watch the game or hang with his buddies and being able to do that and still get laid at the end of the night is his optimal outcome. Meanwhile a wide variety of sexual opportunities are available to me and availing myself of those opportunities does enhance my sex life (they are better than my husband, but they are more and different so yes they do augment my sex life). So we each get exactly what we want. In order to see that he had to let go of the idea that my sex with other men took away from him.

On balance the result is that both of us have a more active and engaged sex life than we would if we were monogamous. Perhaps I get more net benefit because I have greater capacity and opportunity. But that doesn't take away from him and in fact enhances his sex life too.
 
policywank said:
Your point about letting go of the "where is mine" mentality is spot on. Husbands often seem to confuse limiting their wife to sexual exclusivity with optimizing their own sexual activity. The two have little to do with each other. And those guys often end up being the ones complaining about their wife's lack of sexual engagement later in the marriage. Any healthy wife is capable of satisfying all the sexual needs and desires of more than one man. Having the latitude to pursue her sexual desires with other men if she so chooses as well as her husband results in her having greater engagement and satisfaction in her sex life, which works to the benefit of all the men in her life including her husband.

We tried an open relationship. It worked great for me but not so much for my husband. So he found that many date nights he effectively had two choices. He could pursue other women knowing it rarely worked out and when it did was usually inferior to our sexual interaction. That pursuit still took him away from home and left me unsure what his plans were so I would just assume he wouldn't be available that night. If he struck out with his date or failed to find a woman that was the end of his sexual potential for that evening. Or he could wait at home for me while enjoying a hockey game or a movie or go out with his friends and plan to be home by a certain time. If I knew that ahead of time I would be home to take care of his sexual needs at the end of the night. He actually got everything he wanted or needed that evening. If he wanted to fuck me twice then I was down to fuck and frankly twice was all he could muster. So what if another man fucked me earlier in the evening? It took nothing away from my husband yet enhanced my sex life.

Now some will say why didn't I go on a date with my husband that night and spend the whole evening with him. We do that often. But there are nights he is actually happier to watch the game or hang with his buddies and being able to do that and still get laid at the end of the night is his optimal outcome. Meanwhile a wide variety of sexual opportunities are available to me and availing myself of those opportunities does enhance my sex life (they are better than my husband, but they are more and different so yes they do augment my sex life). So we each get exactly what we want. In order to see that he had to let go of the idea that my sex with other men took away from him.

On balance the result is that both of us have a more active and engaged sex life than we would if we were monogamous. Perhaps I get more net benefit because I have greater capacity and opportunity. But that doesn't take away from him and in fact enhances his sex life too.
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I have better sex and kinkier sex because I let her go out and get the sex she wants. That is a fact that I cannot deny.
 
GeorgiaGuy48 said:
I have better sex and kinkier sex because I let her go out and get the sex she wants. That is a fact that I cannot deny.
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So it sounds like both of your sex lives are enhanced by her embrace of the hot wife lifestyle.

As long as a man can get past his jealousy and let go of the idea that he will ever keep up with his wife, I think what you are experiencing is the natural outcome.
 
policywank said:
So it sounds like both of your sex lives are enhanced by her embrace of the hot wife lifestyle.

As long as a man can get past his jealousy and let go of the idea that he will ever keep up with his wife, I think what you are experiencing is the natural outcome.
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I am very aware that I cannot keep with her appetite for sex. I am just not built that way I guess. It took some time to get my head wrapped around that. I stay busy to curb the jealousy. I have hobbies, I will watch a movie that I know she would never have any interest in.

I am never expected to do anything I don't want to do while she is having play time.

I just know when I get the text that she is on her way home, I start getting very aroused.

She is more inclined to give me the kinkiness that I want, because she gets what she needs.
 
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I would say it isn't just a matter of the way you personally are built. Women intrinsically have greater sexual capacity and opportunity than men. Any woman with a high enough appetite for sex will find that no one man can satisfy her appetites and/or that multiple men can provide the benefit of greater variety. I noticed in your earlier post that your wife said she had no intention of being monogamous. It seemed as though that was a broad statement as opposed to being specific to you.

I can relate to this. Different men offer different things and while some may have more stamina than my husband none rise to the level of matching my appetites. And no one man offers the variety available to me from having many lovers. My choice of a mate is much more guided by the love my husband gives me and the degree to which he accepts this aspect of my personality. No one man could give me what my husband gives me by accepting me and my promiscuous ways. And I amen damn sure he knows that I appreciate it.
 
policywank said:
I would say it isn't just a matter of the way you personally are built. Women intrinsically have greater sexual capacity and opportunity than men. Any woman with a high enough appetite for sex will find that no one man can satisfy her appetites and/or that multiple men can provide the benefit of greater variety. I noticed in your earlier post that your wife said she had no intention of being monogamous. It seemed as though that was a broad statement as opposed to being specific to you.

I can relate to this. Different men offer different things and while some may have more stamina than my husband none rise to the level of matching my appetites. And no one man offers the variety available to me from having many lovers. My choice of a mate is much more guided by the love my husband gives me and the degree to which he accepts this aspect of my personality. No one man could give me what my husband gives me by accepting me and my promiscuous ways. And I amen damn sure he knows that I appreciate it.
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Yes it was a broad statement and it wasn't directed to me. She does not have a specific boyfriend, she likes and needs variety. I am not saying she won't have sex with the same guys over a period of time, there just isn't any one man that she gives herself to.

She doesn't just pick up any dude on the street. She feels them out, mostly there has to be proof that there aren't any STD's . Unless it is on the understanding that a condom will be worn. Although usually that means no cream pies, but if she wants him bad enough, then that is up to her.

There are a lot of guys that just bail out on her because she makes them do these things, and there are some that understand the lifestyle and will do as she asks.

So I have no reason not to trust her judgement. She does her homework so to speak.
 
I need to add that there have been random spur of the moment encounters when we have been out of town, but I am usually in the room watching it actively participating. A Doctor's appointment is made soon after to get checked out
 
BBCfan said:
https://i.imgur.com/k1dd6ac.jpg
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Cuckold discipline is important. Regular reminders to ensure a cuckold knows his place are important to that discipline. In this image we have two key points of reference. One is making sure the cuckold knows that his wife needs more sexually adequate lovers to achieve sexual fulfillment - a wife should never have to sacrifice her sexual fulfillment so that her cuckold can pretend otherwise. The other equally important point is making sure the cuckold knows that there are reasons he is caged. The cage is a symbol of his wife's domain over him for which he should be grateful. It is also a reminder that he must resist masturbating so that his attention may remain focussed on his wife and her lover because this is the means by which he can assist with their sexual pleasure. It isn't her fault that her husband is unable to satisfy her sexually with his own penis and he should be grateful that she has provided another avenue for him to participate in her sex life..
 
Given the opportunity the majority of women (marred or single) will respond to a man with a big fat black cock like this one by getting on their knees and sucking him off. Some wives might resist - even though every fibre of their being wants to do just like this slut is doing - out of fidelity to their husbands but most will give in. If your wife tells you otherwise she might be fooling herself but chances are she just knows you can't handle the truth.....the truth that deep down she craves the opportunity to give herself over to such a real man and would jump at the opportunity.

https://SPAMPOST/BoerNYankee/post/ca8b13f6-fa7e-4b24-9e35-aef50e5536db/

https://cache.sharesome.com/file/sharesome/uploads/user-images/u1068666/fw2slg-hr0vmkzn07.mp4
 
SlutAddicted said:
Given the opportunity the majority of women (marred or single) will respond to a man with a big fat black cock like this one by getting on their knees and sucking him off. Some wives might resist - even though every fibre of their being wants to do just like this slut is doing - out of fidelity to their husbands but most will give in. If your wife tells you otherwise she might be fooling herself but chances are she just knows you can't handle the truth.....the truth that deep down she craves the opportunity to give herself over to such a real man and would jump at the opportunity.

https://SPAMPOST/BoerNYankee/post/ca8b13f6-fa7e-4b24-9e35-aef50e5536db/

https://cache.sharesome.com/file/sharesome/uploads/user-images/u1068666/fw2slg-hr0vmkzn07.mp4
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If we are being honest most women find this appealing and a most (or certainly a lot) of us wouldn't admit it to our husbands. So it is hard to know just how many women it appeals to. But it is a safe bet that it may not be as many as the audience here on Lit would like to believe but it is more than the average male (especially husbands) would like to believe.
 
policywank said:
If we are being honest most women find this appealing and a most (or certainly a lot) of us wouldn't admit it to our husbands. So it is hard to know just how many women it appeals to. But it is a safe bet that it may not be as many as the audience here on Lit would like to believe but it is more than the average male (especially husbands) would like to believe.
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Very well stated.
Considering the oral aspect only, I think likely far less women interested or fantasize.
A lot of women are just not that into oral, but getting fucked by such a cock...agree many/most must ponder it.
 
BBCfan said:
Very well stated.
Considering the oral aspect only, I think likely far less women interested or fantasize.
A lot of women are just not that into oral, but getting fucked by such a cock...agree many/most must ponder it.
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Interesting. I don't think of women as being disinterested in oral at least not among women who generally are interested in and have a positive view of sex. The women who I have heard express reservations towards oral sex or any other specific type of sexual engagement are usually reacting to a very male centric version of the practice or of sex in general. Guys confuse women not wanting to have the man's version of sexual practices forced upon us with disinterest.

It isn't dissimilar with trying a bit black cock. If some guy is going to come swinging behaving like a dominant thug a lot of women will get turned off no matter how physically impressive he is. But if he treats her respectfully and demonstrates a real affection for women as human beings most of us would love to fuck him and I doubt that at that point many of us would try the line at oral. But of course I am really just going on my own anecdotal observations.
 
It isn't the fact that my wife is opposed to oral sex in anyway, as stated above, is it deserved? As I have stated in other posts, my wife is not submissive to other men, they are thought of as play things. So when the encounter is over it is over there is no such feeling of ownership. However with that being said we have also built some friendships in this lifestyle, where these people ( men and women) are thought of as prefered play things. Any man that treats her or me with disrespect, the encounter is over. There has only ever been one instance where that happened, and the plug was pulled, I was there, we packed it in and went home. Later the guy apologized, and now understood the dynamic, now we are great friends and he is one of our repeat hook ups.
 
policywank said:
Interesting. I don't think of women as being disinterested in oral at least not among women who generally are interested in and have a positive view of sex. The women who I have heard express reservations towards oral sex or any other specific type of sexual engagement are usually reacting to a very male centric version of the practice or of sex in general. Guys confuse women not wanting to have the man's version of sexual practices forced upon us with disinterest.

It isn't dissimilar with trying a bit black cock. If some guy is going to come swinging behaving like a dominant thug a lot of women will get turned off no matter how physically impressive he is. But if he treats her respectfully and demonstrates a real affection for women as human beings most of us would love to fuck him and I doubt that at that point many of us would try the line at oral. But of course I am really just going on my own anecdotal observations.
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I can only go from personal data I've gleaned from a couple hundred or so women I've dated or had intimate conversations with over many years of dating.

For me there is a BIG difference between a woman who loves sucking dick and a woman that sucks dick to please her man. The difference is so easy to tell even if the women is really a great at fellatio, but lacks that true LOVE of the act.

I always liked, and at times searched for the women with a true love and passion for the act.
Although porn tends to suggest most do, only 10-20% would fall into that category from my somewhat limited "study group".
 
GeorgiaGuy48 said:
It isn't the fact that my wife is opposed to oral sex in anyway, as stated above, is it deserved? As I have stated in other posts, my wife is not submissive to other men, they are thought of as play things. So when the encounter is over it is over there is no such feeling of ownership. However with that being said we have also built some friendships in this lifestyle, where these people ( men and women) are thought of as prefered play things. Any man that treats her or me with disrespect, the encounter is over. There has only ever been one instance where that happened, and the plug was pulled, I was there, we packed it in and went home. Later the guy apologized, and now understood the dynamic, now we are great friends and he is one of our repeat hook ups.
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I like giving oral sex so I suppose I think in terms not so much of "is it deserved" as "is it not deserved". In other words, if I am enjoying myself with a man everything is on the table in terms of sexual activities. I may take longer to get comfortable with certain things if he is a new guy, but if all is going well and I want to suck his dick I will do so. He doesn't need to "earn" it. But if it isn't going well or he treats me or my cuckold with disrespect it is all over.
 
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policywank said:
I like giving oral sex so I suppose I think in terms of so much "is it deserved" as "is it not deserved". In other words, if I am enjoying myself with a man everything is on the table in terms of sexual activities. I may take longer to get comfortable with certain things if he is a new guy, but if all is going well and I want to suck his dick I will do so. He doesn't need to "earn" it. But if it isn't going well or he treats me or my cuckold with disrespect it is all over.
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Hot that you have your partner's back...
 
BBCfan said:
I can only go from personal data I've gleaned from a couple hundred or so women I've dated or had intimate conversations with over many years of dating.

For me there is a BIG difference between a woman who loves sucking dick and a woman that sucks dick to please her man. The difference is so easy to tell even if the women is really a great at fellatio, but lacks that true LOVE of the act.

I always liked, and at times searched for the women with a true love and passion for the act.
Although porn tends to suggest most do, only 10-20% would fall into that category from my somewhat limited "study group".
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Yes I can see that important difference. I probably would have pegged those of us that really enjoy the act of fellatio a bit higher but it would still probably not be a majority. But I would suggest that there may be more variation in female attitudes: 1) women who love to suck dick; 2) women who don't care for it but do it to please their man; 3) women who don't care for it and won't do it; and 4) women for whom circumstance and context matter as result of which they may fit into any one of the three preceding categories at any given time. I think category #4 is reasonably prevalent such that if a woman is truly feeling inspired and drawn to a man the act itself becomes much more appealing. Meanwhile for all women except those in group #3 the psychology and emotion of it is a factor. For those of us that loving giving head it is of course more than a purely physical act, and for the #2 and #4 women the psychology and emotion are big factors as well. If a woman is doing it more to please her man than for herself that doesn't necessarily mean it is purely a chore and an obligation. It could be just because she loves him. But it could be because he rocked her world or pleased her in a non-sexual way or she is really attracted to him and wants to impress him as a result of which she really embraces the experience. There are many scenarios in which a woman who is generally not that enthusiastic about giving a blow job feels differently in the moment.
 
BBCfan said:
LOL
I am a very similar size, well endowed masculine guy that in very hetero except for my BBC fetish
I am not a desperate horndog out here
no interest in masturbation with a guy or interacting with a woman. I am happily attached.

I do however have a massive BBC fetish...used to suck BBC once in awhile, but not since choosing monogamous relationship with wife.

I enjoy hearing about BBC encounters and details of size , stamina, enjoyment , etc...but it goes no further than that.
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Wasn't directed at you, you didn't PM me. Lol
 
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