Coming down from sub-high (subs only please)

[MasterPhoenix]

The only cure for "coming down from the sub-high" is more sub high!

The hair of the bitch, there eh?

 

[richard_daily]

You people who aren't subs are being dicks, and now you're making me be a dick by telling you that you're being dicks.

Dicks.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

You people who aren't subs are being dicks, and now you're making me be a dick by telling you that you're being dicks.

Dicks.

Limiting a sub's contact with certain groups of people is dickish behavour.

*shrugs*

 

[richard_daily]

Limiting a sub's contact with certain groups of people is dickish behavour.

*shrugs*

In my opinion, of course; but a sub has the right to their own opinions on the matter, and if they choose to follow the rules, that's ok by me.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

You people who aren't subs are being dicks, and now you're making me be a dick by telling you that you're being dicks.

Dicks.

I disagree. Scrotumesque, perhaps. Not unlike the behavior of a foreskin? I'll give you that. But full-fledged dickishness? Hardly. I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I can be really dickish, and I think your usage devalues the true meaning of prickhood.

 

[Stella_Omega]

In my opinion, of course; but a sub has the right to their own opinions on the matter, and if they choose to follow the rules, that's ok by me.

This.

 

[satindesire]

Just a word of warning, Richard. GB Trolls don't usually last long here on the BDSM board. We tend to eat them alive.

 

[richard_daily]

Just a word of warning, Richard. GB Trolls don't usually last long here on the BDSM board. We tend to eat them alive.

Is that a threat, or a promise?

 

[satindesire]

Is that a threat, or a promise?

Neither. Just a head's up that this board isn't the GB, and we do things a little differently around here, so you should mind your manners.

 

[richard_daily]

Neither. Just a head's up that this board isn't the GB, and we do things a little differently around here, so you should mind your manners.

I have manners?

 

[satindesire]

I have manners?

No, you don't.


But that's your choice.

 

[richard_daily]

No, you don't.


But that's your choice.

You're cute when you're mad.

 

[satindesire]

You're cute when you're mad.

You've got it all wrong, I'm cute -all- the time.

 

[richard_daily]

You've got it all wrong, I'm cute -all- the time.

I stand corrected.

 

[bruisedweasel]

Well, I think the thread has run its course, once the topic goes out the window.

First off, thank you to those who offered advice and pointed me in the right direction for more advice. I have an idea what to look out for, why it happens, and how to react so I don't freak myself out again. I even thank the PYLs who posted useful information or insight.

Secondly, my goodness but there are some whiny people here. Not many, but some. Grow up.

 

[satindesire]

Well, I think the thread has run its course, once the topic goes out the window.

First off, thank you to those who offered advice and pointed me in the right direction for more advice. I have an idea what to look out for, why it happens, and how to react so I don't freak myself out again. I even thank the PYLs who posted useful information or insight.

Secondly, my goodness but there are some whiny people here. Not many, but some. Grow up.

Let's get one thing perfectly clear, before you go telling people to grow up.

This is a PUBLIC thread in a PUBLIC forum, which means your Dom has about as much control over the people posting in it as you do.

So telling people "Only subs can post here" is just silly. Doms have just as much right to be here as anyone else, and can give you just as much good advice. Plus, telling people "Only subs can post here" will just MAKE the Doms post here to spite you. You'd be better off just owning up to the fact that Doms and subs are equally valuable in advice giving and their 'rightfulness' in threads.

 

[Jaded_One]

Can I ask a quick question before the thread dies.... is the sub high from adrenaline? Or partly? If so, is that what will make the crash and subsequent difficulty in getting back to normal?

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Can I ask a quick question before the thread dies.... is the sub high from adrenaline? Or partly? If so, is that what will make the crash and subsequent difficulty in getting back to normal?

More from endorphins than adrenaline.

Endorphins ("endogenous morphine") are endogenous opioid peptides that function as neurotransmitters. They are produced by the pituitary gland and the hypothalamus in vertebrates during exercise, excitement, pain, consumption of spicy food and orgasm, and they resemble the opiates in their abilities to produce analgesia and a feeling of well-being.

The term "endorphin" implies a pharmacological activity (analogous to the activity of the corticosteroid category of biochemicals) as opposed to a specific chemical formulation. It consists of two parts: endo- and -orphin; these are short forms of the words endogenous and morphine, intended to mean "a morphine-like substance originating from within the body."

The term endorphin rush has been adopted in popular speech to refer to feelings of exhilaration brought on by pain, danger, or other forms of stress, supposedly due to the influence of endorphins. When a nerve impulse reaches the spinal cord, endorphins are released which prevent nerve cells from releasing more pain signals. Immediately after injury, endorphins allow animals to feel a sense of power and control over themselves that allows them to persist with activity for an extended time.

 

[satindesire]

Can I ask a quick question before the thread dies.... is the sub high from adrenaline? Or partly? If so, is that what will make the crash and subsequent difficulty in getting back to normal?

It's a mixture of hormones and chemicals. Basically, it's the same kind of high you get when you ride a roller coaster or bungee jump.

The "crash" is your body struggling to normalize.

 

[Jaded_One]

Thank you Daddy2mylilgirl and Satindesire... those were very informative answers.... do Doms experience a "crash" after a scene or session with a sub?

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Thank you Daddy2mylilgirl and Satindesire... those were very informative answers.... do Doms experience a "crash" after a scene or session with a sub?

They can. It all depends on the Dom.

 

[satindesire]

Thank you Daddy2mylilgirl and Satindesire... those were very informative answers.... do Doms experience a "crash" after a scene or session with a sub?

D2MLG is correct. It does happen, only because said activities are just as likely to cause a hormone rush in a sub as it is in a Dom/me. It's commonly referred to as "Top Drop" or Dom/me Drop".

 

[FungiUg]

Can I ask a quick question before the thread dies.... is the sub high from adrenaline? Or partly? If so, is that what will make the crash and subsequent difficulty in getting back to normal?

You've already got some answers. What I understand is that it's a mix of pure emotional intensity combined with chemical (endorphins mostly, some adrenaline but that doesn't last long in the body). Dealing with going back to "normality" becomes both an emotional thing (often just out of pure contrast) and the body's reaction to lots of endorphins. Similar in some ways to how you get a slump after a sugar high.

You can also get much the same reaction if, life me, you're a roller coaster junkie and spend the day doing roller coasters, then have to go to work the next day.

do Doms experience a "crash" after a scene or session with a sub?

Some do. With me, it depends on what I am doing. If it's lots of topping (rope work, bondage) then not so much because that's more light hearted and fun and intereactive for me. Whereas if I'm "in the zone" for something like an intense mental domination scene or full body pain infliction, then yeah... I slump big time the next day.

 

[redheadedtxn]

Ohhh - it is hard to cope with!
A few things that have worked for me -
Preemptive strike - i drink a few gatorade zeros prior to playtime. i have one or two on hand for when i return home as well. That has probably helped me more than anything else.
Also, lots of snuggle time during/after.
If it is really bad, i am fortunate to be in the same office as Master - and i text Him that i need to make a coffee run. Just having a few minutes alone with Him helps A LOT. It's not always possible though!

 

[Submissive_Salena]

Um... don't think that's necessarily sub drop, Salena. More like sub high.

If you're new to experiencing submission (or dominance), then it can be all-encompassing, and you think about it all the time, and your body reacts accordingly making it hard to sleep, function, work, etc.

It's another vital part of aftercare, helping reintegrate with normal life function. And it's hard, especially for people who have never experienced it before.

Talk to your dominant about it. Honestly. You may need a daily programme of vigorous exercise, a meal planner, an enforced work schedule... whatever works to get you back on track. You can explore that with your dominant.

LMAO... of course! I am new to this and still trying to walk thru the mine fields of terms... thanks for the clarification...