couple of questions (sex stuff)

[OniFactor]

okay. my g/f is currently 7 months pregnant, and, although she gets horny, she's always sore. also, she lives about 3 hours away, and we only get to see a few times a month, right now (college stuff). on top of that, we've been having a hard time finding comfortable positions, since we're both not the smallest people in the world, and the extra belly gets in the way. anyone have some suggestions for how to cope with this stuff, or should we just lay off of the sex for the rest of the pregnancy?

also, i've had the fantasy of having a woman do what she pleases to me, with a strap-on for quite a while.. and i'm wondering how i might be able to introduce her to that fantasy, without totally freaking her out.. comments are appreciated!!

Oni

 

[tomboy58]

Hey Oni...

Good Luck w/ the pregnancy and all of your other "factors"

I know when I was pregnant I was more.. horny than ever. but yes the position thing can get uncomfortable. Try having her lying on her side and doing her from behind. Or try having her on her stomach But use a pillow as a support -like a wedge under the lower belly (or hip area) to help support the baby area up and kinda push the ass more up. And then you do it from behind.

We now experiment with ass play and such stuff
I would say bring it up slow and see how she reacts. When you are "hot and into the moment" you are less likely to go 'eewwee' due to social teachings.
Kinda ask her to play with your balls and then play with your ass or slide one finger in it while she sucks on you or strokes on you. Sliding a finger in your ass doesnt seem so "out of the norm" and can be a great way to break in to bigger and better things This is how it started for me and I can say A finger in a guys ass can hit a very erotic spot while toying w/ his cock.

Start there and see how it goes
Good Luck,
Tomboy58

 

[SweetErika]

I'm sure you've already done this, but check with her doctor for any restrictions pertaining to sex, especially as the pregnancy progresses. I don't have any position suggestions, but if you do a google search on "sex pregnancy positions" you'll come up with a bunch of suggestions. Here's one: http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/sexuality/a/pregsex.htm

Perhaps to ease into the domination, you could ask her to spend the evening telling you what to do to please her. Or even trade off doing so.

Thinking back, I was most comfortable using a small vibe on my hubby at first. We worked up to fingers and larger toys gradually. In time, I'd imagine introducing a strap on wouldn't be such a big deal.

 

[tomboy58]

Hi SweetErika, Hope all is great w/ you.

Very Good Advice! - To check w/ the dr. I didn't think of that - But especially if there is consistent soreness - I did not have that myself and of course you are better to be safe than sorry w/ your baby.

I guess we used the small vibe second and that is a very good way to start. Dont forget Lube is important
I think we moved into it with the finger because I was playing with his balls while going down on him and would could tell it felt good as I moved and rubbed back, so it was just natural to just 'toy' with the area a little. and then gently slide around with the finger without actually 'going there' yet.

The idea of Trading fantasies and pleasures is a great one and a way to gently or slowly see how she (and each other) react to what the other one says. I know I used to worry about Him thinking I was crazy or a sex maniac out of the norm if I told him my fantasies - but I think it turns out we think more alike than you would think at first - people are just "trained" to be afraid to open up.

Good luck

 

[invisigirl]

Having her lay with her butt on the edge of the bed and a pillow behind her back might work as long as she doesn't get breathless on her back. You could support her legs with your hands while you stand in front of her.

Makes me a little horny just thinking about it!