Correct me if I'm wrong,

[S.Daedalus]

Stephen - it's not necessarily a recent thing - just something that's irked me for a long while. Brought to mind by actions of some lately - but hey, there's plenty of fish in the sea right?

I have fish in my fish tank...does that count?

 

[lavendar]

Yeah Hanns - tell me how you treat them good. I don't believe for a second that what you show on here is anything close to what you're like irl.

IGNORE LIST

 

[Freya]

IGNORE LIST

My thread - don't read it if you don't like it. Hanns isn't an asshole to me.


Stephen - just be careful, I hear they explode if you get rough with them.

 

[Guest]

 

[Freya]

Yes I do, but in a nice way

hey bitch....get me a beer...but in a nice way

I spend lots of cash on them


I get bored easy...about 6 months and i'm looking for a new one

Well, you're young yet - one day you might just find that one that hooks your interest for a longer time.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Think it's an ego boost Rose? A power trip having women (or men as the case may be) chasing them?

A Disclaimer: Freya started this thread in regard to certain men she has had experiences with, so I will continue to refer to that in this vein. I do agree and acknowledge, as did she several times, that women do this too, however.

For some men I have encountered, yes I do think so. And what does that say? If someone needs to boost their ego by how many women they can have chasing them, he is a very shallow man, indeed. And in the end, not worthy of you (or me, for that matter.)

 

[Guest]

 

[DarkAngel]

*sits in corner with popcorn*

This could be interesting.

 

[Freya]

A Disclaimer: Freya started this thread in regard to certain men she has had experiences with, so I will continue to refer to that in this vein. I do agree and acknowledge, as did she several times, that women do this too, however.

For some men I have encountered, yes I do think so. And what does that say? If someone needs to boost their ego by how many women they can have chasing them, he is a very shallow man, indeed. And in the end, not worthy of you (or me, for that matter.)

Exactly - good point. Thank you.


Love your AV btw.


Now I have to go to work - thanks everyone for sharing your opinions and views. This wasn't meant to be a man bash, so don't take it as such. Like I said, I dont' get romantically or sexually involved with women, so I can't speak for their actions in the same way I can for men. And thanks Hanns, for your comments as well.

 

[Freya]

yeah Kim.

She is a paki though and doesn't like me


<hi kim>

Is it her religion that prevents her from forming a relationship with you? Or just a personality conflict? Do you know her from the internet?


I have to go, but I'll check back tonight - I'm interested to see how you think on this.

 

[miles]

Is it her religion that prevents her from forming a relationship with you? Or just a personality conflict? Do you know her from the internet?


I have to go, but I'll check back tonight - I'm interested to see how you think on this.

God, I hope that was sarcasm.

 

[Guest]

 

[teddybear4play]

So that's why you haven't called.

Thanks for the . . . you know.

TB4p

Should I be insulted that Freya is replying to Hanns and not to me?

TB4p

 

[glamorilla]

top three survival skills to possess in the big city:

1)knowing how to tell someone you aren't interested.

2)knowing when to leave a club or party

3)securing cash up front.

 

[calypso_21]

A Disclaimer: Freya started this thread in regard to certain men she has had experiences with, so I will continue to refer to that in this vein. I do agree and acknowledge, as did she several times, that women do this too, however.

For some men I have encountered, yes I do think so. And what does that say? If someone needs to boost their ego by how many women they can have chasing them, he is a very shallow man, indeed. And in the end, not worthy of you (or me, for that matter.)

I agree with this. I've encountered way too many men like this in the past and it has made me extremely cautious now.

 

[candlelight]

I agree with you completely. I think hurt and rejection are twice as deep in any relationship or friendship when the other party reverts to childish avoidance type behavior. We're all adults. Treat the other person with respect. I think anyone can handle disappointment much better if given respect and honesty. It's the lies and misrepresentations that bring on the anger, frustration and hurt. Whew, didn't know I had all that typing in me! If your feelings were hurt by someone Freya, I only know you from reading this board but you've shown a lot of kindness and friendship to many people and I think you deserve the same.

 

[Freya]

God, I hope that was sarcasm.

Why? Because I was polite to him? He's never been an ass to me, why do I need to act like one to him?

TB4P - sorry hun, I didn't mean to ignore you.

CL and Glam have it right I think. Those who answered, "Well women do it too", does that make it ok when men do it then? If it's something that you dislike being done to you by another, why then perpetuate it by doing it yourself?

Caly - I'm with you on this. There's way too many of that type around - in real life and especially on here. But you know what? It's their loss in the end - think of what they are missing out on because of their oversized egos.

Hanns - if she still talks to you after 2 1/12 years, I'd think she probably doesn't hate you as much as she'd like to pretend.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I agree with this. I've encountered way too many men like this in the past and it has made me extremely cautious now.

Caution is most definately the name of the game, you are so right.

I find however, that it does not take long to "see" people as they really are. I have been pm'd by men (most, I had never had any contact on the boards with) and when I didn't fall into immediate cybersex chat, I never heard from them again.

I have been told by a couple of male friends that they too, had similar experiences with women online.

Personally I think that cybersex, phonesex or real life sex is something that one does not fall into causually. But that is my set of values and what others choose to do and how they do it, is none of my business.

If you choose to be causual about it, then you should expect to be treated causually, too. I guess that is the reason that that type of treatment makes me (and Freya as well as others, I think) feel as we do, since we do not treat others in that fashion.

 

[Freya]

I love those men - the ones who only speak to you when they want some form of cyber sex, and can't give you the time of day any other time.

I've learned to expect very little from a good portion of the people online - with the rare exception of a few amazing ones I've met, most are either very fickle, untrustworthy or playing some form of game. But on the other hand, except for a select few, I don't give much of myself to anyone either.

 

[penguindance]

 

[calypso_21]

Caution is most definately the name of the game, you are so right...

...Personally I think that cybersex, phonesex or real life sex is something that one does not fall into causually. But that is my set of values and what others choose to do and how they do it, is none of my business.

If you choose to be causual about it, then you should expect to be treated causually, too. I guess that is the reason that that type of treatment makes me (and Freya as well as others, I think) feel as we do, since we do not treat others in that fashion.

I agree with you...as I do not enter into anything "lightly". True they are my values. I will not judge others by their actions but don't cry wolf when you invited him in willingly. Not directed at Freya or anyone else just my thoughts.

~Freya...what you stated is very true.

 

[Freya]

Freya, honey, it's been a long damn time since I knew a man I could use the word "real" to describe. It really is quite frustrating, isn't it? Is being real so much to ask?

You'd almost think so, wouldn't you? I try to be pretty honest and forthcoming most of the time, so maybe I judge people by my own actions, and maybe that's not fair. I used to have a much rosier view of people, but it's getting pretty clouded lately - my trust level is dropping by the second. The sad thing is, I think it's my own instincts and feelings I'm learning to distrust.

 

[islandman]

You'd almost think so, wouldn't you? I try to be pretty honest and forthcoming most of the time, so maybe I judge people by my own actions, and maybe that's not fair. I used to have a much rosier view of people, but it's getting pretty clouded lately - my trust level is dropping by the second. The sad thing is, I think it's my own instincts and feelings I'm learning to distrust.

shitte. no wonder you're no longer answering my IMs.

 

[Freya]

shitte. no wonder you're no longer answering my IMs.

I do too, butthead. Anytime you message me, I answer. If I'm home.

 

[Lancecastor]

Fridayguy?

Well, he barely made you moan, so it's no great loss.

~or~

Perhaps he's still speechless in awe from the encounter.