Chubby Chasers

[Boo_Roger]

So, this is my question...

I'm 21 years old, 6'0, and 170lbs. I have muscle, but not too much definition. What i'm getting at is that I am in the 'few extra pounds' range. My type of guy is the skinny type. And, I rarely find myself being attracted to the other guys that have a few extra pounds. But, it seems that skinny guys only want skinny guys. Are there really guys out there that like guys like me? who don't mind it or even love it? I feel like I'm being a little hypocritical in saying this, but it's just who I am. It's what I like. Any comments? Questions?

 

[oujray]

Okay, first off, 6'0" 170# does not qualify as having "a few extra pounds" in my book--but I guess that all depends on your body frame and type. But yeah, there are a lot of guys out there that like a little extra meat on the bone. I'm not obese, but I do have "a few extra pounds," although I'm working on it. My question is: do you want a guy that fetishizes the weight or do you want a guy that doesn't mind a few extra pounds, but also wouldn't mind if you lost it? The latter is what is ideal for me (and, incidentally, what I've got).

 

[Boo_Roger]

either way

i don't think it would be any different for me, whether he fetished it or wouldn't mind if i lost it or not. I'm always dieting, trying to make myself feel and look better, so I flucuate. I never go over 180/5, but i want to be smaller than i am now, so, I suppose it would be better that he not mind either way.

 

[oujray]

another variable

well, if you're a hung top, you're also more likely to snag a skinny bottom--worked for me!

 

[ExistentialLuv]

So, this is my question...

I'm 21 years old, 6'0, and 170lbs. I have muscle, but not too much definition. What i'm getting at is that I am in the 'few extra pounds' range. My type of guy is the skinny type. And, I rarely find myself being attracted to the other guys that have a few extra pounds. But, it seems that skinny guys only want skinny guys. Are there really guys out there that like guys like me? who don't mind it or even love it? I feel like I'm being a little hypocritical in saying this, but it's just who I am. It's what I like. Any comments? Questions?

Boo, 6'0 and 170lbs, how could you possibly have a few extra pounds. I must be obesse then for I am 5'3 and 165. Actually I have a great figure I think (big boned and titted).Be happy with who you are and if someone just likes you because of your weight and looks then they are shallow in my book. It is not what is on the outside but the inside.

 

[Boo_Roger]

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it's not that i want someone who likes me just for my looks, i want some who likes what's inside as well, but i believe that a person should also be physically attracted to me. I'm not obese, and you're not obese, but i do have a layer of chub. because i am a medium frame, and i also used to be 235lbs. so there's some left over. my "ideal" weight according to the books is 150lbs. I've never really had a good self-esteem, so i guess, that could be a problem as well. i dunno, i just want the guy i want, and i want to be the guy he wants is all. i just don't know if he's out there...and if he is...is he in my town?? arg!!!! --calm, be calm-- okay...done freaking out. i just need to know that there are guys out there that don't care if i don't have washboard abs, a hard ass, cut muscles, you know. that's why i feel so hypocritical. i don't want a muscly guy, but i want a thin guy. why is it that that's what i want when that's not what i have?? blah, it's all so confuzzling. this cloud in my head never stops storming.

 

[Queersetti]

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it's not that i want someone who likes me just for my looks, i want some who likes what's inside as well, but i believe that a person should also be physically attracted to me. I'm not obese, and you're not obese, but i do have a layer of chub. because i am a medium frame, and i also used to be 235lbs. so there's some left over. my "ideal" weight according to the books is 150lbs. I've never really had a good self-esteem, so i guess, that could be a problem as well. i dunno, i just want the guy i want, and i want to be the guy he wants is all. i just don't know if he's out there...and if he is...is he in my town?? arg!!!! --calm, be calm-- okay...done freaking out. i just need to know that there are guys out there that don't care if i don't have washboard abs, a hard ass, cut muscles, you know. that's why i feel so hypocritical. i don't want a muscly guy, but i want a thin guy. why is it that that's what i want when that's not what i have?? blah, it's all so confuzzling. this cloud in my head never stops storming.

When I was your age I had many of the same thoughts.

Sometimes it does seem as if gay men fetishize looks to the point where anyone who isn't perfect feels that they are undesirable.

You have to project self confidence to be attractive. Like yourself for who you are, be proud of what you have to offer and don't worry about rejection. The right guy will see you when you let yourself shine.

 

[Boo_Roger]

wow...that was beautifully put. i never really thought of it that way. thankx... i think now i have some pondering ahead of me.