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[rlaflamme]

A good morning to all of you that have come here and that will. I still enjoy looking at responses and opinions on this thread, and hope that it has helped some people, not only go and find a conversation, but to have found a friend or two along the way.

Keep being great Lit

 

[Buscando]

Let's go back to basics

Okay, from my own point of view, here's the (quite obvious) deal.
Just go back and take a look at the site you logged onto. It's LitEROTICA.
It's not an adolescent chit-chat site, or a place to meet other lonely hearts and talk about your daily frustrations and failures. There are a million other boring sites for that sort of thing. If you can't get past sports or the weather, this just isn't the spot for you. It's for for all the other people who are here for just what the name states.
Why then would you be surprised or shocked when someone wants to take the conversation and intent in that direction? This is a site presented and intended for erotic intent and content. If you are afraid of that, then I really don't understand what you've come here and posted here for.
A site clearly labeled Literotica is obviously not intended for those who are limited or described by their fears. No, on the contrary, this is place for those who know first-hand that the view from the edge is always far more exciting than that of the "safe" middle ground.
There's nothing erotic in "Gosh I wish that was me," or "I always wanted to do that but..."
No, it comes back to the old saying, 'If you can't run with the big dawgs, then just stay up on the porch."
There's just no excitement or interest in what you 'could'a,' 'should'a', 'would'a'.

Should I, after tea and cakes and ices,
Have the strength to force the moment to its crisis?
But though I have wept and fasted, wept and prayed,
Though I have seen my head (grown slightly bald) brought in upon a platter,
I am no prophet—and here’s no great matter;
I have seen the moment of my greatness flicker,
And I have seen the eternal Footman hold my coat, and snicker,
And in short, I was afraid.

 

[Jada59]

Okay, from my own point of view, here's the (quite obvious) deal.
Just go back and take a look at the site you logged onto. It's LitEROTICA.
It's not an adolescent chit-chat site, or a place to meet other lonely hearts and talk about your daily frustrations and failures. There are a million other boring sites for that sort of thing. If you can't get past sports or the weather, this just isn't the spot for you. It's for for all the other people who are here for just what the name states.
Why then would you be surprised or shocked when someone wants to take the conversation and intent in that direction? This is a site presented and intended for erotic intent and content. If you are afraid of that, then I really don't understand what you've come here and posted here for.
A site clearly labeled Literotica is obviously not intended for those who are limited or described by their fears. No, on the contrary, this is place for those who know first-hand that the view from the edge is always far more exciting than that of the "safe" middle ground.
There's nothing erotic in "Gosh I wish that was me," or "I always wanted to do that but..."
No, it comes back to the old saying, 'If you can't run with the big dawgs, then just stay up on the porch."
There's just no excitement or interest in what you 'could'a,' 'should'a', 'would'a'.

Should I, after tea and cakes and ices,
Have the strength to force the moment to its crisis?
But though I have wept and fasted, wept and prayed,
Though I have seen my head (grown slightly bald) brought in upon a platter,
I am no prophet—and here’s no great matter;
I have seen the moment of my greatness flicker,
And I have seen the eternal Footman hold my coat, and snicker,
And in short, I was afraid.

When it comes to him, I must disagree. He is a joy to chat with!

 

[lilyfeet]

Actually, Buscando, I disagree.

There are a million and one porn sites for adult whatever. Literotica has been/is/will always be measurably different due to the Literature part, not merely the Erotica.

People who appreciate the written word, who process info verbally, who enjoy the extra spark that comes from a well-set scene, descriptive language and (god forbid) characters one can identify with, can have hopes that that love of language can translate to witty, informative, friendly conversations that expand viewpoints across the human experience. Not just sexual proclivities.

Y'see, there's room for everyone.

Hi, rlaflamme. Your friendly questioning brought me out of retirement.
I haven't been here for a long time... and for me, it's the time-suck that has prevented me from returning except for the odd look-see. I just can't guarantee the time needed to look for, create. invest in a cyber relationship... at this point, Real Life is enough of a ride!

But busy & content doesn't always mean fulfilled... and when a gal has needs, I poke around here, wondering exactly the same things you do.

Best wishes to us all!

 

[rlaflamme]

There is a huge amount of possibilities here, from gaining ideas and thoughts, wants and needs through scrolling the forums to finding the right person or people to talk to, whether that conversation is based on sharing your life with another, bouncing ideas and problems or success off of one another, encouraging and helping one another or finding your desires and needs typed upon your screen and shared with another.

I think there are all types of people here. The ones that want the sex talk, to cyber, play and fantasize, but there is a great many that are really looking for a friend or two, people to just talk to that they can find a common mark in their lives and help one another through rough times or laugh at good times together. It is easier to open up to a screen than it is a new face looking at you, I think at least.

I love the information put out on this thread, and it has grown further than I had anticipated and I think that is wonderful. So many people can get so much insight of others by scrolling through this.

Thank you all

 

[rlaflamme]

I have not put anything here in a bit, so of course, I have to right

How about the phrase, "Keep it simple stupid."? Can that be applied to starting off a conversation? Don't try to get in depth in the first sentence, you need to let them and yourself gain trust and comfort before you move along. Keeping it simple allows both to grow and learn at a pace that flows easier.

Just a thought. Have a great day!

 

[rlaflamme]

Talking to someone everyday can be devastating,
because there will come a day when you don’t,
and it will be the loneliest feeling in the world.

I understand the possibility of that happening as well, but is it not worth the risk? Was or is the time spent together worth it even if it has to end?

 

[rlaflamme]

There was a thread on here once, it may still be active I didn't really look for it, that was about just sending a random PM to somebody, like just picking a person, don't look up anything, click on send PM and say hello. It made me think how many people did it, and if anyone ended up with a good conversation out of it.

Life can be so simple like that I guess. Just picking a name and saying hello. Sort of like being the new person on the job, you have to say hello at some point right? Just a thought.

 

[rlaflamme]

Sometimes I wonder if we avoid jumping into a conversation is avoided because we are unsure what to do if it doesn't go well. What if you don't click? What if they jump into talking about things you don't want to and persist? What if there is nothing you two can relate to? How do you end it?

Does this thought process enter the equation when deciding to send or respond to a message? Do we wonder more about how we end a conversation than how we start one? I have heard a few complaints about people not stopping, not taking the hint after asking for a conversation to stop. There are many threads on here about ghosting. Do these have more of an effect than we think they do? Someone not stopping after you ask or being ghosted?

The cyber world is a large place, full of good and bad people. Full of thoughts and feelings. Very interesting.

 

[ericrodman101]

I enjoy Lit immensely. It is an outlet for my desire to write, and my bad habit of talking dirty in public, and my many filthy ideas. I have enjoyed getting to know people through Lit and it is disappointing when they disappear. Is it odd that some people will talk freely and swap stories, or collaborate in role plays, and then just vanish? Or are my expectations too high?

 

[rlaflamme]

I enjoy Lit immensely. It is an outlet for my desire to write, and my bad habit of talking dirty in public, and my many filthy ideas. I have enjoyed getting to know people through Lit and it is disappointing when they disappear. Is it odd that some people will talk freely and swap stories, or collaborate in role plays, and then just vanish? Or are my expectations too high?

One huge issue with being in the cyber world is people can and will leave often, no words, no good-byes, no reasons given, they just leave. And when that happens someone is left wondering what happened. Was it them? Did they say something wrong? Did they go to far? You never really know. That is part of the cyber world, just putting yourself out there and risk being ghosted or left after a long discussion or on-line relationship.

 

[ericrodman101]

One huge issue with being in the cyber world is people can and will leave often, no words, no good-byes, no reasons given, they just leave. And when that happens someone is left wondering what happened. Was it them? Did they say something wrong? Did they go to far? You never really know. That is part of the cyber world, just putting yourself out there and risk being ghosted or left after a long discussion or on-line relationship.

How many people are on here feeling guilty or troubled, or say are too young? And should I feel OK about maybe engaging in conversations which may not be positive for them?

 

[rlaflamme]

How many people are on here feeling guilty or troubled, or say are too young? And should I feel OK about maybe engaging in conversations which may not be positive for them?

We engage in conversations that we feel we are comfortable with. Not all conversations would be "positive" if they were the world would be a shiny, happy little place with rainbows all around us, just not real. It is a tangled mass of branches and dark places that we walk through and hope to find some light here and there to help guide us.

Here, in the cyber world we can open up more to our demons or hide them in the closet and nobody really knows. A lot of people are troubled or guilty and use this site as an escape. There are a lot of things you can talk about that are negative, and sometimes those are the conversations a person needs. It is a weird world after all. As for too young, I don't know. We really do not know the real age of people we talk to unless it goes beyond words on a screen. One must decide what is best for them.

Should you feel OK about conversations that are not positive for them? That is something only you can decide. How do you feel about your words and the impact they have on another. Nobody can truly answer that for you.

 

[Bjerget]

Interesting thread, I'll bite.

I often like to come here and chat about whatever random thing (sexual or more often otherwise) that is on my mind, but find no one to be much interested in the otherwise. My inbox is full of unanswered messages from potential suitors looking for sexual chat, oftentimes disguised as otherwise, but which quickly devolve into a desperate (futile) ploy for their genital fulfillment.

I also know that posting on this forum will net me another handful of such messages, but here I am anyway, looking for someone to chat with. Let's start out then, in a public place chat friends. Than potentially move to PM's if the need arise.

 

[5by5]

Everything light shiva said but without the invitation to chat but i was nodding to everything xx

 

[Bjerget]

Everything light shiva said but without the invitation to chat but i was nodding to everything xx

So am I allowed to start chatting with you or what... ? lol

 

[5by5]

So am I allowed to start chatting with you or what... ? lol

As if I could tell you what to do lol I'm rarely on here now and only speak to one person offsite, but I've known him years... So really I have no business being here, just a lazy day off.

 

[Bjerget]

As if I could tell you what to do lol I'm rarely on here now and only speak to one person offsite, but I've known him years... So really I have no business being here, just a lazy day off.

Okay well enjoy your lazy day off.

 

[rlaflamme]

Interesting thread, I'll bite.

I often like to come here and chat about whatever random thing (sexual or more often otherwise) that is on my mind, but find no one to be much interested in the otherwise. My inbox is full of unanswered messages from potential suitors looking for sexual chat, oftentimes disguised as otherwise, but which quickly devolve into a desperate (futile) ploy for their genital fulfillment.

I also know that posting on this forum will net me another handful of such messages, but here I am anyway, looking for someone to chat with. Let's start out then, in a public place chat friends. Than potentially move to PM's if the need arise.

Yes posting here may draw more attention to your inbox, sorry if it fills it. Hopefully people on this forum read your full post and do not do just that.

It does seem to be difficult to fun a chat friend for chatting, just to enjoy one another's company without the expectation that some cyber fun will ensue. It can happen, just a conversation. Well at least I hope it can.

 

[Bjerget]

Yes posting here may draw more attention to your inbox, sorry if it fills it. Hopefully people on this forum read your full post and do not do just that.

It does seem to be difficult to fun a chat friend for chatting, just to enjoy one another's company without the expectation that some cyber fun will ensue. It can happen, just a conversation. Well at least I hope it can.

I knew it would happen, but I just ignore those who can't respect my wishes. When my inbox reaches its limit, I just let it sit there full. I don't have anything to say to anyone that can't be said in a public forum, so if someone insists on writing to me privately I can only assume that they're ashamed of the things that they're saying, which is not something I want to get caught up in at all.

Well Rlaflamme, I'm here and interested in chatting, so feel free to chat away. What kind of things interest you?

 

[rlaflamme]

I knew it would happen, but I just ignore those who can't respect my wishes. When my inbox reaches its limit, I just let it sit there full. I don't have anything to say to anyone that can't be said in a public forum, so if someone insists on writing to me privately I can only assume that they're ashamed of the things that they're saying, which is not something I want to get caught up in at all.

Well Rlaflamme, I'm here and interested in chatting, so feel free to chat away. What kind of things interest you?

I am sorry your inbox was loaded up after your post, I was truly hoping it wouldn't as this forum is about respecting and learning rom others. I still have a lot of hope for people though, perhaps I hope to much or perhaps not enough.

I am interested in a ton of things lol, from walking around with my eyes closed and not falling to the intricate thought process of a basic mind lol.

I came to the site to share my stories, then ended up on the forums, what brought you here?

 

[Bjerget]

I am sorry your inbox was loaded up after your post, I was truly hoping it wouldn't as this forum is about respecting and learning rom others. I still have a lot of hope for people though, perhaps I hope to much or perhaps not enough.

I am interested in a ton of things lol, from walking around with my eyes closed and not falling to the intricate thought process of a basic mind lol.

I came to the site to share my stories, then ended up on the forums, what brought you here?

It's really no bother. Most folks that I want to talk to can reach me on messenger, otherwise I don't engage that much. After many failed connections on here I've learned that most folks aren't in it for the long run anyway, so I don't go looking for that here anymore. The best one can hope for here are short lived flings, occasional status updates on ones life, or ghosting after what was assumed to be a nice conversation. Tis the nature of the beast.

Tell me more of this walking around with your eyes closed. You don't do it on bridges or out in traffic do you? That sounds like it'd be detrimental to your health.

As for me, I wrote a story once but it wasn't very good. I lost interest in completing it after a close friend of mine named her newborn after the antagonist. Maybe one day I'll go through and retrofit a new name to the story, but I wouldn't count on it. I have the attention span of a ferret on a sugar high when it comes to story writing.

 

[rlaflamme]

It's really no bother. Most folks that I want to talk to can reach me on messenger, otherwise I don't engage that much. After many failed connections on here I've learned that most folks aren't in it for the long run anyway, so I don't go looking for that here anymore. The best one can hope for here are short lived flings, occasional status updates on ones life, or ghosting after what was assumed to be a nice conversation. Tis the nature of the beast.

Tell me more of this walking around with your eyes closed. You don't do it on bridges or out in traffic do you? That sounds like it'd be detrimental to your health.

As for me, I wrote a story once but it wasn't very good. I lost interest in completing it after a close friend of mine named her newborn after the antagonist. Maybe one day I'll go through and retrofit a new name to the story, but I wouldn't count on it. I have the attention span of a ferret on a sugar high when it comes to story writing.

And that is it isn't it, sort term conversations that fade away into nothingness for the most part? I have heard of people talking for some time on here, and some that have even met, but for the most part the conversations will die off. Many people are here for the fling, the quick release and fodder that is for sure, my hope is there are many more that are interested in more than that I guess. I tend to talk more through the message system as I like to keep my conversations quiet I guess, I don't know lol.

No, no.. No walking with ones eyes closed on a bridge, but what about around the house? With a blindfold perhaps. I bump into walls and fall with my eyes open, so being able to do it with my eyes closed would be a heck of a feat lol.

A ferret on a sugar high huh? Now all I can think about is a ferret running around my house squeaking loudly and smiling ear to ear.... it's a heck of a sight, thanks

 

[Bjerget]

And that is it isn't it, sort term conversations that fade away into nothingness for the most part? I have heard of people talking for some time on here, and some that have even met, but for the most part the conversations will die off. Many people are here for the fling, the quick release and fodder that is for sure, my hope is there are many more that are interested in more than that I guess. I tend to talk more through the message system as I like to keep my conversations quiet I guess, I don't know lol.

No, no.. No walking with ones eyes closed on a bridge, but what about around the house? With a blindfold perhaps. I bump into walls and fall with my eyes open, so being able to do it with my eyes closed would be a heck of a feat lol.

A ferret on a sugar high huh? Now all I can think about is a ferret running around my house squeaking loudly and smiling ear to ear.... it's a heck of a sight, thanks

Now I won't lie and say I've been the most innocent lady on this site: I've had more than my share of flings, cybersex encounters and even met maybe a few fellows IRL, but one thing does seem to be a running theme. They all eventually leave, most after assuring you that they're completely different than every other fellow on here, that they'd never leave or forget about you, or that they are really a very good friend. I guess I sound kind of jaded about it all, but really I'm not. I changed my behavior after the first few rounds of "who gets to pull shiva's heartstrings today". Now I only come around when I feel like it. I only respond to inquiries that I feel like. I don't owe anyone anything. And it's really a freeing kind of feeling. It's nice that you're so optimistic still, but you will probably be broken by it eventually.

Anyway, that's unpleasant conversation by any means. This bumping around seems also unpleasant. Are you the kind of fellow that likes falling down? Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I just want to know who I'm dealing with here.

Ferrets are great by the way. I highly suggest owning them in pairs or they become depressed and destructive.

 

[rlaflamme]

Now I won't lie and say I've been the most innocent lady on this site: I've had more than my share of flings, cybersex encounters and even met maybe a few fellows IRL, but one thing does seem to be a running theme. They all eventually leave, most after assuring you that they're completely different than every other fellow on here, that they'd never leave or forget about you, or that they are really a very good friend. I guess I sound kind of jaded about it all, but really I'm not. I changed my behavior after the first few rounds of "who gets to pull shiva's heartstrings today". Now I only come around when I feel like it. I only respond to inquiries that I feel like. I don't owe anyone anything. And it's really a freeing kind of feeling. It's nice that you're so optimistic still, but you will probably be broken by it eventually.

Anyway, that's unpleasant conversation by any means. This bumping around seems also unpleasant. Are you the kind of fellow that likes falling down? Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I just want to know who I'm dealing with here.

Ferrets are great by the way. I highly suggest owning them in pairs or they become depressed and destructive.

Optimism only goes so far, I know that and I have seen to many people drop off and away to believe it will not continue to happen. I just hope that people can get information if that is what they are seeking, or a friend for a while. It will always hurt when they leave or burn you, and that is something that we have to deal with and move on from. I won't expect anything from anyone though, just keep my chin up

No, I don't enjoy falling just have a tendency to fall a bit more than most, clumsy? Maybe, but the injury in my head has a bit to do with it. I like a good challenge, something that is fun with a chance of success and a lot of laughs

Ferrets can be fun and cuddle well from what I hear. I have never had one though.