collarme.com

[BlueSugar]

I think they need a little help getting questions and answers and a proper FAQ page *nods*

Lit bdsm should raid CollarMe boards.

 

[onceburned]

Lit bdsm should raid CollarMe boards.

Come on over! We welcome fresh faces and new voices.

 

[timberwolf05]

collarme? lit?

Come on over! We welcome fresh faces and new voices.

i am at both boards and have been a lonnnnng time.

lol

 

[SweetDommes]

Me too ... well, I'm at both boards - I've only been posting at cm for ... hmm... maybe 6 months now. But still, long enough, right?

 

[jasonlf]

Of course, mere hours after my collarme rant, some cute sub, within 4 hours of me, contacts me to talk.

This is how life goes, of course.

Haha!

 

[O'Mac]

Argh! Collarme is frustrating the hell outta me right now.

All I'm trying to do is upload a picture to my profile page. All I keep getting is: The file you uploaded was not recognized as a valid image

WTF? It's a JPEG! How is that not valid? Three more attempts until I toss this PC out the window.

 

[TaintedB]

Suggestions:

1. Make sure the file extension is .jpg not jpeg or anything else. It has to have an extension.

2. Open the image in a graphics program and re-save it under a new name and as a jpeg type. Again make sure the file extension says .jpg.

I have no idea if the above will work with collarme's issue or not, but it works for a lot of places.

 

[IronCraft]

pros and cons.

I think a profile needs to begin with the pros of what you seek.

Deal makers.

Then state "'deal breakers" second. Make it clear that if you fit the latter-you won't be replied to. No need to get all bent out of shape over cretins who write,just skim,hit delete and move on. Why give them the power to screw up what you WANT by making you chase off the people you desire with negativity?

 

[onceburned]

That is fine, but I think Collarme profiles often focus too much on kink. I am more interested in the person. We already know they are kinky.

So I prefer to learn more about the person to see if there is enough to hold us together. Kink isn't enough. So I like to see more vanilla type information, something to give me a sense of their life and personality.

 

[Private_Label]

Us??? Here at Lit???????? BLUSH!?!?!?!?! *falls out of chair laughing*

*newbie raises hand*

But more at myself than anything else.
Ask me again when the new subbie smell wears off.

 

[jasonlf]

Hey, can I get some female opinions on my collarme profile?

http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/126071/details.htm

If you read that, what do you think? Anything you'd edit/change?

 

[DVS]

Suggestions:

1. Make sure the file extension is .jpg not jpeg or anything else. It has to have an extension.

2. Open the image in a graphics program and re-save it under a new name and as a jpeg type. Again make sure the file extension says .jpg.

I have no idea if the above will work with collarme's issue or not, but it works for a lot of places.

Yes, jpg should be the extension. And, you don't have to open it up in a graphix program to rename the extension, if it's already jpeg. If it was BMP or GIF, you would have to, but jpeg and jpg are the same format, just some extension names aren't understood by some programs.

Just removing the E in the extension might be all you need to do. Because it's a four letter extension, some programs don't understand that. It's a basic problem with the world as we know it, but somewhat easy to get around.

And, that might not be your problem, in this instance, but it is a good place to start. TaintedB won't send you down the wrong path.

 

[sincerely_helene]

Welp, I caved and am all set up at collarme now (mostly just cause I wanted to see all the pics from the other threads you folks were posting.)

I have to admit, my profile falls under the "less than submissive" seeming category Betticus speaks of, though a lot of that is just my dry Canadian humour.

I don't know if it is normal to recieve a hundred messages within the first 24 hours, but now that I'm more established things seem to be slowing down a bit which is good because I was having a difficult time keeping up.

Jason: I read your profile, and thought it made you seem very approachable. Nice work, and nice choice in photos. Hard to resist a man in a suit.

Could anyone enlighten me as to why my itty bitty pic is showing up as huge? I made a point to resizing it. Also, is there a way to "hide" myself from people seeing when I'm there and whether or not I have read their messages? I feel like I'm being spied on and have been called out on a couple of occasions for not responding right away.

 

[TaintedB]

Yes, jpg should be the extension. And, you don't have to open it up in a graphix program to rename the extension, if it's already jpeg. If it was BMP or GIF, you would have to, but jpeg and jpg are the same format, just some extension names aren't understood by some programs.

Just removing the E in the extension might be all you need to do. Because it's a four letter extension, some programs don't understand that. It's a basic problem with the world as we know it, but somewhat easy to get around.
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Well, I've run across files with jpeg extensions that were actually gifs or bitmaps, even tiffs, which someone saved with the wrong extention. So it never hurts to open the alleged jpeg in an "open all graphics no matter what their extension says" program and save it as a jpeg.

 

[DVS]

Welp, I caved and am all set up at collarme now (mostly just cause I wanted to see all the pics from the other threads you folks were posting.)

I have to admit, my profile falls under the "less than submissive" seeming category Betticus speaks of, though a lot of that is just my dry Canadian humour.

I don't know if it is normal to recieve a hundred messages within the first 24 hours, but now that I'm more established things seem to be slowing down a bit which is good because I was having a difficult time keeping up.

Jason: I read your profile, and thought it made you seem very approachable. Nice work, and nice choice in photos. Hard to resist a man in a suit.

Could anyone enlighten me as to why my itty bitty pic is showing up as huge? I made a point to resizing it. Also, is there a way to "hide" myself from people seeing when I'm there and whether or not I have read their messages? I feel like I'm being spied on and have been called out on a couple of occasions for not responding right away.

I wouldn't hit on Jason, but I don't think I'm his type, anyway.

On the pics, I'd say there is some sort of blowup on the site that allows a picture to be seen larger than it actually is. That allows smaller files, less disk space and happier viewers. Now, if you are the person being viewed, I can't help you there. You'd probably end up doing what you did, resize the photo.

As for overriding the abiltiy for those who sent the message to see when you opened it, I kind of like that ability. But, I'm not impatiently waiting for a response. If someone doesn't respond, I've then got a pretty good idea as to why. Tell those who bitch to you about it to fuck off. I'd be happy if just a couple would have responded to my messages.

In fact, I sent out some more messages to the few who never EVER opened mine. Either they have fillters turned on that somehow filter out my message, or they might not even be showing up any more, and didn't even bother to close down their profile.

Actually, I think those small things you mention are some of the few things the senders have in their favor. It's sometimes possible to find out if someone is going to respond, without waiting for it. You honest ones, who do respond, can suffer with that, the same as I suffer having to deal with the idiot posers and wannabees that make it ever more difficult for we honest ones on this side to get noticed. Sorry.

 

[DVS]

Well, I've run across files with jpeg extensions that were actually gifs or bitmaps, even tiffs, which someone saved with the wrong extention. So it never hurts to open the alleged jpeg in an "open all graphics no matter what their extension says" program and save it as a jpeg.

What kind of crappy program would allow you to save a GIF as a JPG or anything else other than a JPG? Sounds like junk to me.

EDITED. Just noticed I fucked this up. I intended to say...
What kind of crappy program would allow you to save a GIF as a JPG or anything else other than a GIF? Sounds like junk to me.

Sorry.

 

[serijules]

Hey, can I get some female opinions on my collarme profile?

http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/126071/details.htm

If you read that, what do you think? Anything you'd edit/change?

I probably am not one to say anything because we are 100% non-compatible in a D/s sense in basically every way imaginable, LOL, but...

"I just need a good woman to use as an outlet for this affection."

I read this and thought "ok, so he thinks of this as just a game and wants someone to entertain his whims?"

Also, just a thought, but the whole "if you have a photo then you must be real!" thing doesn't work, and makes you come across as a tad bit shallow (at least to me). If I were looking for someone and they felt photos were important enough to actually list a need for them in their profile...I'd walk away. That just screams shallow and "I only care about what you look like" to me. Anyone can fake photos. Sharing a photo means absolutely nothing in terms of if that is really who the person is, so it's worthless in terms of self-protection against fake people. Why not get to know people first, ask for a photo once you have gotten to know them a bit better, and go from there? Not everyone is comfortable with the idea of handing out photos to perfect strangers, but that doesn't mean they are fake or not worth your time.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Hey, can I get some female opinions on my collarme profile?

http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/126071/details.htm

If you read that, what do you think? Anything you'd edit/change?

clear up the pic or find one that is of better quality. (KC likes neat crisp Doms )

 

[O'Mac]

Finally got the pic up on my Collarme page. I realise now that the problem was that it was just too big a picture and would not fit on the page. My bad.

 

[princess4u]

helene

I don't know if it is normal to recieve a hundred messages within the first 24 hours, but now that I'm more established things seem to be slowing down a bit which is good because I was having a difficult time keeping up.

i think that's pretty much par for the course when you establish your profile as a female submissive

Could anyone enlighten me as to why my itty bitty pic is showing up as huge? I made a point to resizing it.

the same thing happens with my pic on collarme - i made it smaller as well but it still appears in the larger size - and out of focus - if there is a way to correct it, i'd appreciate knowing about it as well

Also, is there a way to "hide" myself from people seeing when I'm there and whether or not I have read their messages? I feel like I'm being spied on and have been called out on a couple of occasions for not responding right away.

there is no way to avoid that as far as i know and i've been on that site for quite some time - as far as being called out for not responding quick enough - HA! - i don't respond to those messages at all

 

[princess4u]

Hey, can I get some female opinions on my collarme profile?

http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/126071/details.htm

If you read that, what do you think? Anything you'd edit/change?

"I just need a good woman to use as an outlet for this affection." i would take out that sentence - a good woman to use as an outlet???? oh come on now.....

you say that your sub will learn to be happy your way - what does that mean? her happiness will come from within herself from her service to you - i think she will learn to serve your way rather than learn to be happy your way

you have "physical" misspelled - misspelled words are a turn-off to me - and the correct phrase is preferable "to" rather than preferable "than"

what assurance do you have that the photo supplied to you is not "fake"? and what distance is "reasonable"?

...just my thoughts

 

[princess4u]

Finally got the pic up on my Collarme page. I realise now that the problem was that it was just too big a picture and would not fit on the page. My bad.

do we get to see????

 

[sincerely_helene]

I wouldn't hit on Jason, but I don't think I'm his type, anyway.

On the pics, I'd say there is some sort of blowup on the site that allows a picture to be seen larger than it actually is. That allows smaller files, less disk space and happier viewers. Now, if you are the person being viewed, I can't help you there. You'd probably end up doing what you did, resize the photo.

As for overriding the abiltiy for those who sent the message to see when you opened it, I kind of like that ability. But, I'm not impatiently waiting for a response. If someone doesn't respond, I've then got a pretty good idea as to why. Tell those who bitch to you about it to fuck off. I'd be happy if just a couple would have responded to my messages.

In fact, I sent out some more messages to the few who never EVER opened mine. Either they have fillters turned on that somehow filter out my message, or they might not even be showing up any more, and didn't even bother to close down their profile.

Actually, I think those small things you mention are some of the few things the senders have in their favor. It's sometimes possible to find out if someone is going to respond, without waiting for it. You honest ones, who do respond, can suffer with that, the same as I suffer having to deal with the idiot posers and wannabees that make it ever more difficult for we honest ones on this side to get noticed. Sorry.

In all my years at Alt, I have always made a point to replying to even the ones I'm not compatable with as a courtesy for their time and effort. It is a little harder for me to do that at collarme because I can't seem to keep up, so I may just close the account alltogether.

As long as their response doesn't consist of "I'm Ur Mastr, now come suck my fat dic," I have no problem acknowledging that I recieved the message. What really annoys me is when they tell me how much they liked my profile, and then proceed ask me if I will particpate in a threesome with them and their wife. My profile is quite specific in stating that I'm not interested in that kind of thing.

I find it very disrespectful to contact someone without first reading their details, and even more disrepectful to lie about it and say you did.

Another pet peeve is when you are direct and honest about what you are and are not looking for, and end up with hate emails insisting you're not a submissive because of it. It's like you only earn that title if you address perfect strangers as 'Sir' or 'Master,' and heaven forbid you should voice an opinion or possess standards or limits.

 

[jasonlf]

@the comments about the photo line:

I included that because, quite frankly, I've been lied to by a girl on an online dating service before.... i.e. "Oh, I'm tall, slim, and blonde", then she comes and she's a medium-height pudgy brunette. Not saying she wasn't cute, but I'm saying I've been lied to before about that stuff and it makes me more nervous.

@the comments about the affection line:

Yeah, I should that that out. It sounds creepy reading it now.

@the picture comments

Just got my digital camera fixed, so next time I'm snazzied up, I'm going to have another photo taken. My webcam takes shit for photos.

 

[serijules]

@the comments about the photo line:

I included that because, quite frankly, I've been lied to by a girl on an online dating service before.... i.e. "Oh, I'm tall, slim, and blonde", then she comes and she's a medium-height pudgy brunette. Not saying she wasn't cute, but I'm saying I've been lied to before about that stuff and it makes me more nervous.

Um ok Jason, we get that, but how is showing you a photo any different than saying "Oh, I'm a tall, slim, and blonde"? I could take a photo of my sister and send it to you and you wouldn't know the difference.

All you are achieving is scaring away people that don't want to talk to someone shallow enough to demand photos straight up, which is how you come across with that request. *shrugs*

I spent years talking to a guy online that I became very close to who right before we were to meet, confessed he was actually a she. So I very much understand the "fake people" fear, but my point is, you are not going to avoid it with your methods.