Cock & Balls !!!

[Steelbutterfly]

Ok im pretty new here so i hope i dont offend anyone.

Im a 23yr old female, and i have a male friend who is 41 and he is a virgin, ive known him a while now and he as told me he jerks off alot and the other day while we was talking he told me he had a fantasy were a girl takes control when he masturbates, and said he wants to have his balls and cock locked up and me to keep the key and then say when he can or cannot jerk off, now i dont have a clue when he asks me to take control so need help, what does he mean by take control of him masturbating, and his balls and dick !!!

Hope ive explained the above correctly, and hope to hear from you all soon.

Ps I quiet like the thought of being in charge of a guy sexualy, but he says he masturbates like 4/5 times aday or makes himself sore

Debs x

 

[OzoneRed]

Apparently, he's talking about using a male chastity device, the male equivalent of the female chastity belt. Probably the best places to do some research are:

Altairboy's chastity site, which includes reviews of chastity devices and links to manufacturers.

The LockMeUp forum, a forum simiar to this for people, mostly males, interested in chastity.

 

[Steelbutterfly]

Thank you for your help "OzoneRed"

Like i said never done anythink like this before so im a little worried, although very curious since he asked me, but dont have a clue about this device and how long a guy can be locked up for, let alone kicking him between the legs, so i dunno i need to think about it as dont want to hurt him, but do admit the power i would have is enjoyable, think most women would love to have that hold over there man, although he isnt my bf or husband just a male friend.

debs x

 

[Homburg]

but do admit the power i would have is enjoyable, think most women would love to have that hold over there man, although he isnt my bf or husband just a male friend.

debs x

Actually, no. Quite a large number of women would enjoy that sort of power or activity. I am talking about submissive women, of course.

 

[a_caged_cock]

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[EmpressFi]

Actually, no. Quite a large number of women would enjoy that sort of power or activity. I am talking about submissive women, of course.

*whistles innocently*

 

[Etoile]

If he isn't your boyfriend now, and he wants you to control his sex life, do you really feel that's appropriate? Is he really a virgin at 41? This whole situation sounds kind of messed up to me; I would take it slow if I were you.

 

[infinity706]

If he isn't your boyfriend now, and he wants you to control his sex life, do you really feel that's appropriate? Is he really a virgin at 41? This whole situation sounds kind of messed up to me; I would take it slow if I were you.

I don't think it's a problem at all. Fuck buddies are fun.

 

[Etoile]

I don't think it's a problem at all. Fuck buddies are fun.

That did occur to me, but the guy's a virgin. He's got expectations based on porn, and he'll find real life can be very different.

 

[wouldloveto]

That did occur to me, but the guy's a virgin. He's got expectations based on porn, and he'll find real life can be very different.

You make some good points, but...

While I was not a virgin, I was vanilla, and I craved similar experiences. They both should take it slow and take care that expectations are clear, but give the guy a break, he is seeking real human contact.

 

[infinity706]

That did occur to me, but the guy's a virgin. He's got expectations based on porn, and he'll find real life can be very different.

I see your point, but it also depends on how you define virgin. I'm sure you've seen all the posts by women "I'm a virgin, but my boyfriend and I have done everything else..." Being that he's wanting chastity play, it's very possible that could be why he's a virgin. This could end up just being a fuck buddy that she doesn't actually get fucked with his cock. He may very well be talented in various other skills.

 

[oneguy4fun]

My wife controls my orgasms and I think its awesome. I love the control she has over me. We do not use chastity devices. It's more of a trust thing, or if I get caught masturbating then there will be a punishment. If you're nervous about chastity, then you can start without it. A great website to learn about this is www.orgasmdeinal.com

 

[Steelbutterfly]

Firstly thanks everyone for your thoughts do mean alot as like i say ive never done anythink like this or not to sure how to go about it, what i will say is he is not or ever will be my fuck buddy as you call it, i admit ive watched and given him handjobs but for me i wouldnt want sex, he is a virgin and asnt done a thing as far as i know well thats what he says, he masturbates ALOT but i guess thats normal for a guy, the idea of controling him does turn me on, but this chasity worries me as ive never done anythink like this were i control when and if he masturbates as thats the only sexual fun he has so i will admit im alittle worried, i do know one or two things about him as been friends for 7yrs, i know his first gf dumped him when at school as lets say he got over excited when he touched her legs and kissed but all guys do that but he took it bad, plus been sexualy abused at school, but im not sure how to go about this, it does interest me alot, but im use to being dominated well i was but im single now and have a daughter so, but he also wants me to hurt his balls by kicking and i admit that might turn me on a little but if he as one of these belts on is it safe, he says he wants to cry but i dont like hurtin people bad so i dunno, the thought of bneing in control of his balls and cock and when he masturbates does excite me and even kicking him between the legs but there is worrie in the back of my head as he masturbates 4/5 times a day sometimes he makes himself sore, and if i do this belt thing that i guess means he cant masturbate for a day never the less days so, i really need help from women that have done this or even guys that have been through it, i dont want to be a pain saying that im new here so dont want to out stay my welcome.

Debs

Ps Oneguy4fun that link didnt seem to work, ive got him to measure his cock when its soft to when hes fully hard, but from what ive seen when he is soft his dick is very small say 1" if that if im honest, so would his cock stay in this device, as for hard i would say 2.5 maybe 3" but looks thick so, i dont want to be the one that gets this device being a women preffer him to but dont mind helping.

PPs I will admit being a girl does excite me being in control of his cock and when he masturbates, i think i would get a sexual kick being abit of a bitch to him. i dont know if thats bad or not lol.

 

[satindesire]

Firstly thanks everyone for your thoughts do mean alot as like i say ive never done anythink like this or not to sure how to go about it, what i will say is he is not or ever will be my fuck buddy as you call it, i admit ive watched and given him handjobs but for me i wouldnt want sex, he is a virgin and asnt done a thing as far as i know well thats what he says, he masturbates ALOT but i guess thats normal for a guy, the idea of controling him does turn me on, but this chasity worries me as ive never done anythink like this were i control when and if he masturbates as thats the only sexual fun he has so i will admit im alittle worried, i do know one or two things about him as been friends for 7yrs, i know his first gf dumped him when at school as lets say he got over excited when he touched her legs and kissed but all guys do that but he took it bad, plus been sexualy abused at school, but im not sure how to go about this, it does interest me alot, but im use to being dominated well i was but im single now and have a daughter so, but he also wants me to hurt his balls by kicking and i admit that might turn me on a little but if he as one of these belts on is it safe, he says he wants to cry but i dont like hurtin people bad so i dunno, the thought of bneing in control of his balls and cock and when he masturbates does excite me and even kicking him between the legs but there is worrie in the back of my head as he masturbates 4/5 times a day sometimes he makes himself sore, and if i do this belt thing that i guess means he cant masturbate for a day never the less days so, i really need help from women that have done this or even guys that have been through it, i dont want to be a pain saying that im new here so dont want to out stay my welcome.

Debs

Ps Oneguy4fun that link didnt seem to work, ive got him to measure his cock when its soft to when hes fully hard, but from what ive seen when he is soft his dick is very small say 1" if that if im honest, so would his cock stay in this device, as for hard i would say 2.5 maybe 3" but looks thick so, i dont want to be the one that gets this device being a women preffer him to but dont mind helping.

PPs I will admit being a girl does excite me being in control of his cock and when he masturbates, i think i would get a sexual kick being abit of a bitch to him. i dont know if thats bad or not lol.

Okay, first, I wanna say welcome to literotica.

Second, I wanna point out that punctuation is your friend. It'll make reading your posts much easier.

Third, I wanna say, being comfortable sexually with someone takes time, communication and even more time. Just do your research, talk to him, and don't be scared of what either you or he is feeling right now.

 

[Etoile]

It sounds to me like the guy would benefit more from a therapist than a chastity cage, but that might just be me. The history of sexual abuse, masturbating till sore, inability to form and maintain healthy relationships, and the cry for help he's making to SB...they all say to me that a therapist is in order. I'm not suggesting he needs to be medicated, but he should talk with an objective third party and possibly even see a sex therapist.

Just my three or four cents, though.

 

[Steelbutterfly]

I just dont have a clue, reading what Etoile as said and one or two others, i know for me being in control of his cock and him masturbating does tbh turn me on, even kicking his balls etc, but thinking of him being abused by girls at school, it sounds like he wants to be abused by me, i just dont know what to do, i could do it for the kick for myself but will i be just as bad as these girls that abused him at school !!! startin to think maybe i should tell him i cant no matter how exciting it would be for me.

Debs

Ps Sorry if i miss, . etc out :S

 

[a_caged_cock]

I have to agree with Etoile that he needs a therapist. I worry that if you did enagage in play with this guy, you would end up in therapy yourself. Seriously.

I am reading that you are discovering new things that are a turn on for you, but there is a constant worry these new things are 'wrong'. Everyone needs to explore with someone that leaves you no doubt its very RIGHT!

 

[Steelbutterfly]

I just dont have a clue what to do, it does excite me sexualy if im honest, being in full control of his cock, his balls, and when he jerks off and if he cums or not in a selfish way, meaning i dont care about his feelings, and i feel i would enjoy it alot more then he would, and as for kicking him in the balls that i know would excite me sexualy, i just dont know though.....

Does he just want another girl to abuse him sexualy like what happend at school !

Whats a girl to do !!!

Debs xx

 

[unpredictablebijou]

My two scents:

talk to him a LOT about his history and yours.

read a LOT about power play, and everything else pertaining to what's going on for you right now.

This has to be pretty overwhelming. Stay chill, read everything you can get your hands on, and understand what the choices are and what the safety mechanisms are. That's important. Just read and read and read. That will really help a lot, trust me. You can follow links here, hit the library and stuff here, and you'll have plenty of information to get you started. Try searching terms like "dominance, submission, CBT (cock and ball torture) and orgasm denial." The librarians here are very helpful too, as well as everyone else.

Think of yourself as being in school right now. You're studying the coolest subject ever, and your "A" resides in having a satisfying set of interactions with this guy, something that does both of you GOOD.

Be careful. Ask lots of questions of people who have been there. And good luck.

bijou

 

[Steelbutterfly]

Well ive decided to give it agom curiousty mainly for my, to see how he will react when i have control of his cockm abd when he is allowed to jerk off and let alone cum, i think hes going to find it very hard as hes played with himself since he was a boy and for that to be took away i dont think he will cope, i will ask how should i go about it like if he starts begging me to let him out how far would you go, i was thinking maybe lock his cock up and then have him round mine let him out and allow him to masturbate and cum then lock him back up and maybe do that once a day, then the next week cut a day out i dunno, for me being in control of him and his so called sex life is going to be a real turn on, even when i think about it read the replies i got here about it does turn me on a great dealm as for kicking him in the balls i was going to do that when i let him masturbate and then say when hes on the floor 10min to make himself cum else i lock him back up but if his cock is hard is that possible !, ive thought about gettin a butt plug for him but thats for my extra little kick, but as i say hes been abused and a boy as fucked him when he was a boy so should i do that ! as i say im not a girl who like to be in control, i preffer me to be the one who is dominated so this is all new, but im a girl whos going to have somebody cock and balls and be in control of him jerking off and when he cums or not which again i will admit i get wet at the thought. but as for the device i dont want to have that on me as im a girl and dont have a cock so i dont know, what i will say is his cock is very small when ive seen it soft and hard no wonder hes a virgin as i wouldnt tell it was in if im honest, so not sure if he will get a device to hold his cock i dunno, god i sound like a real bitch lol, but if i become that bitch i feel i will get over excited were i want to be cruel to him even make him cry, so im back to the beginning do i or not if i do i may become a real bitch and become one of those girls that likes hurting him :s

 

[SirLeo]

Zippy one-liners

Okay, first, I wanna say welcome to literotica.

Second, I wanna point out that punctuation is your friend. It'll make reading your posts much easier.

Third, I wanna say, being comfortable sexually with someone takes time, communication and even more time. Just do your research, talk to him, and don't be scared of what either you or he is feeling right now.

The board is perking with em today. I love it:
"I wanna point out that punctuation is your friend."

*chuckles*

 

[Steelbutterfly]

The board is perking with em today. I love it:
"I wanna point out that punctuation is your friend."

*chuckles*

So sorry SirLeo when i chat i dont stop as you can see lol.

Anyway i talked to him last night and we got to measuring him soft and hard and heres his sizes and girls dont laugh although i did have a little gigle to myself when we did it, so here goes his cock when its soft is 1.5" long and 3.5 around, and when its fully hard he is 3" long and 5" around, so which chastity belt would work for his little cock, and what else does he need besides a lock which im going to get myself so he cant have extra keys made, but im liking this alot if im honest, but i do wonder how he will react once i lock his cock having masturbated for so long and 4/5 times a day......

Debs

Ps Sorry i keep posting just ive never done this before so.

 

[Steelbutterfly]

Ok im back again[:I]

The thing that interests me the most is kicking or hurting his balls even make him cry well dont know if i could do that but anyway, whats the best way is it worth tieing his legs open or what, and also whats best way use foot with shoe or boot, or use my foot with socks or tights or even bear, or use my knee or just use my hand, plus how hard can a guys balls be hurt, i know for me i will get excited or even carried away lol, but need advice, as for the CB device hes going to order the CB2000 and its going to be pink []. i will ask is that all he needs just the cb2000 !!!! as i said above im buying the locks and the plastic ones for now as recommend by a mistress.

Debs xx

Ps i hope im not being a pain here.

 

[gingermango]

Ok im back again[:I]

The thing that interests me the most is kicking or hurting his balls even make him cry well dont know if i could do that but anyway, whats the best way is it worth tieing his legs open or what, and also whats best way use foot with shoe or boot, or use my foot with socks or tights or even bear, or use my knee or just use my hand, plus how hard can a guys balls be hurt, i know for me i will get excited or even carried away lol, but need advice, as for the CB device hes going to order the CB2000 and its going to be pink []. i will ask is that all he needs just the cb2000 !!!! as i said above im buying the locks and the plastic ones for now as recommend by a mistress.

Debs xx

Ps i hope im not being a pain here.

I'm going to make my advice very short and sweet: use a LOT less force than you think you need.

And then I'm going to add a caveat: a ruptured testicle is NOT an insignificant injury.

 

[Steelbutterfly]

I'm going to make my advice very short and sweet: use a LOT less force than you think you need.

And then I'm going to add a caveat: a ruptured testicle is NOT an insignificant injury.

Thank you gingermango

So i can be pretty hard then, would u tie his legs so he cant close them and whats best to use, Foot, knee or hands !!!

And is a ruptured testicle a bad thing ?

Debs x