confused

[nicenicki1959]

I am a very shy, niave and conservative librarian. I have recently been thinking about what it would be like to be with a girl. I do have a boyfried but he is not satisfying me. I can't meet anyone in my home town although I do work in a big city . I would like to act on my dreams and thoughts but don't know where to begin. Can someone help

 

[bisexplicit]

1) Many people question their sexuality. Decide if this is something you just want to masturbate to in porn, or something you want to explore. You don't have to decide immediately, however, or decide forever. Its just something to know for yourself.

2) If you're going to explore your sexuality, either tell your boyfriend and come to a mutual agreement or end your relationship.

3) Decide what you're looking for; a one time sexual relationship to see how things are, a long term relationship?

 

[Eilan]

Have you talked with your BF about your concerns regarding your sex life? If you haven't, then, out of fairness to him, you should. And you should do that before you even consider acting on your fantasies.

Keep in mind that fantasies, dreams, and thoughts, are perfectly normal/acceptable, but the reality can be quite different. I'm not saying that to discourage you, but it is a good idea to go into new situations with open eyes and realistic expectations.

 

[silverwhisper]

nicki: what bi and eilan said. they're smart ladies.

if you're anxious about people in your social circle finding out and disapproving, you've made things extremely difficult for yourself. do you have any friends w/ whom you could discuss this openly and honestly?

ed

 

[nicenicki1959]

ive tried talking to him about it but he doesn't seem to realise how serious i am. i even offered to visit him dressed as a school girl (his favourite) but it didn't work. I am having fun on the chat site but most of those im talking with are male. ive only started to explore over the last 3 days. I have found i enjoy cyber sex and am enjoying looking at naked women but i don't know what i really want. This new lifestyle is getting very addictive

 

[bisexplicit]

Okay.

First off - You possibly being bisexual and you wanting to spice up your current sex life are two seperate issues.

Second - Some couples consider cyber sex cheating. I know, in my relationship, it is. You need to discuss this with your boyfriend.

If you're confused you need to stop and figure things out before you jump head first into anything.

 

[Quoll]

Okay.

First off - You possibly being bisexual and you wanting to spice up your current sex life are two seperate issues.

Second - Some couples consider cyber sex cheating. I know, in my relationship, it is. You need to discuss this with your boyfriend.

If you're confused you need to stop and figure things out before you jump head first into anything.

Excellent advice Bi.
Have you ever considered posting on a message boa... Never mind

 

[bisexplicit]

Excellent advice Bi.
Have you ever considered posting on a message boa... Never mind

A message boa? Is it kindof like a carrier pigeon?

Alright - I want to see what that would look like, quoll.

 

[Gil_T2]

ive tried talking to him about it but he doesn't seem to realise how serious i am. i even offered to visit him dressed as a school girl (his favourite) but it didn't work. I am having fun on the chat site but most of those im talking with are male. ive only started to explore over the last 3 days. I have found i enjoy cyber sex and am enjoying looking at naked women but i don't know what i really want. This new lifestyle is getting very addictive

A simple way to find enjoyment in sex can be found here.....


https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

AND EVERY guy & gal should study it & explore as it does work.

 

[Quoll]

A message boa? Is it kindof like a carrier pigeon?

Alright - I want to see what that would look like, quoll.

Well at first I came up with this...

 

[Quoll]

...but then I thought that technically it is a feather boa.
So after quite a bit of searching I came across this.

 

[manonthewebb]

Have you talked with your BF about your concerns regarding your sex life? If you haven't, then, out of fairness to him, you should. And you should do that before you even consider acting on your fantasies.

Keep in mind that fantasies, dreams, and thoughts, are perfectly normal/acceptable, but the reality can be quite different. I'm not saying that to discourage you, but it is a good idea to go into new situations with open eyes and realistic expectations.

.... and out if fairness to yourself too ..

 

[Quoll]

However due to an unfortunate typo it turned out to be wrong, that is clearly a massage boa.
Which left me with this.





Sorry about the slight hijack nicki

 

[bisexplicit]

However due to an unfortunate typo it turned out to be wrong, that is clearly a massage boa.
Which left me with this.





Sorry about the slight hijack nicki

hahahaha.

 

[Eilan]

.... and out if fairness to yourself too ..

Good point.

 

[Chicklet]

I am a very shy, niave and conservative librarian. I have recently been thinking about what it would be like to be with a girl. I do have a boyfried but he is not satisfying me. I can't meet anyone in my home town although I do work in a big city . I would like to act on my dreams and thoughts but don't know where to begin. Can someone help

Are you wanting to experiment with a girl with your boyfriend involved? Or are you wanting to do it with just the two of you?

I'm with everyone that suggests talking about this with your boyfriend, one way or another. If your relationship is one you seriously want to keep, and not a casual romance, then you should always be open and honest. If he's not taking you seriously, then continue to try to make him understand that you ARE being serious. Use those exact words "I'm being serious." I think it's hard sometimes when I try to be serious about sexual desires I harbor because I get embarassed, ashamed, red faced, etc... but if you want something, you MUST make it clear. If you don't make it clear, then you might end up resenting him for not understanding your desires, and that's passive agression that isn't going to work out for your relationship.

Next, actually finding someone to involve yourself in probably isn't going to be as difficult as you imagine. You need to know what you want, though, and seek it out specifically. I wouldn't suggest going online and finding someone to hook up with for a casual encounter that evening, without discussing things or meeting for coffee or anything. There are loads of sites around with options of finding people to play with. One of my favorites to look at is craigslist.com, which has just about every large city in America on it. Frankly I usually just look at it for fun, but it seems like there are loads of possiblilities there.

Sit down with yourself, or just your boyfriend, and try to decide just how serious you are about this. I suggest going through with it. I love being with girls, and the experiences I've had were fantastic. I wouldn't consider myself "bisexual" really, but I definitely enjoy sex with women.

Good luck.

 

[BarnabySchmidt]

Go for it with the girl. Have fun.

If he won't listen, it's his fault. You've tried.

Consider dumping him and finding someone who's open to your bisexuality AND who will give you the satisfaction you need.

 

[Gil_T2]

Go for it with the girl. Have fun.

If he won't listen, it's his fault. You've tried.

Consider dumping him and finding someone who's open to your bisexuality AND who will give you the satisfaction you need.

Best said yet!!!!
I'm perfectly fine with my ladies Bi side & actually encourage her to go for it BUT a lot of males can't see any more than an insult to their manhood or just out of plain stupidity.

 

[Vixandra]

Go for it with the girl. Have fun.

If he won't listen, it's his fault. You've tried.

Consider dumping him and finding someone who's open to your bisexuality AND who will give you the satisfaction you need.

I'd like to third this.

If he's not keeping you happy and won't listen to you, there's some large problems there. Try talking with him about your relationship issues.

As for finding a woman- there are oodles of personals sites out there on the net. And Literotica has its own side too, check out the GLBT Personals.

 

[Gil_T2]

well if she wants she will find.