Courage...

[honeycolored11]

I'm not a fan of online relationships, but I want to get into the d/'s world. So, I decided that the next logical step would be a munch. Yet, I'm lacking the gumption. One of my biggest concerns is being the youngest person (18) there and feeling a bit out of place. Any advice?

 

[Toa_lin]

I'm not a fan of online relationships, but I want to get into the d/'s world. So, I decided that the next logical step would be a munch. Yet, I'm lacking the gumption. One of my biggest concerns is being the youngest person (18) there and feeling a bit out of place. Any advice?

Biggest adive I can give is to try to relax, be yourself, adn have a good time.

 

[Cheshire D]

I was the youngest (at 19) at the munch I went to. The way I did it? I jumped in, made conversation, enjoyed the play when I was offered it. (Unlike most munches, which from my understanding are held in public, the one I went to was a dual play-party/munch and was at a private residence.) I had an absolute complete and utter blast. Everyone was really nice and made me feel really welcome.

Best advice? Be yourself.

 

[ChromeCollar]

The Hostess and Host of our local group that sponsers the munches makes sure to go out of the way to welcome new and beginner members. Introduce them around, keep an eye on them and make sure they get a good interaction.

I'm surprised that someone attended a dual munch/play party. The couple groups I belong to dont let new members go to the play party until they are in "good standing" with the group, having gone to a couple munches or what have you. If you can get a hold of the Host/Hostess early on and let them know you are very knew, I'd say you will be in good hands from that point onward. Relax and enjoy yourself, and get to know people. Have fun!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Though it is true that hosts of munches etc., are generally expected to be trustworthy and have your best interests in mind, just like in all areas of life, there can be the odd one or two who might not have such ideals. Best thing you need to do is to be responsible and aware just as you should be if you were going nightclubbing or any other social activity. As to the age thing, maybe you just don't need to wear it as an identity or tell anyone....there are plenty of people who do not like to reveal their age and are still accepted.....oh, and beware of those who have a desire for young and inexperienced. Gumption? Well that could be your first lesson....if you want to be part of this lifestyle in any way, you need to develop skills which enble you to get past being too shy to do anything about it, and be able to say 'no' if something does not fit with what you are comfortable with. The only way to become involved in anything in life is to actually do it. Have fun.

Catalina

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I'm not a fan of online relationships, but I want to get into the d/'s world. So, I decided that the next logical step would be a munch. Yet, I'm lacking the gumption. One of my biggest concerns is being the youngest person (18) there and feeling a bit out of place. Any advice?

First, FIND a group!
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

Then make sure that you will be allowed to attend. Many groups have a 21 and up age restriction. Other groups are TNG (The Next Generation) oriented and actively encourage younger folk to join and learn.

Good hunting!

 

[DVS]

First, FIND a group!
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

Then make sure that you will be allowed to attend. Many groups have a 21 and up age restriction. Other groups are TNG (The Next Generation) oriented and actively encourage younger folk to join and learn.

Good hunting!

And some require you to be sponsored by an active member.

Oh, one way to lessen the problem of being the only new person there...take a friend with you.

 

[Marquis]

I wouldn't expect to meet a mate at a munch, but your experience may differ.