Could my meds be preventing me from having an orgasm?

[DragonCat91]

Necessary info:

Age: 26
Gender: female
Diagnoses: Type 2 Diabetes and Autism Spectrum/Aspergers
Medications: Metformin, Guanfacine(generic intuniv), Aripripazole(generic abilify), Vyvanze, Fluvoxamine/Luvox

I read that anti depressants can make it difficult to orgasm, and I think Luvox is kinda an anti depressant. I also heard that diabetes can have an impact, but I just heard about a guy who had it who had it bad enough that he needed dialysis, of course he couldn't get it up...my diabetes is pretty much under control.

I can get pretty wet and I'll get to the point where I feel twitching and sometimes throbbing down there, but I've never felt anything I think is an orgasm. I have this dildo I made out of a stiff plastic tube and some duct tape(to give it texture and thickness), but most of the time I end up just using my hands to stimulate my clit. When the twitching starts, I tend to get sensitive down there and further touching gets uncomfortable.

Am I doing it wrong? The homemade dildo can be made thicker if you think that would help. I might be able to get an actual sex toy someday but for now, my mother controls my checkbook. I don't have much disposable income and my mom's afraid I'll overdraw the account. Yeah. She's...kinda babying me. I'm working toward full control of the checking account. Long story short, anything you suggest as far as sex toys must be able to be made from common everyday materials.

I'm also otherwise a virgin. Would be nice to get this sorted out before I'm in a relationship. I know there's probably no doctors here with knowledge on meds and stuff like that, but anyone else run into issues like this? If so, how did you solve them?

 

[Melancholy_Baby]

Yes, medication and type 2 Diabetes can effect you sexually. I'd talk to your doctor about it.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

Yes, medication and type 2 Diabetes can effect you sexually. I'd talk to your doctor about it.

This... Do this. By the way much of my life when I wasn't actually having sex with a male, using a cheap dildo, or vibrator, I used a regular ballpoint pen like you see at banks and other business counters. It's not how big around it is for me, it's how I use it.

I'm probably older than your mother and been having sex way before Lit rules say so I am tallking from experience. Talk to your doctor and have fun with whatever you use safely.

 

[xxromanceguy]

Luvox is a (SSRI) , Selective Seratonin Reuptake Inhibitor. Like Prozac, Celexa, Paxil, and Zoloft. These antidepressants effect Seratonin levels and can cause anorgasmia, difficulty in achieving orgasm, or changes in orgasm. Now, I see you also take Ability, which has similiar side effects, this increases the possibilty of side effects by taking both medications. Decreased libido, anorgasmia, and in males ED and orgasmic changes like less intense orgasms and decrease in ejaculate.
That being said, DM also causes problems sexually and with autism spectrum disorders there can be strange effects on sexuality.... either one of these could be the case. I would talk to my M.D. about it and see if changes could be made in your medication regimen.
I took Prozac after a divorce several years ago and while I could maintain an erection, It was VERY difficult to achieve orgasm and when I could it was diminished from before the Prozac. Like you, the pleasure was there but getting over the edge, if you will, was difficult if not impossible. This might have been good for partners but was horrible for me.... talk to the doc and hope it gets better for you. It took awhile after I stopped the Prozac to get back to normal but it finally happened.

 

[Wordsworth]

The antidepressant is a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor. Best known drug in that class is fluoxetine which is also known as Prozac. Can definitely delay or prevent orgasm.

It will probably be an awkward conversation with the doctor but do have it. There are various other arrangements of the same drug that may have a different effect on you personally. It's worth trying different ones but do not do that on your own; do not cut your dose on your own. Talk to your doctor.

 

[Mqoi]

Male here, but I was prescribed Celexa once. I'd get some of the hardest erections I ever had that would last for hours, but I couldn't cum. After a week or so of that, I quit taking it.

 

[Icy1]

Sorry about all your health issues. Medications can definitely play a part. You could speak to your doctor if you're concerned.
I'd recommend getting a vibrator for play. There are many inexpensive ones you can start with. They are widely available and you're not going to be risking infection using them. They are designed to be easily cleaned.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

just

From just the content of your post it appears you are close--but that doesn't get you where you'd like to be. You must be very frustrated in several ways, perhaps. I highly recommend a vibrator and, from reading, it appears that the Hitachi Magic Wand might get the job done. Don't you have some muscles that get sore and tight that could use same massage?
Bless you.

 

[DragonCat91]

Well, now I have a plan on how to proceed. Get to the point where my mom turns over the checkbook, buy a vibrator, and then when I find myself a man, talk to my doctor. Seems the least intrusive way to go.

My mom caught me with no pants and undies sitting on my bed with the laptop once. It was kinda horrible. She makes sure she doesn't drop in uninvited or calls first now. Long story short, she was super disturbed then, so I don't want to disturb her more by asking to buy a vibrator.

@LivinRFantasy: OMG! A ballpoint pen? You didn't get ink up there? I'd like tips, if you don't mind. Maybe I can use this homemade dildo yet!

 

[TheFatGuy2016]

I would echo what others have said about talking with your doctor. About that though, with these kind of meds you should really be followed by a specialist (psychiatrist or neurologist) if you are not already. Don't be embarrassed, they have seen and heard it all.

 

[DragonCat91]

I do have a psychiatrist, yeah. That's the reason I have the meds in the first place. Been on them for years...pretty much since 1st grade I've always been on something. The diabetes is more recent, found out I had that after I graduated highschool in 2009.

But I attached the thing I have, beside a pencil for size scale. It's cut on the bottom because I tried attaching it to an old electric shaver to make it vibrate and it didn't work that great. There's some aluminum foil under the duct tape at the top to simulate the tip of a penis, if it might help I can do the same thing on the middle to give it a better shaft. I'd like to keep trying on my own here until I'm in a relationship and have a better reason to want to orgasm other than just being horny. I already told the psychiatrist I wasn't on birth control, wasn't sexually active. Because just fooling around like this can't get me pregnant or STDs so I don't think it would count.

Ladies! Any tips? Any way to get me over the edge as is?

 

[DrRickMarshall]

That homemade toy looks kimda painful! Have you ever tried a shower massager?

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

do?

Do you have an electric toothbrush? Rr access to any of thee:
https://www.pcmag.com/feature/201411/10-weirdest-vibrating-devices
Or access to a store for these:
https://www.walmart.com/c/kp/vibrating-massagers

 

[Bottomlover]

I had a GF who used an electric toothbrush when she flew anywhere. You can also buy low cost vibrators in the feminine hygiene aisle in most supermarkets these days.

Talk to your doctor about the meds. This is a common issue that doctors deal with constantly. I know it's hard to break the ice and talk about it, but your doctor is most interested in your total well being and this is just a part of your physical/mental health. It is frustrating to not orgasm when you masturbate. Your doctor may change your meds or suggest a different schedule for taking them.

Masturbation is a very normal thing. Most doctors will encourage you to do it as often as you wish. Don't feel guilty about your fantasies.

 

[DragonCat91]

Well, I guess next time I see the doctor, if I remember, I will bring it up. It helps that she's female. But the issue really is, I don't want to freak my mom out. Maybe I can come up with some fake reason for reducing the luvox or whatever.

Like I said before, my mom caught me masturbating before. She caught me with my pants and underwear off sitting on the bed in front of the laptop. It seemed to really disturb her. I don't want to disturb her more, you know?

I will schedule an appointment with the doctor so I don't forget. No, the homemade thing isn't painful, like I said I get pretty wet so yeah. But thanks for the links and I have heard of the electric toothbrush thing.