Connection?

[Lancecastor]

How do you feel when you connect to somewhere here?

When it first hits you that someone is in your bloodstream?

And you in theirs.

Does it change your day?

Infect your head?

Make you dizzy at the keyboard?

Running scenes in your mind?

Wondering if the other is feeling the same way...at the same time?

Is it delicious torture for you?

Do you feel drawn to it?

Do you need it?

Have to have it?

Surpassing all else?

Does it differ from falling in person offline for you?

Wondering....what it does to You;
Lance

 

[Sunflower Song]

The moment of connection - that singular instant of knowing you have crossed over into something much, much deeper - is the same for me offline or on. A deer in the headlights moment where everything stops. My heart skips, I forget to breathe, the hairs stand up on the back of my neck and I dare not move for fear of disturbing that unexpectedly close, intimate moment. And it is a delicious torture, when you know and don't know at the same time...or rather, you think you know and in that moment, your intuitions are confirmed.

 

[Lancecastor]

Yes; I think....

The moment of connection - that singular instant of knowing you have crossed over into something much, much deeper - is the same for me offline or on. A deer in the headlights moment where everything stops. My heart skips, I forget to breathe, the hairs stand up on the back of my neck and I dare not move for fear of disturbing that unexpectedly close, intimate moment. And it is a delicious torture, when you know and don't know at the same time...or rather, you think you know and in that moment, your intuitions are confirmed.

...that it's a lot like a dance.

Two in the crowd, eyes interlocked.

Bodies close.

Physical intentions known to each.

Yet, swirling there in the crowd, unseen.

Except by the two.

Slow motion for Them.

Yet to the (h)all, all part of the greater event.

Alone, intimate.

Yet on display.

Simultaneously.

Yes, the same Here as There.

Wondering how That can Be....without the physical touch, sight, smell. And taste.

Just words.

Conveying emotions, and heat, through the ether. The Net.

Feelings, desire, lust, connection... as if at the eyes.

As if joined at the waist. Breath on neck. Fingers entwined.

In IP, with the promise of More.

Lance

 

[spankableBelle]

It's a precious moment when all reason and understand fly right out the window and you just know something pivotal has happened. For me i get butterflies and giddy...i lose all sense of time and surrounding and it's just me and that person. Hours speed by like seconds and the anticipation of their next words is such a painfully pleasant torture. Every emotion i have crashes into me full force and i am aroused of the mind and body all at the same time...It's a blissful high to connect when sometimes there are thousands of miles that separate you, yet you know that your heart is beating in tune with theirs, that your thoughts and their thoughts are dancing on the same floor, that the desire and ache between your thighs is the answer to the desire and ache that they feel between theirs. The unbelievable moment your breath catches and all the 'what if's...' float through your mind and carry you away on clouds full of infinite possibilities, of fantasies, of dreams. The moment you realize that you've been checking your email and all the messengers you have downloaded, and your pm box in succession every 5 minutes in hopes that there is something, anything, however small a token of thought, and then the smile when there is...the one that wraps your heart in warmth and joy, so pure...the one that makes every mile between you disappear...the one that answers the glittering, shimmering light shining from deep inside your soul...

belle

 

[Lancecastor]

Well and wonderfully put....

....Belle.

Long before internet or telephones, written corrrespondence was the primary mode and the accepted model for courtship.

A century later, though sexual mores have changed dramatically...is what happens at distance with email today's courtship?

Ought it also/sometimes be considered as such, and not just as "hooking up"?

Or I am I full of foolish, antiquated notions?

Lance

It's a precious moment when all reason and understand fly right out the window and you just know something pivotal has happened. For me i get butterflies and giddy...i lose all sense of time and surrounding and it's just me and that person. Hours speed by like seconds and the anticipation of their next words is such a painfully pleasant torture. Every emotion i have crashes into me full force and i am aroused of the mind and body all at the same time...It's a blissful high to connect when sometimes there are thousands of miles that separate you, yet you know that your heart is beating in tune with theirs, that your thoughts and their thoughts are dancing on the same floor, that the desire and ache between your thighs is the answer to the desire and ache that they feel between theirs. The unbelievable moment your breath catches and all the 'what if's...' float through your mind and carry you away on clouds full of infinite possibilities, of fantasies, of dreams. The moment you realize that you've been checking your email and all the messengers you have downloaded, and your pm box in succession every 5 minutes in hopes that there is something, anything, however small a token of thought, and then the smile when there is...the one that wraps your heart in warmth and joy, so pure...the one that makes every mile between you disappear...the one that answers the glittering, shimmering light shining from deep inside your soul...

belle

 

[Lancecastor]

And, in a BDSM online meeting....

....when the sparks start to fly:

What does a sub long for a Dom to say?

What does a Dom want to hear from the sub?

And at what point does each want to speak of Expectations...?

(I sometimes wonder how far down the path two should dance in awe, wonder, glee....before addressing visions, dreams, limits...many vary on this. Is there a "norm"? Can there be?)

Lance

 

[lovetoread]

This is actually a good thread.


How do you feel when you connect to somewhere here?

I am assuming you mean someone. I felt weird to be honest.


When it first hits you that someone is in your bloodstream?

Scared


And you in theirs.

I dont think that happened.


Does it change your day?

Yep


Infect your head?

Sometimes


Make you dizzy at the keyboard?

Only when he gets into the interesting talk.


Running scenes in your mind?

Oh yes.


Wondering if the other is feeling the same way...at the same time?

Nope, pretty sure he wasnt.


Is it delicious torture for you?

Somewhat.


Do you feel drawn to it?

Somewhat


Do you need it?

Need it? No. Want it badly? Yes.


Have to have it?

Nope, want it though.


Surpassing all else?

Nope


Does it differ from falling in person offline for you?

Actually its harder to do it online than off for me.



....when the sparks start to fly:

What does a sub long for a Dom to say?

I dunno actually. I know what I want him to say, but is it what a Dom needs to say? Beats me.


What does a Dom want to hear from the sub?

n/a


And at what point does each want to speak of Expectations...?

Not until there is actually a relationship.

(I sometimes wonder how far down the path two should dance in awe, wonder, glee....before addressing visions, dreams, limits...many vary on this. Is there a "norm"? Can there be?)

Dont wait to talk about it. Only wait to live it out. Rushing into things is bad. Trust me on this.