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[Bjerget]

Optimism only goes so far, I know that and I have seen to many people drop off and away to believe it will not continue to happen. I just hope that people can get information if that is what they are seeking, or a friend for a while. It will always hurt when they leave or burn you, and that is something that we have to deal with and move on from. I won't expect anything from anyone though, just keep my chin up

No, I don't enjoy falling just have a tendency to fall a bit more than most, clumsy? Maybe, but the injury in my head has a bit to do with it. I like a good challenge, something that is fun with a chance of success and a lot of laughs

Ferrets can be fun and cuddle well from what I hear. I have never had one though.

Well you seem level-headed about all of this. I think you'll be fine.

Oh a natural clutz, eh? I am also, which is why I am suspect about this walking about blindfolded business. I know I'd be the one to fall and break something important lol. I have enough times already! Care to talk about your head injury, or is that a forbidden topic?

They are adorable! And amazing to cuddle! I love them so much, and I want a few more but can't do it to the lease I'm under now. Do you have any pets at all?

 

[rlaflamme]

Well you seem level-headed about all of this. I think you'll be fine.

Oh a natural clutz, eh? I am also, which is why I am suspect about this walking about blindfolded business. I know I'd be the one to fall and break something important lol. I have enough times already! Care to talk about your head injury, or is that a forbidden topic?

They are adorable! And amazing to cuddle! I love them so much, and I want a few more but can't do it to the lease I'm under now. Do you have any pets at all?

I try to keep an open mind the best I can. I know people come and go and know what the site name means to many people lol.

Nothing is forbidden really. I smacked my head rather hard. I was responding to an assistance needed call and when running a door opened and I had the displeasure of hitting the blade of it. I cut my brain and concussed 90% of it. It is pretty wild. Much more information than that and I might have to invite you to my message box and my reply might get buried though. That is where I get a bit iffy in the public domain.

You can be clutzy, we can hold each other up lol, or run into a wall together lol.

I have a few pets, 4 cats, 3 dogs, a couple betta fish, a turtle, 2 rats, a leopard gecko and a pink toe tarantula. We keep busy lol.

 

[Bjerget]

I try to keep an open mind the best I can. I know people come and go and know what the site name means to many people lol.

Nothing is forbidden really. I smacked my head rather hard. I was responding to an assistance needed call and when running a door opened and I had the displeasure of hitting the blade of it. I cut my brain and concussed 90% of it. It is pretty wild. Much more information than that and I might have to invite you to my message box and my reply might get buried though. That is where I get a bit iffy in the public domain.

You can be clutzy, we can hold each other up lol, or run into a wall together lol.

I have a few pets, 4 cats, 3 dogs, a couple betta fish, a turtle, 2 rats, a leopard gecko and a pink toe tarantula. We keep busy lol.

*Winks* Open mind and closed heart makes for a brilliant combo. Words to live by!

That sounds horrific and terrifying! Are you okay now? For what it's worth, you seem okay! But yeah wow, that must have been awful. I don't actually need more info than that, only what you're comfortable sharing. I wouldn't want to discuss my convalescence publicly either, I suppose. I've gotten good at only mentioning publicly what I'm comfortable with. You should too.

Yeah I'm afraid my clutzy might end up killing or maiming yours. We better be mighty careful.

*looks stunned* That.... is a lot of animals! Does your home smell like wet fur all the time? Just asking for a friend... lol

 

[rlaflamme]

*Winks* Open mind and closed heart makes for a brilliant combo. Words to live by!

That sounds horrific and terrifying! Are you okay now? For what it's worth, you seem okay! But yeah wow, that must have been awful. I don't actually need more info than that, only what you're comfortable sharing. I wouldn't want to discuss my convalescence publicly either, I suppose. I've gotten good at only mentioning publicly what I'm comfortable with. You should too.

Yeah I'm afraid my clutzy might end up killing or maiming yours. We better be mighty careful.

*looks stunned* That.... is a lot of animals! Does your home smell like wet fur all the time? Just asking for a friend... lol

One must always tread carefully on a huge site like this, trust half of what you hear even if you keep hope

I do okay with it, I am a domestic engineer now (refuse to say stay-home-dad) and do what I can. I try not to let myself go when giving information to the public areas, just like to keep it simple

I think we will be okay, we can get a few people to keep an eye on us when we fall, they will either laugh or catch us....

Yeah we have a houseful lol. It does not smell. Keep things clean and organized. Most people don't know I have that many.

 

[Bjerget]

One must always tread carefully on a huge site like this, trust half of what you hear even if you keep hope

I do okay with it, I am a domestic engineer now (refuse to say stay-home-dad) and do what I can. I try not to let myself go when giving information to the public areas, just like to keep it simple

I think we will be okay, we can get a few people to keep an eye on us when we fall, they will either laugh or catch us....

Yeah we have a houseful lol. It does not smell. Keep things clean and organized. Most people don't know I have that many.

Mmmhmm indeed.

Domestic engineer! lol that's great. Kids are great, especially when they're someone else's. *Grin* Nah that's not entirely true. They're also great after they go to sleep. Are you also the manager of organising and mending as well? And the food production consultant? I'm going to have to up my game as manager of the household if there are more affluent positions available.

I'd rather fall with as few people around as possible. Last time I did fall it made a huge scene and is still the butt of jokes at work as often as they can fit them in. So even if I end of breaking my tailbone, I think I'd rather crawl to the hospital than ask for help from someone I know.

I wish I could say the same for two measly ferrets- boy did those little things stink to the heavens! No amount of cleaning or changing the litter could keep their musky scents at bay.

 

[rlaflamme]

Mmmhmm indeed.

Domestic engineer! lol that's great. Kids are great, especially when they're someone else's. *Grin* Nah that's not entirely true. They're also great after they go to sleep. Are you also the manager of organising and mending as well? And the food production consultant? I'm going to have to up my game as manager of the household if there are more affluent positions available.

I'd rather fall with as few people around as possible. Last time I did fall it made a huge scene and is still the butt of jokes at work as often as they can fit them in. So even if I end of breaking my tailbone, I think I'd rather crawl to the hospital than ask for help from someone I know.

I wish I could say the same for two measly ferrets- boy did those little things stink to the heavens! No amount of cleaning or changing the litter could keep their musky scents at bay.

I like to keep it simple and try to have as much fun as I can

Kids are better when you can send them home lol. I am the manager of all those fun things and am getting better as a meal maker and cooker, although I would not recommend anyone compare my meals to a decent cook lol.

So we can fall together and just laugh at one another as we crawl to the hospital for some repairs lol.

I have heard ferrets can me quiet the challenge to keep their odors under control, that is one of the reasons I do not have any lol.

 

[Bjerget]

I like to keep it simple and try to have as much fun as I can

Kids are better when you can send them home lol. I am the manager of all those fun things and am getting better as a meal maker and cooker, although I would not recommend anyone compare my meals to a decent cook lol.

So we can fall together and just laugh at one another as we crawl to the hospital for some repairs lol.

I have heard ferrets can me quiet the challenge to keep their odors under control, that is one of the reasons I do not have any lol.

Simple and fun is right up my alley. I like you already. What else do you do for fun?

I'm not the worlds best chef either, but I can make a mean lasagne and anything else with aubergine in it. I'm also great at making waffles and eggs and pancakes. These are all the important food groups in my household xD You don't need to compare it to anyone else's food, as long as it is edible.

Okay okay I give. Let's get dangerous (and then quickly to the hospital on a gurney!)

Yes they are marsupials and as such, they have very distinct scent exuding glands. But they're adorable and loving and very loyal and playful. They really do make great pets, all things considered.

 

[rlaflamme]

Simple and fun is right up my alley. I like you already. What else do you do for fun?

I'm not the worlds best chef either, but I can make a mean lasagne and anything else with aubergine in it. I'm also great at making waffles and eggs and pancakes. These are all the important food groups in my household xD You don't need to compare it to anyone else's food, as long as it is edible.

Okay okay I give. Let's get dangerous (and then quickly to the hospital on a gurney!)

Yes they are marsupials and as such, they have very distinct scent exuding glands. But they're adorable and loving and very loyal and playful. They really do make great pets, all things considered.

Simple and fun is the way to be. I tend to not expect a ton from people, get some words, have a decent conversation here and there, maybe get some ideas or new ways to look at things and be on my way. It makes life interesting.

I like to sit by the firepit, have a glass of whiskey and chill. Of course it is raining today so that won't happen. I'll hope for tomorrow.

I am working on learning new recipes to try and see what happens. I will go with eggs, pancakes and waffles though, throw some French toast in there as well

So are we closing our eyes or do we need to get the blindfolds? I hope we don't trip on the gurney lol.

A lot of people think rats stink, but they are actually very clean and very loving. Some of the most lovable pets I have ever had were rats, cute little suckers

 

[JohnJx]

As someone who tends to look for PM connection rather than posting on the boards, this is a fascinating and insightful thread.

 

[rlaflamme]

As someone who tends to look for PM connection rather than posting on the boards, this is a fascinating and insightful thread.

The forums area wild place and putting a lot of yourself out there in them can be a bit intimidating.
I am glad you are enjoying the thread

 

[MrDevereaux]

The forums area wild place and putting a lot of yourself out there in them can be a bit intimidating.
I am glad you are enjoying the thread

One of the more interesting.

 

[rlaflamme]

One of the more interesting.

Thank you. It has been fun watching the replies and comments on this. I am happy with how far it has gone

 

[Reed8]

The forums area wild place and putting a lot of yourself out there in them can be a bit intimidating.
I am glad you are enjoying the thread

For me this site has been a community of people in which I have gone to when my irl community doesn't offer certain perspectives I need on a particular day. I tend to be more of a lurker than a poster. IRL I am shy (unless I have a few drinks) and often keep to myself. However, I have enjoyed the banter between individuals that have similar views on life, lust and heartbreak. Part of the reason I lurk stems more from exactly what you say - intimidation.

I wear my masks to keep from revealing a level of vulnerability to quick witted, well thought out comments that have the potential to make me feel small or inadequate.

 

[rlaflamme]

For me this site has been a community of people in which I have gone to when my irl community doesn't offer certain perspectives I need on a particular day. I tend to be more of a lurker than a poster. IRL I am shy (unless I have a few drinks) and often keep to myself. However, I have enjoyed the banter between individuals that have similar views on life, lust and heartbreak. Part of the reason I lurk stems more from exactly what you say - intimidation.

I wear my masks to keep from revealing a level of vulnerability to quick witted, well thought out comments that have the potential to make me feel small or inadequate.

Which is what makes a site like this good and bad. We can open up to things we could not open up to in a face to face discussion, for whatever reason, but we also try to avoid the slamming of our intimate thoughts. When we type and hit the submit button it is there for the cyber world to see and to judge, but the cyber world does not really know who we are. It gives a sense of security even though it leaves you a bit vulnerable as the same time.

 

[Reed8]

Which is what makes a site like this good and bad. We can open up to things we could not open up to in a face to face discussion, for whatever reason, but we also try to avoid the slamming of our intimate thoughts. When we type and hit the submit button it is there for the cyber world to see and to judge, but the cyber world does not really know who we are. It gives a sense of security even though it leaves you a bit vulnerable as the same time.

I often forget that a shield of anonymity exists in this place. The intimate thoughts and desires that do get discussed by me often lack the wholeness of understanding needed to present them correctly with words. When judgement does come in the form of misunderstanding, I step back and try to reflect on what has been said. This is where I try to practice empathy. Putting myself into other peoples shoes by being mindful of their feelings and insecurities (if they are known). My only hope is that the person that I am reaching out to practices empathy too.

With that said, agendas need to be considered. While it may not be fair to the other person to try and determine what their agenda is, I think that it plays a part in how vulnerable a person decides they want to be.

 

[rlaflamme]

I often forget that a shield of anonymity exists in this place. The intimate thoughts and desires that do get discussed by me often lack the wholeness of understanding needed to present them correctly with words. When judgement does come in the form of misunderstanding, I step back and try to reflect on what has been said. This is where I try to practice empathy. Putting myself into other peoples shoes by being mindful of their feelings and insecurities (if they are known). My only hope is that the person that I am reaching out to practices empathy too.

With that said, agendas need to be considered. While it may not be fair to the other person to try and determine what their agenda is, I think that it plays a part in how vulnerable a person decides they want to be.

We rarely truly know who we are talking to here, and there are some people that have met IRL or through the phone or whatever, but when you start, you don't know, which can be good as you have a perceived person before you. With words on a page it is easy to misunderstand what someone is saying, you don't have the fluctuations n tone or the face expressions to go with the words so you lose that element. The hope is, if they don't understand or take it a certain way, that they would ask about it rather than lash out. But you never know. Just hope.

Agendas are interesting and although many people say they don't have one, most do. Everyone has an agenda to why they are here, whether it is as simple as getting a good laugh to as intricate as to find a sexual partner, it's there, even if they don't know it.

 

[GeekyhubbyUK]

I try to keep an open mind the best I can. I know people come and go and know what the site name means to many people lol.

Nothing is forbidden really. I smacked my head rather hard. I was responding to an assistance needed call and when running a door opened and I had the displeasure of hitting the blade of it. I cut my brain and concussed 90% of it. It is pretty wild. Much more information than that and I might have to invite you to my message box and my reply might get buried though. That is where I get a bit iffy in the public domain.

You can be clutzy, we can hold each other up lol, or run into a wall together lol.

I have a few pets, 4 cats, 3 dogs, a couple betta fish, a turtle, 2 rats, a leopard gecko and a pink toe tarantula. We keep busy lol.

Wow flame that sounds pretty messed up! And that's coming from someone who is accident prone. My family put bets on when I would get injured on my wedding day, they were fools as I only got injured the next morning and almost lost a finger!

I hope your recovery is speedy, these things have a great way of reminding us that we are mortal.

 

[rlaflamme]

Wow flame that sounds pretty messed up! And that's coming from someone who is accident prone. My family put bets on when I would get injured on my wedding day, they were fools as I only got injured the next morning and almost lost a finger!

I hope your recovery is speedy, these things have a great way of reminding us that we are mortal.

Lol, yeah it was a wild ride. Strange things happen all the time, this was my big strange thing I guess. I am glad you didn't get injured on your wedding day, sorry about your finger following it though.

Thank you for the well wishes

 

[Reed8]

We rarely truly know who we are talking to here, and there are some people that have met IRL or through the phone or whatever, but when you start, you don't know, which can be good as you have a perceived person before you. With words on a page it is easy to misunderstand what someone is saying, you don't have the fluctuations n tone or the face expressions to go with the words so you lose that element. The hope is, if they don't understand or take it a certain way, that they would ask about it rather than lash out. But you never know. Just hope.

Agendas are interesting and although many people say they don't have one, most do. Everyone has an agenda to why they are here, whether it is as simple as getting a good laugh to as intricate as to find a sexual partner, it's there, even if they don't know it.

I agree with you. The missing ability to watch someones facial expressions and body cues can only give half the picture. These expressions and mannerisms can often lead to subtle clues that make understanding a bit easier. Luckily, for me I haven't had many lash out based on what I have said on the screen. I appreciate that most people are generally considerate and want to be in social environments where sharing of common interests can be discussed or argued about.

My personal agenda changes all the time when I am here or else where. Introspection of my own personal needs and wants comes into play when I consider what I say or do. However, I do not just want to take from a situation. I genuinely want to offer something of myself as well. It may be a hurdle that I need to eradicate. But I can't help it. Any relationship to me whether short term or long term has to be two sided. I could be wrong in this as I know many people who are willing to give more than they receive.

 

[rlaflamme]

I agree with you. The missing ability to watch someones facial expressions and body cues can only give half the picture. These expressions and mannerisms can often lead to subtle clues that make understanding a bit easier. Luckily, for me I haven't had many lash out based on what I have said on the screen. I appreciate that most people are generally considerate and want to be in social environments where sharing of common interests can be discussed or argued about.

My personal agenda changes all the time when I am here or else where. Introspection of my own personal needs and wants comes into play when I consider what I say or do. However, I do not just want to take from a situation. I genuinely want to offer something of myself as well. It may be a hurdle that I need to eradicate. But I can't help it. Any relationship to me whether short term or long term has to be two sided. I could be wrong in this as I know many people who are willing to give more than they receive.

Of course not seeing or hearing the tones and expressions makes it easier for many people to open up a bit. The crunch of an eyebrow when you say something to them may make you back off a bit whereas there is no worry about that here. A good and a bad I guess.

Agendas for most depend on their mood I think. There are a ton of forums for just posting and laughing and some that require more thought and even more that are quizlike. Some people post on all of them and work them throughout the day. And of course the erotic part of the site is heavily populated lol.

I just like to talk I think, like to put stuff out there and see where it goes, with this thread, I think I was just hoping to get people to look at conversations through a different perspective, why they do or do not choose to converse. Something simple but intricate I guess.

 

[FAITHandFLESH]

I would really like to meet someone for an ongoing conversation, something that builds connections, not just a one and done.

 

[Reed8]

Of course not seeing or hearing the tones and expressions makes it easier for many people to open up a bit. The crunch of an eyebrow when you say something to them may make you back off a bit whereas there is no worry about that here. A good and a bad I guess.

Agendas for most depend on their mood I think. There are a ton of forums for just posting and laughing and some that require more thought and even more that are quizlike. Some people post on all of them and work them throughout the day. And of course the erotic part of the site is heavily populated lol.

I just like to talk I think, like to put stuff out there and see where it goes, with this thread, I think I was just hoping to get people to look at conversations through a different perspective, why they do or do not choose to converse. Something simple but intricate I guess.

In light of what you said, I offer this of myself. To the question of whether I choose to converse or not converse is intricate. Mood is a variable considering if I am feeling open that day or feeling shut off. Often I feel there are two personalities that exist inside of me. One that wants monotonous tasks to overwhelm my brain and the other that has shaken free of all the social constructs of what a person should do. When I am in the latter state, it is easier for me to converse. I have to remind myself that life is not a set of tasks and goals to be achieved ad nauseam. Conversation is the delight that has afforded me fun when the mood strikes.

Subject matter is paramount as well but not a obstacle to high for me to turn away from if it does not interest me entirely. The other person has gravity as well. This can wain as I get to know someone or can become greater depending if chemistry exists in the conversation. While I can acknowledge these traits in myself, sometimes I am caught up for no other reason than curiosity and fascination. The world fades into the back ground and two or more minds blend together in a blissful state of happiness.

 

[Reed8]

I would really like to meet someone for an ongoing conversation, something that builds connections, not just a one and done.

I concur. I haven't decided if this is an easy or difficult thing to find out there in the world. An ongoing conversation that builds a connection can be difficult, yet I have had instances where it was effortless. For me, I dwell on the fact/opinion that we are all human and we are here to build connections with other people. I really enjoy it when I can find a connection with someone.

 

[rlaflamme]

I would really like to meet someone for an ongoing conversation, something that builds connections, not just a one and done.

And that talks a lot, as many people come and go like the wind here, it is hard to find a long term conversation.

In light of what you said, I offer this of myself. To the question of whether I choose to converse or not converse is intricate. Mood is a variable considering if I am feeling open that day or feeling shut off. Often I feel there are two personalities that exist inside of me. One that wants monotonous tasks to overwhelm my brain and the other that has shaken free of all the social constructs of what a person should do. When I am in the latter state, it is easier for me to converse. I have to remind myself that life is not a set of tasks and goals to be achieved ad nauseam. Conversation is the delight that has afforded me fun when the mood strikes.

Subject matter is paramount as well but not a obstacle to high for me to turn away from if it does not interest me entirely. The other person has gravity as well. This can wain as I get to know someone or can become greater depending if chemistry exists in the conversation. While I can acknowledge these traits in myself, sometimes I am caught up for no other reason than curiosity and fascination. The world fades into the back ground and two or more minds blend together in a blissful state of happiness.

It is an interesting world we live in and our brains work in so many ways, what we need/want can change from moment to moment and having a place or people to help you through those moments is a wonderful thing.

Allowing yourself to open up and to feel free in sharing yourself can be a fun yet scary thing to do, you never know about people or even what you will think about what you typed when you look back on it. Just have to keep hope and tread on I guess. It makes life fun

 

[GeekyhubbyUK]

I concur. I haven't decided if this is an easy or difficult thing to find out there in the world. An ongoing conversation that builds a connection can be difficult, yet I have had instances where it was effortless. For me, I dwell on the fact/opinion that we are all human and we are here to build connections with other people. I really enjoy it when I can find a connection with someone.

I have had more misses than hits so far on here. On going conversation seems to consist of me going on for a couple of paragraphs followed by a reply of one sentence! I never thought conversation was a lost art but, blimey, since being on here it seems to be holding true.

Now here is the positive, I have made a connection and only recently, the chat is light and friendly as we are getting to know one another but it's clicking and full of whole paragraphs.

Maybe we are dinosaurs and nowadays our connections are meant to be brief. A throwaway society in everything now.