Wildcard Ky
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I'll just a quote that seems to fit this situation.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Come fuck with my head please.
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LadyJeanne
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Wildcard Ky said:
It fits and there's a lot of truth in it; howevah, some people are really, really good at the manipulation thing and take you pretty far down the road before you realize you've no idea where you are anymore or who it is that you're with. It creeps in slowly, insidiously.
Eventually you realize you have to break free. But the damage has been done.
cloudy
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LadyJeanne said:
Oh, honey, yes!
People that have never been in that situation just don't realize what it's like.
When I got married, I was sponsored by a local nightclub in those tanning contests they used to have before we realized how horrible it was for your skin. I was 32, had two kids, but I looked good.
Within maybe 5 years, I had become convinced that I was ugly, and that no one else would ever want me. Your self-esteem is slowly ground away, and you don't even notice it until you, one day, look in the mirror and have one of those epiphanies......You're NOT ugly, you're NOT stupid, and there ARE plenty out there that would love to be with you.
It's truly horrible, the way some people beat each other down.
It's all about their insecurities, and their need to feel in control.
LadyJeanne
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cloudy said:
Exactly. Then all the hard work starts when you have to fight all the "you are ugly, you are stupid" thoughts that creep back into your head even though you know better, even after the epiphany. It stays with you for a long time.
rgraham666
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It isn't just SOs that can do that.
Parents and other authourity figures can do it just as well.
I gave up trying when I was nine. That was the year my public school principal told my mom that I couldn't be taught.
I only recently realised that almost everything I've done since has been something 'outsiders' do. When I started computer programming, it was something that 'normal' people didn't do.
When programming became common, and 'normal', I felt I had to leave it. I knew there was no way for me to be 'normal'.
Same with writing now. Only 'outsiders' write. As been noted on numerous threads here, we tend to keep our writing to ourselves, and maybe a few trusted friends.
Much of the North American mindset is based on not feeling good about yourself. It's that whole Puritan 'life is a vale of tears' and 'if you have fun now you'll be punished in the afterlife' thing. Most of us are told everyday, through media, that we're not good enough.
No wonder so many of us are emotionally troubled.
Parents and other authourity figures can do it just as well.
I gave up trying when I was nine. That was the year my public school principal told my mom that I couldn't be taught.
I only recently realised that almost everything I've done since has been something 'outsiders' do. When I started computer programming, it was something that 'normal' people didn't do.
When programming became common, and 'normal', I felt I had to leave it. I knew there was no way for me to be 'normal'.
Same with writing now. Only 'outsiders' write. As been noted on numerous threads here, we tend to keep our writing to ourselves, and maybe a few trusted friends.
Much of the North American mindset is based on not feeling good about yourself. It's that whole Puritan 'life is a vale of tears' and 'if you have fun now you'll be punished in the afterlife' thing. Most of us are told everyday, through media, that we're not good enough.
No wonder so many of us are emotionally troubled.
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