My suggestion would be to go very slow and really consider the consequences. I know that relationships can survive. But in my case the guilt she had totally overwhelmed her when I discovered. Can't really say I caught her it was evident after I thought about it that she wanted to have me find out. She hoped I would go ballistic and leave her. When I pleaded to try to see if we couldn't work everything out. She was the one who stormed out. Just a bit of unsolicited advise.
Cheating...who loves it???
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Getting away with it is half the fun...
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They can but it isn't easy or painless. The point about the consequences is something to think about if you do or want to do this. Mine survived. Many do not.
Yes there is a tremendous rush in knowing that you're "getting away" with doing something forbidden, but for most people cheating it's more about trying to find something that's missing in your marriage. It's now always some specific sexual act but it's attitude in doing them. I missed the "dirtyness" of sex with my wife. I wanted her to be sluttier in bed. There wasn't much she didn't do relative to sex acts, but they weren't done as somebody enjoying it as a lusty dirty thing in an environment that made it that way, like out in areas where you might be seen or using the filthiest of language about it or photographing it, or sharing it with another couple, etc. I found that with other men's wives who also wanted it that way. In some ways it was fantastic until one went all "Fatal Attractions" on me and threw buckets of shit into the fan that nearly ended my marriage. She was ready to end hers, but I wasn't. It was a horrible time in my life.
So for those who enjoy cheating, think it's fun? Yeah, I suppose it is.....for a while. But then also think of the consequences and remifications to people's lives. I like the other posts about people who consider having "affairs" with their spouses. Really, try to find what you need at home and be open to any and all wild ass suggestions your spouse might make and try to push the sexual envelope with your spouse before going out with somebody elses. Maybe you can make that work to keep the spice hot.
So for those who enjoy cheating, think it's fun? Yeah, I suppose it is.....for a while. But then also think of the consequences and remifications to people's lives. I like the other posts about people who consider having "affairs" with their spouses. Really, try to find what you need at home and be open to any and all wild ass suggestions your spouse might make and try to push the sexual envelope with your spouse before going out with somebody elses. Maybe you can make that work to keep the spice hot.
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I have been the "other woman" and I was married at the time also. It is absolutely one of the things that I will regret doing for the rest of my life. I lost my marriage (yeah it was doomed anyway) but I hurt my ex when he didn't deserve it. Nobody does. I thought that I could not live without the girl I was cheating with but what I was really feeling was a different emotion. It really was more like I could never stop wanting to be with a woman occasionally. I made the mistake of not telling my husband what I needed before I got married.
Agreed there is a certain rush when you are playing around when you shouldn't be but for me at least, I could never do that again. IF I were to ever get re married it would have to be to someone that could live with an open marriage. Better to get things out in the open before than deal with the heartache after.
Agreed there is a certain rush when you are playing around when you shouldn't be but for me at least, I could never do that again. IF I were to ever get re married it would have to be to someone that could live with an open marriage. Better to get things out in the open before than deal with the heartache after.
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That's very commendable that you would at least be honest about needing more than a single person to sate your needs.
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That's very commendable that you would at least be honest about needing more than a single person to sate your needs.
I like to think I learn from my mistakes. I'd better because I sure have made a lot of them.
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I used to be both, the cheater and the dirty secret. But, at the time, I was also hunting as well. Got bored easily so, it kind of went with the 'game' of things. I was only with one married dude, his wife did find out about me, though I had already left state so. Yea, when things fell through for him, he did want me but I was gone.
Most the men I was with were also old enough to be my dad lol. Think there were only two that were around my age, but most were like 10+ years older than me.
There is a thrill in it, I had my fun with it. Every so often I do miss it I will admit, but it's mostly missing the thrill of it all. Sneaking out while the man is at work type thing. awww the memories.. But, I never had it as good as I do now.
Most the men I was with were also old enough to be my dad lol. Think there were only two that were around my age, but most were like 10+ years older than me.
There is a thrill in it, I had my fun with it. Every so often I do miss it I will admit, but it's mostly missing the thrill of it all. Sneaking out while the man is at work type thing. awww the memories.. But, I never had it as good as I do now.
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I can't resist an on-line tryst with a single or married woman. I find it very hot to have the naughty secret between us that we've shared a mutual erotic pleasure together. I've never had the perfect opportunity to keep it secret in real life but I've enjoyed some intense voice play in Yahoo, occasional phone sex, and some very hot cyber sex via chat. I've even played on the cam a bit (no faces) over the past few years. Been married over 20 years and just can't resist sneaking on line now and then for the forbidden fruit of a cyber affair.
Hear hear. I love the cyber affair. Getting to know a person, getting intimate with words. Feels great
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I'm married, and I cannot ever see day when there won't be a third person involved. I need it, I can't live without the thrill of it. I adore my husband but I adore my lover in equal measure. With him, it's pure...it sounds pompous to say that but we spend time together because we love each others company, not because we have to. There's no trade off like there is in a marriage...you know, "you put the bins out, love, I'll be waiting in bed for you, wink wink..." It's mind blowing animal sex, for no other reason than you fancy the arses off each other. And, in my case, my husband wouldn't do certain things (he won't do *anything* now but that's another matter entirely!), so why not go elsewhere?
The difference is though, its not cheating for me. I'm honest with everyone involved. The day I met my husband I told him I probably wouldn't be faithful and I guess he thought I was worth the risk!
Although, I am my lovers dirty secret...he's married too...and I have to say, unpopular as it may be among the "sisterhood" (fyi...no such thing!), I love being the other woman. Completely, utterly love it. I get him at his best. I get the sex. The quality time. The dinners, the movies. She gets the laundry, the arguments, the illnesses, the cleaning up after him. I don't want that, I have plenty of my own to deal with!
The difference is though, its not cheating for me. I'm honest with everyone involved. The day I met my husband I told him I probably wouldn't be faithful and I guess he thought I was worth the risk!
Although, I am my lovers dirty secret...he's married too...and I have to say, unpopular as it may be among the "sisterhood" (fyi...no such thing!), I love being the other woman. Completely, utterly love it. I get him at his best. I get the sex. The quality time. The dinners, the movies. She gets the laundry, the arguments, the illnesses, the cleaning up after him. I don't want that, I have plenty of my own to deal with!
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I agree with you, but on the other side. My marriage is happy to some degree, but we tear each otber apart emotionally, and the sex is ok at best. I have hooked up once and I didnt thrill me but I didnt feel bad about it either. Now I come to lit, I love the conversations and being able to express my kinks and have it accepted. But I dont think I can ever be with my wife and be 100% satisfied.
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I know I certainly won't ever be satisfied by my husband, but I'm not one of these women that went into the marriage thinking, well, I'll change him one day. I loved him, and that's still the case but I don't sit around moaning about what he doesn't give me. I focus on the fact that I'm very lucky that he gives me so much, and the freedom to spread my wings is the very least of those things. I never feel guilty about it and I never feel bad about my lovers wife either, I just love knowing that he goes home with my scent all over him!
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The scent of a womzn can keep me hard for hours, love how it twitches on each sniff, God, thank you for this thread
The scent of a womzn can keep me hard for hours, love how it twitches on each sniff, God, thank you for this thread
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Just thought I would bump this thread since I've been MIA for a time.
And for those curious about MY personal relationship dynamic? You can find those answers here: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=62409975#post62409975
And for those curious about MY personal relationship dynamic? You can find those answers here: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=62409975#post62409975
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I guess I loved it at the time, because I believed my marriage was over. 18 months later I regretted it. I've been making up for it since 1998
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I did it once in my first marriage...I felt justified at the time...now I just wish I’d never done it.
