Criteria of a Pain Slut

[the_pet]

Greetings All

Please forgive me is this has been discussed in a prior thread. I tried using the search engine but pain and slut are mentioned pretty often in this sub-forum. Please do not hestitate to direct me to it's location if available. With that being said i started this post in response to the thread of whether enjoying pain is mental or physical in origin. My response was as follows:

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I enjoy pain
it gets me immediately sexually aroused
i have to have it to orgasm
if you're fucking me you better be pulling my hair, smacking my ass, twisting a nipple, tightening the rope, GIVE ME SOMETHING PLEASE
it's what i desire/crave
i can be doing the most mundane, unpleasant activity (smack my ass) and instantly IT IS ON!
and i'm not talking a pleasure pat, i want welp producing, leave a mark the next day pain


i've been told i was a pain slut
but i've also been told i'm just plain DEVIANT
but that leads me sometimes to wonder
"what constitutes being a pain slut"

i'll start another thread so as to not jack this one

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so what defines a "Pain Slut"? Is it.....

the enjoyment of pain
the craving of pain

am i a pain slut because i enjoy it so much
or because mentally i have to have it to orgasm
or both
are we talking EXTREME pain or can anybody be a pain slut
is it one of those ....

"You know you're a pain slut if (fill in the blank)______________________



I know everybody's different but what makes "you" think you are a pain slut or define someone else as a pain slut?

(have fun i'm gonna go whip myself and masturbate


pet

 

[the captians wench]

*giggles*

Just as some define a slut as one who wants sex all of the time, I define pain slut as some one who desires pain.

I don't think sex has to be involved in the equation, but obviously pain does, and sexual release from pain I'm sure helps a bit.

But over all, I'd say try not to define yourself so much. I don't like lables, I have them because my Master gets a kick out of seeing them on me. But I'm open to talk about my experiences if you like.

 

[Shankara20]

"You know you're a pain slut if ......"

you get turned on just by seeing a package of clothespins on a store shelf when grocery shopping

 

[Shankara20]

"You know you're a pain slut if ...."

you won’t get your hair cut just to make sure your lover has something to grasp in their hands



can you all say "PULL!"



.

 

[Shankara20]

"You know you're a pain slut if ..."

you get your nipples pierced just to give your lover pull toys

 

[the captians wench]

Okay shankie I'm 2 for 3....the third one scares me.

 

[Shankara20]

Okay shankie I'm 2 for 3....the third one scares me.

scares you wet?

 

[intothewoods]

scares you wet?

you're so bad. ha ha.

 

[Cheshire D]

"You know you're a pain slut if ...."

you grow your hair out just to make sure your lover has something to grasp in their hands



can you all say "PULL!"



.

Fixed for me. I'm two for three, too, and yes, it does scare me wet. Also: You know you're a pain slut when you're proud you can take more than your generally-otherwise-tougher-than-you roommate.

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[BiBunny]

Guilty of all three, Shank, but I rejected my nipple piercings twice. My poor nipples look kind of deformed now where the rings migrated, so I guess I won't be going back for the third time.

 

[HottieMama]

2 for 3 here too...but mine is the clothespins...Maybe i've just never had them used properly.

 

[Ice2000]

hmmmm...

I would classify you gal's as normal healthy subs. A pain slut to me is one that don't care about anything except the pain. Cut me beat me burn me,rip me open what ever. Yes they exist.

I like inflicting a little pain as much as the next dom. But I got a real problem with damaging my property. If you want pain so bad you want permanent damage =pain slut.

 

[Netzach]

I define a pain slut as someone who wants the pain because they can convert it to sexual pleasure, and wants a lot of it.

Most self described "masochists" kind of fit the bill. I more or less kind of suck ass at doing this, my body can do it some, because I think ANY human body and brain are capable of doing this to a varying degree, D or s totally aside, but it's not my forte.

A masochist, in my mind, is someone who wants the pain they are unable to sexualize, they want pain for its own sake, and are much rarer. I don't think you have to be a heavy player or want absurd amounts of pain to be a masochist - a lot of spankos are masochists in this way and it's more about discipline, atonement, and psychodrama than it is about getting off in a nether-regions sense. I was much more into this kind of thing when I did bottom - again hardly a heavy player, maybe lightweight medium by the judgement of those I consider hard players, but it was far more erotic for me to have the chance to see what my body could do and feel tough than it was something that just got me off on its own.

Now I just do vinyasa yoga once a week.

 

[Shankara20]

Guilty of all three, Shank, but I rejected my nipple piercings twice. My poor nipples look kind of deformed now where the rings migrated, so I guess I won't be going back for the third time.

*sigh* I just retired both of mine last week - rejected - for the second time *sigh*

shall we start a deformed nipple club?

pinching them is just not the same as pulling and twinting them

*sigh*

well - at least there is always that box of needles and some ribbon

 

[BiBunny]

I define a pain slut as someone who wants the pain because they can convert it to sexual pleasure, and wants a lot of it.

Most self described "masochists" kind of fit the bill. I more or less kind of suck ass at doing this, my body can do it some, because I think ANY human body and brain are capable of doing this to a varying degree, D or s totally aside, but it's not my forte.

A masochist, in my mind, is someone who wants the pain they are unable to sexualize, they want pain for its own sake, and are much rarer. I don't think you have to be a heavy player or want absurd amounts of pain to be a masochist - a lot of spankos are masochists in this way and it's more about discipline, atonement, and psychodrama than it is about getting off in a nether-regions sense. I was much more into this kind of thing when I did bottom - again hardly a heavy player, maybe lightweight medium by the judgement of those I consider hard players, but it was far more erotic for me to have the chance to see what my body could do and feel tough than it was something that just got me off on its own.

Now I just do vinyasa yoga once a week.

Interesting separation between the two there, and one that makes complete sense to me. I fall into the "painslut" category myself. Sometimes I crave pain, and sometimes I dread it. Occasionally, I have to force myself to take whatever the Domly type is dishing out because I know that it takes pain for me to have the kinds of hard, truly satisfying orgasms that I need. I can think of maybe twice where I've craved pain just for pain's sake, not for the mind-blowing orgasms that come with it.

B. accuses me of being a painslut all the time--even when I'm not enjoying the pain. His reasoning?

B.: "Can you cum from pain and nothing but pain?"

Me: "Yes, but...."

B.: "No 'buts.' Can you?"

Me: *Grumble* "Yes, dammit."

B.: "See? Textbook painslut!"

 

[BiBunny]

*sigh* I just retired both of mine last week - rejected - for the second time *sigh*

shall we start a deformed nipple club?

pinching them is just not the same as pulling and twinting them

*sigh*

well - at least there is always that box of needles and some ribbon

Tell me about it. All the more reason I need to get B. (or somebody) to do the needle play thing with me.

 

[WriterDom]

If you have to ask you probably are.

 

[Chicklet]

I hate pain. It scares me, it hurts, it makes me squirm and try to get away. But it makes me more aroused than anything in the universe = \

WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!?

 

[the captians wench]

I hate pain. It scares me, it hurts, it makes me squirm and try to get away. But it makes me more aroused than anything in the universe = \

WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!?

hold on....are you prepared for this....really? okay it means

You relate to pain like most "normal" people do! well sorta

I'm sorry I thru the n word at you.


*giggles*

 

[Chicklet]

normal people are aroused by things they dislike?

 

[the captians wench]

normal people are aroused by things they dislike?

well that's where the sorta comes in. *giggles*

and actually I've known a lot of people who said that they absolutely hated x but it turned them on so much. *shrug* maybe it's one of those it's so good cause it's so different things.

 

[the_pet]

If you have to ask you probably are.

I guess then i answered my own question on all counts


Thanks everybody for replying.

 

[Life_Noir]

Damn...I don't suppose "living close to me" would count as a criterion eh??

 

[myinnerslut]

i like to be spanked. i like to have my hair pulled. i like having my nipples twisted. it turns me on, makes me wet, and makes me want more. thats me normally.

every once in a while i get into a mood where i want all that A can throw at me. i want to take it all and then some. i want to HURT. thats me on a painslut day