condom question

[Undomiel]

Last night when my boyfriend pulled out (he did hold the end of the condom) we noticed white stuff on the outside too. We used ones with lube already on them so perhaps it was that or maybe it was just me? The condom didn't seem to have leaked or anything. Anyone any ideas? We're still new to all this. I'm on the pill too though.

 

[Socal22]

Well its good that you are doubling up on the birth control methods, the pill and condoms, so your chance of pregnancy should be pretty low as long as you have been on the pill for at least 30 days. As far as if the condom leaked any male fluid out no one can be sure.

 

[LadyJeanne]

You secrete 'white stuff' when you get excited. It's normal. Sometimes it's clear, sometimes it's milky, depending on your cycle.

 

[M's girl]

The white stuff on the outside could very well have been yours. But I was not there (we were not there) so if you are not sure how can I be or how can we be? I can tell you from my own experience that there's plenty of noticable 'white stuff' as you call it that will stick on M's penis when he pulls out before he climaxes (after that it's a mix of course). The structure (and taste) of my 'white stuff' is much different from his, so this (simply tasting it) could be one way to determine what it is maybe.

Basically if the condom is not torn and did not slip off while he was still in you my guess is that the white stuff was yours. Like others said before: it's a good thing you take double precautions to start with... later on in the relationship (and I think I remember you started with birthcontrol pills not too long ago) the two of you can decide which one to skip (after - not having - STD's are cleared etcetera).

 

[Undomiel]

Ok so it's not just me which is good. I basically wanted to know is it possible it's my own fluids.

Well I think I'm always going to take double precautions because I'm terrified of getting pregnant. STD's was never an issue as I had never gone further than kissing and he had never even kissed someone before.

 

[keack1]

If you are so terrified of getting pregnant, why are you having sex. There is always a risk of getting pregnant no matter how much protection you use.

 

[RuReal]

If you are so terrified of getting pregnant, why are you having sex. There is always a risk of getting pregnant no matter how much protection you use.

This is true but let’s look at the odds? Chances are she wants to have sex like other people want to have sex, but do not want to have children. Try not to force views on others more so when it is not asked for.

As for the white stuff I am fairly sure it was yours <grin> most women I have been involved with have that. If I guess right I would say it is the lubricant women secret to aid in intercourse. But that is me remembering sex class and working on theory and experience so not 100%

 

[SweetErika]

If you are so terrified of getting pregnant, why are you having sex. There is always a risk of getting pregnant no matter how much protection you use.

Up until the last year or so, I was terrified of getting pregnant. Now I'm just scared. Being terrified is usually a good thing because it compels most people to be responsible and take lots of precautions like using the BCP AND condoms. We doubled up for many years, and guess what? No pregnancies. Of course it's not a guarantee, but it's about as safe as you can get without surgery.

 

[CorsetLvr]

If you are so terrified of getting pregnant, why are you having sex. There is always a risk of getting pregnant no matter how much protection you use.

I thought unreaslistic philosophies like "Just Say No" went out with Nancy Reagen. Yes, I'm old enough to remember the Reagen administration. It didn't work then and it won't work now. Young people have been intent on discovering their sexualities for millions of years. No matter how much philosophizing you want to do that isn't going to change. What we can do is give them the information and resources to make intelligent decisions and to minimize their risks, which it sounds like this young woman has done. There is no such thing as a risk free life. Managing risk is the one most important things we can teach the younger generations.

Besides, she certainly didn't come here for birth control advice from you, me, aor anyone else. Excuse me for perpetuating this off topic discussion.

To answer her original question, there are naturally occuring chemicals in a woman's juices called surfactants that can act like a soap. The mechanical action of sexual activity can cause these chemicals to "foam up" and turn the normally clear juices to a milky while color that you saw on the outside of the condom.

OK, I'm off my soap box.