Confessions: What are yours?

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ICT on rare occasions I have been a thread hog.

Of course, with help from others.
 
ICT I'm feeling anxious about life right now in general.
IACT I really am giving up men. Even male friends I think. They just let me down.
 
ICT for the first time in a long time I work very... aroused...
Too bad there's really nothing to do about it right now...
 
ICT I'm feeling anxious about life right now in general.
IACT I really am giving up men. Even male friends I think. They just let me down.
ICT I just have to say this: don't give up on men as friends. The reason that I say this is there are a select few men out there that are not the scum of the earth. I know this, because I used to think the same way. Don't let the majority of the guys that are scum and arseholes ruin it for the rest of them. There are some out there that do want to be friends. I know that times are rough as I am going through some myself. But I am telling you that you should not let the actions of a lot mess things up for the few that are golden and rare. Trust me I have gone through more than my fair share of men that treated me like crap from verbally abusing me to physically abusing me to both. Though I was in the same spot that you are in (well maybe not the same exact spot as situations are never the same) I have been in similar situations. Just don't give up be a survivor and don't let the bad guys win, because that will let them know that they can keep treating females like crap and that females will just sit there and take it.

ICT I am sorry if this come off like a lecture or a rant, but I just don't want you to think that you are alone in your thinking. I've been there done that.

ICT I am also sorry if I have insulted anyone in my ICT, because that was not my intent. I felt like there was something to be said.
 
ICT I just have to say this: don't give up on men as friends.... (and then went on say a lot of really nifty, sagely stuff!)

Thank you for saying this. It's refreshing to see someone stand up for my gender in a situation like this. There have been a lot of times that I've felt the same way she does (toward both sexes), but Rouges is right- you shouldn't profile everyone you meet because of your experiences with a select few.
If you want to give up on men romantically, that's fine- try something different, or, if you really feel the need, nothing at all. Do not, however, give up on normal friendly relationships. You never know what you might miss if you do.
 
ICT I'm feeling anxious about life right now in general.
IACT I really am giving up men. Even male friends I think. They just let me down.

I confess that this makes me sad and angry. It's always the shithead men that ruin it for the good ones.

I felt this way about women as a reaction to some pretty bad treatment in the past. What I finally figured out is that I had a broken picker - i was choosing the wrong women to be involved with, ignoring red flags, and being too accepting and forgiving of negative behavior. I may have walked in on my fiancé fucking another guy in my apartment in my twenties, for example, but not all women would do that. And so forth.

What I finally came to was don't settle - don't accept the unacceptable just to avoid being alone. Alone is preferable to abused.

There are good people and there are some real shits, both men and women. I hope you find yourself some good ones.

Hugs to you ElizaCat. I hope things get better. Feel free to PM me for a shoulder to cry on or if you just need to talk. I may be a man, but I'm ok. :)

I confess that I worry about sounding preachy. I confess that it might be a by-product of being older than most on here.
 
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ICT you no reason to be embarrassed. I hope you share more like this.
IACT I wish you had your own thread.

ICT- I'm not too vocal about confessing stuff like that unless hormones, or my sleeping pill which renders me drunk take over.
IACT- I thank you. But I don't have the ego for that, and I don't want to feel like I have to slut myself out just to keep my thread from getting buried 4 pages back. ;) It's easier, just to post a few here and there, in the others threads.
 
ICT I just have to say this: don't give up on men as friends. The reason that I say this is there are a select few men out there that are not the scum of the earth. I know this, because I used to think the same way....

... There have been a lot of times that I've felt the same way she does (toward both sexes), but Rouges is right- you shouldn't profile everyone you meet because of your experiences with a select few. ..... Do not, however, give up on normal friendly relationships. You never know what you might miss if you do.

I confess that this makes me sad and angry. It's always the shithead men that ruin it for the good ones.
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There are good people and there are some real shits, both men and women. I hope you find yourself some good ones.
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Thank you all for the responses.
I truly and honestly confess that I don't post these type of things to ruffle anyone's feathers. I just have to get things off my chest from time to time and I feel comfortable sharing them here.

Thanks... :rose:
 
Thank you all for the responses.
I truly and honestly confess that I don't post these type of things to ruffle anyone's feathers. I just have to get things off my chest from time to time and I feel comfortable sharing them here.

Thanks... :rose:
ICT my feather's did not get ruffled, I was merely trying to get you not to make the same mistake I made years ago. I am glad you get your feelings out and not bottle them in because that is not good either (been there done that). I just want you to know that if you ever want to talk I am here.
 
Thank you all for the responses.
I truly and honestly confess that I don't post these type of things to ruffle anyone's feathers. I just have to get things off my chest from time to time and I feel comfortable sharing them here.

Thanks... :rose:

I confess that what Rogueslady said goes for me too. My feathers are not ruffled. I'm a bit older than you and have been where you are. If I can help, I will. And I too am here, if you have need. :)
 
ICT- even at 41, I still love going up to my Dads and just hanging out like I still live there. He had a rough week after Chemo this week, so I went up to make him some shakes and lunch and make sure he was taking his medicine and just made myself at home on the chair and watched him sleep. :D
 
ICT- even at 41, I still love going up to my Dads and just hanging out like I still live there. He had a rough week after Chemo this week, so I went up to make him some shakes and lunch and make sure he was taking his medicine and just made myself at home on the chair and watched him sleep. :D
ICT I am sorry to hear your your dad had a rough week. I hope it gets better for him.
 
ICT I am sorry to hear your your dad had a rough week. I hope it gets better for him.

ICT- I appreciate these thoughts.. He has one more Chemo left in 3 weeks and then he will get new scans to find out if he'll go on for more. It's not even the Chemo or radiation that bothered him. it's the shot they give the day after chemo to help boost the white blood cells.
 
ICT- I appreciate these thoughts.. He has one more Chemo left in 3 weeks and then he will get new scans to find out if he'll go on for more. It's not even the Chemo or radiation that bothered him. it's the shot they give the day after chemo to help boost the white blood cells.
ICT I can understand that! Many people that go through Chemo is often sick afterwards at least my foster mom Sharon did.
 
ICT- I appreciate these thoughts.. He has one more Chemo left in 3 weeks and then he will get new scans to find out if he'll go on for more. It's not even the Chemo or radiation that bothered him. it's the shot they give the day after chemo to help boost the white blood cells.

When he feels bettet, and he will, get him on lit!!!
 
ICT I am anxious.
ICT if it is meant to be it is meant to be.
IACT being good is very very hard to do.
IFCT I am hoping everything turns out well for all parties.
 
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