Coples........do you sleep in separate beds??/why?

[naughtoldperv]

Couples........do you sleep in separate beds??/why?

Both my wife and I are noisy sleepers, only she won't admit that she snores.........I admit that I do snore and we usually nudge each other awake to stop the snoring. Last night she woke me up in a screaming rage and stomped out of the bedroom to sleep in the living room and is threatening to start sleeping in a RV we have parked outside.
Just wondering if this is the beginning of the end of our relationship?? Our love making has dwindled to once every 2 weeks at most and we are both stressed from work and health issues.

 

[stiv837]

We no longer have sex an sleep better alone.

 

[pplwatching]

It doesn't have to be the end of the road, but not sleeping well combined with stress and health issues is certainly bound to do a number on your marriage if you don't get ahead of it.

First, you may want to see if one or both of you has sleep apnea. My wife and I both use CPAP machines. The noise from the machine is very minimal compared to the snoring. In addition to being able to sleep with your partner, sleep problems are linked to many other health problems.

If a Doc gives you a clean bill of health apnea-wise, then there are snore guards that come in different applications. I used a snore guard for a while, before being diagnosed with moderate apnea.

 

[Nezhul]

I always was a huge advocate for sleeping separately most of the nights. Ideally, each of the pair has their own room with a big enough bed to host both of you, should you want to sleep together.

Myself, for example, I know I get sweaty, especially around the neck and sometimes on the scalp. So that's not really fun to sleep with for anyone, I would guess. I also sleep very lightly and can wake up really easily, so I'm not a huge fan of sleeping with somebody else in my bed.

I don't know. I think it's just healthier to have a separate bed for yourself.

 

[SissySalina]

She and sissy sleep in the same bed but sissy sleep at Her feet. Sometime there is cuddling and other times She wants someone to hold Her. Then there are those times when Her lovers need sissy's attention or to be cleaned up by sissy so sissy needs to be nearby.

 

[bicuriohub]

The only time we sleep separately is when she falls asleep on the couch and I tend to let her rest there instead of waking her up which she prefers otherwise of course we sleep together every night. Regardless of how much sex we’ve had recently we both still love wrapping up in eachother and keeping contact all night

 

[Bigspurt]

My wife and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for years. We both sleep better which is the whole idea. The occasional hotel room has us together but the HVAC unit is loud enough that it drowns out the sleep noise. Our sex life is maybe a once a week date and those sessions don’t last very long.

 

[KimGordon67]

I have the idea of being in separate beds. Me and my husband never did that unless we were super pissed with each other. Through a baby, years of barely having sex, and even after separating.

 

[Jada59]

When I was married, we slept together until I was pregnant. He kicked me in the stomach. Not likely on purpose but still, I felt unsafe in the bed with him. I moved to the spare room and that was the end of that. We eventually divorced.

 

[CuttingEdge]

Me and my wife have a very close relationship, yet we sleep in separate beds.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

We only sleep in separate beds when we both have dates over. Gals for her, guys with me.

 

[13Fantasies]

Yes. We are cosleepers

 

[Wingz1992]

Both my wife and I are noisy sleepers, only she won't admit that she snores.........I admit that I do snore and we usually nudge each other awake to stop the snoring. Last night she woke me up in a screaming rage and stomped out of the bedroom to sleep in the living room and is threatening to start sleeping in a RV we have parked outside.
Just wondering if this is the beginning of the end of our relationship?? Our love making has dwindled to once every 2 weeks at most and we are both stressed from work and health issues.

Lots of people sleep apart for a number of reasons. They can be from health to comfort to different sleeping patterns. This doesn't necessarily mean the end of your relationship. If one or neither of you is getting good sleep then that can add stress and cause problems. I know when I share a bed with someone I have to have my own covers. I am not good about sharing covers at all.

 

[Winniejames5432]

4 years

My wife and i have slept apart for about 4 years since the birth of our last kid. We are still going strong after 15 years but sex has to be better planned now.

 

[coati]

My gf and I have mostly slept in separate houses during our 14-year relationship, because we work and live in separate towns. But when we see each other on weekends, we sleep in the same bed. After we orgasm, I stay inside of her for as long as possible, which often turns into a spoon or scissors position of an hour or two.

I think living in separate houses has helped to keep the spark alive.

 

[PattiJolene]

We sleep together, l hope it never gets to separate rooms. l enjoy cuddling and other things throughout the night.

 

[LupusDei]

I know a couple (OK, my parents) who don't sleep together for over twenty years by now.

His room is a darkish corner on the ground floor, cross between office and a man cave with rugged antique furniture, cohabitated by two large wolves.

Her room is a spacious, very well illuminated attic in light pastel tones with functional Scandinavian furniture dominated by straight lines, and it is shoes-not-allowed zone.

Yes, those two rooms are in the same house, just a straight flight of stairs apart.

She routinely fall asleep before 10 pm; he usually don't go to bed before after 1 am. He snorts. She is extremely thin sleeper, and have difficulty to fall back asleep if disturbed. Did I mention the dogs? They often want to check noises outside in the middle of the night.

His door is always wide open, even at night. Her door is always shut; visitors -- other than my nieces, her granddaughters -- admissible only by prior invitation, even for technical maintenance if any such is needed.

So yeah, it wouldn't work for them very well to share a bed. When the house was renovated that attic was designated as mom's room straight away, and dad never was more than a guest up there, although he tried to live there at first, but couldn't feel at home and moved (or rather stayed) downstairs to sleep in what was nominally meant to be the office, but actually was dad's room from the start.

If anything, it repaired and strengthened their relationship when they separated, as far I can tell. Especially it helped mom to gain (or regain?) composure, self-confidence and equanimity; and interestingly, now it is she who sometimes sneak in to the dad's office.

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Grandpa and Grandma, they slept together till the very end, her last breath, literally. They were madly in love, in constant affect like teenagers. Too bad she unexpectedly died so young, at only 72. While everyone used to assume it will be the other way around before, Grandpa outlived her by two decades and missed her dearly.