Conditioning / Cumming on Command

[switchbitch]

I can cum very easily and I'm multi-orgasmic. Its how one discovered my squirting ability. That is not voice activated btw.[/QUOTE]

everyday master's ability to control my reactions increases, he can indeed make me squirt without physical contact. As my submission and need to serve strengthens, my responses to his commands get faster and faster and more and more intense.
It is definitely in my experience necessary to have that strong bond or connection in order to achieve orgasm on command, I have never met anyone who was able to come on command to someone that they did not know, trust and desire to serve.
Has anyone else?

 

[~His Kitten~]

This all might be a pipe dream for me for a while (and I don't know that I will EVER get to squirting)... but just knowing it is possible gives me direction. Thank you.

I'm not entirely sure how he (different he than the he who had me on voice activation) does it but for me, its the super fast pumping/twisting motion with his hand or hands as the case may be, with gspot stimulation and finger wiggling. The orgasms pile up on each other until my inner walls try to push him out and then walla. He counted a total of four separate gushes once before I couldn't take it any more.

Once you do it, it comes a lot easier and with more frequency. At least for me. Just don't fight the feeling and you'll be fine. You might want to have a towel handy, both for him and for the bedding.

P.S. What upload???

 

[sdineen]

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Im a quaderplegic, but mentally cum through assocation and conditioning

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

<snip> gspot stimulation and finger wiggling. The orgasms pile up on each other until my inner walls try to push him out and then walla. He counted a total of four separate gushes once before I couldn't take it any more.

Once you do it, it comes a lot easier and with more frequency. At least for me. Just don't fight the feeling and you'll be fine. You might want to have a towel handy, both for him and for the bedding.

P.S. What upload???

Awesome - and thanks! I know I do fight my feelings at times, and need to stop doing that!
It can be a struggle, though, when they come on so hard and fast!
As to the PS - that was a super, super secret message. I see it worked, at least on you disregard.

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

I can cum very easily and I'm multi-orgasmic. Its how one discovered my squirting ability. That is not voice activated btw.

everyday master's ability to control my reactions increases, he can indeed make me squirt without physical contact. As my submission and need to serve strengthens, my responses to his commands get faster and faster and more and more intense.
It is definitely in my experience necessary to have that strong bond or connection in order to achieve orgasm on command, I have never met anyone who was able to come on command to someone that they did not know, trust and desire to serve.
Has anyone else?[/QUOTE]

I think Wenchie might "cum the closest". haha...
What is it about you that brings out the really bad jokes in me?

 

[the captians wench]

everyday master's ability to control my reactions increases, he can indeed make me squirt without physical contact. As my submission and need to serve strengthens, my responses to his commands get faster and faster and more and more intense.
It is definitely in my experience necessary to have that strong bond or connection in order to achieve orgasm on command, I have never met anyone who was able to come on command to someone that they did not know, trust and desire to serve.
Has anyone else?

I think Wenchie might "cum the closest". haha...
What is it about you that brings out the really bad jokes in me?

Yup you'd be right.

My connection to the person doesn't matter. As long as my trigger word is said in the proper tone they will get a physical reaction out of me.

I had one guy experiment with this on a first date. Yeah I know, it's kind of my fault for opening my big mouth and telling him about it. Anyway, we ended up parked some where. Kissed a little, then he kissed my jaw line to my ear, sat back in his seat and pulled my trigger just perfectly. 5.1 on the O-scale. And I was pissed. *giggles*

So no, the connection doesn't matter for me, they just have to have knowledge of how to use my trigger to get the best results, and that tends to come from prolonged exposure.

 

[minx1]

Im a quaderplegic, but mentally cum through assocation and conditioning

I am able to do a smilar thing too. Did it take you long to learn how to do it? When you say association what do you mean? Thanks

 

[pl4ywithdaddy]

I have had orgasms just from acoustic stimulation (on command). I m very much into music, pretty voices, etc., so that may have played a role....it s an enormously powerful experience...

but mostly it was because I was listening to a recording of a erotic hypnotist. she uses various techniques, but a big part of it is the incredible degree of relaxation that she induces.



(for anyone who s interested, her name s isabella valentine, has a website where she sells recordings, mostly for men. but there are several gender-neutral ones, such as the first recording of her hands-free orgasm series "jackpot". no, I m in no way related or affiliated to her, though I wish I were, lol)

 

[Patchouli]

*pounces shy*


Okay, my situation is slightly different, but along the same lines. My "conditioning" happened in one night while I slept. It was the same type of thing Homburg discribed, only done in a very short period, and with out my prior knowledge or concent. He thought I'd be happier with a higher libido, then a few years later split because I wanted too much sex. .

i'm very interested in this. my libido is awful. i really want to be able to have sex with my husband whenever he wants (and also to want to have sex myself). i have some health issues that interfere with my sex drive. since they aren't going to go away any time soon, i'd love some advice as to how to increase my psychological need to have sex. any thoughts?

 

[redheadedtxn]

Hi all -
I would love to be able to cum on command. Thanks to Allyourbase who, in posting links to articles in another thread, turned me on to the one below (the link to the full article is at the very bottom of this post).

I would like to hear from anyone who can cum on command - how did you get there? How long did it take? Tips? Does it only work if you are already highly sexually aroused, or can you go from like zero to sixty in a few seconds flat? Please share your experiences. Thanks!

Also, if you tried conditioning and it didn't work, I would like to hear about that too...

-PF-

Conditioning (part II)

Another fun and kinky way to play with the mind's incredible flexibility is to use good old-fashioned operant conditioning in the bedroom.

Pick a word, or a name, and say it when your partner reaches orgasm. Keep saying it as your partner comes. Continue to do this every time you have sex; gradually use the word just the instant before your partner comes, then a little bit longer before orgasm, then a little bit longer...

With work and practice, it's often possible to train your partner to orgasm whenever they hear that word. Like, in the mall, in the office, anywhere.

http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm_scenarios.html

Sending article to Master. Thank you

 

[FungiUg]

my libido is awful. [...] i'd love some advice as to how to increase my psychological need to have sex. any thoughts?

Have you spoken to your doctor about it? Libido can be depressed by illness (mental and physical.)

 

[Patchouli]

i have. it is mostly medical. there's nothing really to be done for it though I've been working on it and am hoping for the best, but...

 

[FungiUg]

i have. it is mostly medical. there's nothing really to be done for it though I've been working on it and am hoping for the best, but...

I'm not sure D/s-style conditioning can help then. You might consider therapeutic hypnosis though.

 

[minette05]

what an intriguing thread...my hubby and I embarked on this endeavor several years ago...and it has been a wonderful skill to have...especially during tedious meetings at work...

Conditioning: I'm not 100% certain what the exact method was. He would get me to a point...just before that crucial moment of explosion...and stop...and I would focus on what was going on in my body...all of the sensations, what muscles were contracting, what I was feeling, what I was thinking about, and I put my focus into that. From there, we stopped sooner each time, and I used those sensations, imagery, muscle energy contractions etc, to get me to the magic point. The key element was that I was not to touch, nor would he. It had to happen without touch.

Cumming on Command: he has a hand signal, which when I see it along with a certain glint in his eye....triggers instantly. If I choose to enjoy on my own, I will use the same hand signal so he knows what I am doing.

Point of order: this wasn't a dom/sub thing for us, but I learned how to do it while we were exploring bdsm

Can I go from 0-explosion in a short time? depends. It is most fun to do this during an ordinary conversation with someone, especially if he whispers in their ear what I am doing, and to see the expression on their face.

It takes practice, focusing on what your body does and responds to, in order to get where you want to be....but it is so worth it.

 

[laceNlthrgrrl]

Cum just from being told, like in the market? Not a chance.

Cum with permission-only, because He's been paying attention, knows how to dangle me on the edge, and how to manipulate to his content. Yes, dammit!

 

[SheWolfe07]

Hi PleasureFan

I can.

Back when I was 'straight' - and a sub - our minds (my Dom and mine, that is) were so connected that he could make me cum on command, whether we were together in person, or thousands of miles apart. The toad would even ring me at work, knowing how busy I was and that there were tons of people around me...and make me cum in front of everyone.

Have never felt more embarrassed in my life! Had to pretend I 'wasn't feeling well' and 'just had a sudden stomach ache' when they all looked at me oddly as I rushed out of the office and into the ladies room.

Of course, it helped that his will was far stronger than mine - and he's the only person in the world who can lay claim to that. (in case anyone's wondering, although we're not D/s anymore, we remain each others' very best friend).

So yes, people can cum on command. And it's fantastic!

 

[the captians wench]

Hi PleasureFan

I can.

Back when I was 'straight' - and a sub - our minds (my Dom and mine, that is) were so connected that he could make me cum on command, whether we were together in person, or thousands of miles apart. The toad would even ring me at work, knowing how busy I was and that there were tons of people around me...and make me cum in front of everyone.

Have never felt more embarrassed in my life! Had to pretend I 'wasn't feeling well' and 'just had a sudden stomach ache' when they all looked at me oddly as I rushed out of the office and into the ladies room.

Of course, it helped that his will was far stronger than mine - and he's the only person in the world who can lay claim to that. (in case anyone's wondering, although we're not D/s anymore, we remain each others' very best friend).

So yes, people can cum on command. And it's fantastic!

I have such a love hate relationship when it comes to this very thing.

A friend took me out for my birthday. It was a busy night and in the middle of dinner he looks me in the eyes, gently takes my hand, and pulls my trigger. There I am wetting my panties, head down, blushed cheeks, taking very measured breaths and squeezing the life out of his hand while the room around us is filled with chatter and the bustle of the dinner rush.

When I composed myself, I looked up and back down with a blush all over again.

Certainly not the only time this has happened, but it was one of the more. . . elegantly executed occasions.

 

[Kurokami]

Hey, I finally got this to work for the first time yesterday! It was pretty cool!

I didn't know if you could actually condition a person to cum on cue when I was first introduced to the idea, but I sure as hell knew I wanted to find out. Luckily my fiance, who's pretty orgasmic anyway, was highly receptive to the idea. It's been several weeks of experimentation since then, seeing how quickly I could get her to the edge and hold her there while repeating a specific word in a specific way. We had a little success trying out her command previously; I could get her hot, but couldn't get her to cum. Still, we persisted.

And then last night we finally crossed that finish line! I came up behind her while she was in the kitchen and whispered that special word in her ear and bam: she's gasping and squeezing her thighs together. After the initial period of confusion and the realization that, finally, she had reached orgasm with me barely touching her, we both started laughing because, in her words, "That's fuckin' cool!" I'll probably try it a few more times before we're ready to take this trick on the road (which we're both very excited to try) but our persistence paid off!

So I guess my message is, never give up! And thank you all for giving me the idea, because it is awesome.

 

[SlaveAtHeart]

Training and conditioning for this takes a lot of time and patience. There is no way this can also be achieved through online communication alone. You need the physical aspect and closeness for it to work, anyone that claims they have done from an entirely cyber aspect it bullshitting you, or they have be lied to by their significant other about cumming.

I hate to say, but that is not necessarily true. Once the deep trust is there between those involved, it can be very easily and quickly. Some much so that I completely surprised my Dom at that time.

 

[SlaveAtHeart]

I can. Or, I should say, I have in the past.

How long did it take? It wasn't taught or trained. It's just something that happened. It happened once the total trust was in place through everything we did.

It worked at any point in time. It did not matter where we were, what we were doing or who we were with. With one exception - when the kids were around.

It first occurred due to the tone of voice. Once he recognized that for what it was, he took full advantage of my desire to please and assigned a word to the action. And just like that, it was done.

LOL! That "just like that" occurred AFTER a long period of a deep M/s relationship of full trust, love and respect.

 

[jpin]

I have weird fantasies - like being conditioned to only be allowed to cum doing something I don't like but the dom wants. I can see how this would be good for a dom - but no idea why it would be good for me, lol.

 

[hidden1]

My guess would be...

I have weird fantasies - like being conditioned to only be allowed to cum doing something I don't like but the dom wants. I can see how this would be good for a dom - but no idea why it would be good for me, lol.

It pushes both your masochistic and submissive buttons at the same time.

 

[jpin]

It pushes both your masochistic and submissive buttons at the same time.

But I didn't know I had either of those.......

 

[seven_of_nine]

Not yet but I'm confident it could happen. I'm very verbally oriented during play and verbal humiliation often gets me wetter and closer than masturbation would. Fear is also a huge trigger for me. One day the mix will be right and perhaps once I've peeled myself off the ceilng I'll remember to pop back here and tell you what it was.