Confused

[Angelus]

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[Mr. Briggs]

I'm confused about the situation I find myself in with no real answers coming to me.

This is not about me but my wife. Quite recently my wife and I went to one of her female friends place to have dinner and spend the night. After dinner my friend made the suggestion that we watch a porn video. My wife and I agreed and we all sat together on the couch to watch it.

All I can say is things started to progress quite quickly and my wife and her friend started to make out then before I knew it my wife was naked, lying there on the couch with her friend's head between her legs. They then went to the bedroom where it continued with the addition of toys.

I have never heard my wife moan as loudly and orgasm as much as she did that night and I could tell that she was enjoying it immensely.

The day after however it was a totally different tune. My wife told me she didn't like it and that she didn't want to do it again.

That is what has me confused. I know she enjoyed it; more than I can put into words I know she enjoyed it but she keeps insisting she didn't and doesn't want to talk about it.

Sorry to say this but as a man it was the best thing I have seen and would love to see it again but I don't want to bring it up without seeming to pressure her.

So, what can I do? How can I talk to her about it?

And why does she keep telling me she hated it when I know she didn't?

She's definitely embarrassed. I imagine if my wife and I were in a similar situation. Both straight and both very concerned about our image. If we had a threesome where one of us went nuts with someone of the same sex I know both of us would deny enjoying it the next day for fear of being judged. Give her some time. Maybe wait until you guys are really horny and slowly bring it up or be patient maybe she'll bring it up again. I wouldn't push the subject you'll just piss her off. Women are tough to read

 

[SirLeo]

Be thankful it happened! Don't pressure her. After a couple of weeks bering up how hot it made you watching her get it on and get off with yoiur friend. Bring it up during foreplay, if she responds then go with it, if not let it go for the time being.

 

[LizzyDark]

I'm confused about the situation I find myself in with no real answers coming to me.

This is not about me but my wife. Quite recently my wife and I went to one of her female friends place to have dinner and spend the night. After dinner my friend made the suggestion that we watch a porn video. My wife and I agreed and we all sat together on the couch to watch it.

All I can say is things started to progress quite quickly and my wife and her friend started to make out then before I knew it my wife was naked, lying there on the couch with her friend's head between her legs. They then went to the bedroom where it continued with the addition of toys.

I have never heard my wife moan as loudly and orgasm as much as she did that night and I could tell that she was enjoying it immensely.

The day after however it was a totally different tune. My wife told me she didn't like it and that she didn't want to do it again.

That is what has me confused. I know she enjoyed it; more than I can put into words I know she enjoyed it but she keeps insisting she didn't and doesn't want to talk about it.

Sorry to say this but as a man it was the best thing I have seen and would love to see it again but I don't want to bring it up without seeming to pressure her.

So, what can I do? How can I talk to her about it?

And why does she keep telling me she hated it when I know she didn't?

The best possible move here is to let her relax. Something may have happened that she didn't enjoy at the end that soured her on the whole experience. We can be like that sometimes in bed: 90% good + 10% bad at the very end can often = BAD EXPERIENCE. Don't assume, just because of the noises you heard, that she enjoyed it as much as you think she did. If she said she didn't enjoy it, you have to take her at her word until she's ready to talk to you about what happened. Don't try to force your need for the girl-girl fantasy or your arrogance into telling her what she did and didn't enjoy--that'll only go badly for you.

The only commentary you should have on the situation is this, and I wouldn't deviate much from the wording: "When you're ready to talk about it, I'm here to listen." And then, if and when she does want to talk to you about it, you should spend your time listening to what she has to say and not try to force the issue just because you thought it was hot or because you thought she enjoyed it.