Come again?

[LargoKitt]

Strictly in the interest of scholarly research and story authenticity: I would love to hear from some writers and readers with ovaries about your orgasms. A dude knows when he is done, though sometimes he might run out of steam before the load is delivered. Women appear to have a greater range of what an orgasm is. It can be different at different times and can change over a lifetime from 'gentle buzz' to 'I totally lost my mind' and maybe back to a buzz again. So your character in a story is masturbating, or with a partner. What does she need to 'get there'? Where is 'there'? What makes it disappointing, frustrating,... better than the last time? What tells her she needs to go again? Can she push right through that bit when her clit is too sensitive? How does she tell her partner (or her fingers or her device) what they need to do to get her to 'that place? Have women changed in terms of being vocal about exactly what they want? (Maybe separate thread: What features would your magic sex toy have?) Coda: Even though these questions could lead to some really interesting storytelling about how a woman is experiencing her sexuality, I feel like the response to them could be 'mind you own business.'

 

[EmilyMiller]

Maybe ask in audio…

 

[nice90sguy]

Judging by my last two long-term partners, there's less differnce than people assume:

 

[Jorunn]

There are so many questions here, and it surely fits that if you have read one orgasm description, all it means is that you have read one orgasm description. It is not far off to say if you have experienced one orgasm, it means you have experienced one orgasm.

 

[StillStunned]

My wife usually shouts downstairs that I can start making her breakfast.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

My wife usually shouts downstairs that I can start making her breakfast.

I'd think with the onset of fall and your fur beginning to get a little thicker, she might want to cuddle for a while on these chilly mornings.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Strictly in the interest of scholarly research and story authenticity: I would love to hear from some writers and readers with ovaries about your orgasms. A dude knows when he is done, though sometimes he might run out of steam before the load is delivered. Women appear to have a greater range of what an orgasm is. It can be different at different times and can change over a lifetime from 'gentle buzz' to 'I totally lost my mind' and maybe back to a buzz again. So your character in a story is masturbating, or with a partner. What does she need to 'get there'? Where is 'there'? What makes it disappointing, frustrating,... better than the last time? What tells her she needs to go again? Can she push right through that bit when her clit is too sensitive? How does she tell her partner (or her fingers or her device) what they need to do to get her to 'that place? Have women changed in terms of being vocal about exactly what they want? (Maybe separate thread: What features would your magic sex toy have?) Coda: Even though these questions could lead to some really interesting storytelling about how a woman is experiencing her sexuality, I feel like the response to them could be 'mind you own business.'

I’m not gonna get into a detailed reply. Feels too much like sexting. But it is worth noting that the nerve bundles in our genital regions are homologous (broadly the same structures, but dragged into different shapes by differential tissue development mediated by the Y chromosome in men).

I’m not for a second saying male and female experience of orgasm is identical. But it’s not - biologically speaking - totally different.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Any and all of the above. Huge variation between women, and the same woman at different ages, time of the month, or mood or with a different partner.

Some sex may feel good but not technically involve coming, some orgasms may not be that great (ideally both mind as well as body are on board for maximum effect).

So play with that how you wish. It is a trope that women often won't want sex and won't come if they're stressed, worried or angry, whereas men will often want and enjoy sex as a distraction. I think there's a bit of truth in it, but it doesn't apply to everyone.