Cheating?? Is This A Common Practice??

[playful_pal69]

Do you think everyone out there cheating today? Have you ever?

And besides the obvisous - of catching them in the act, or finding proof - what are other ways to tell if you are being cheated on??

(ie: e-mails or letters are fine if you are shy!!)

 

[Kylan]

Is everyone out there cheating today?

I s'pose a lot is determined by each individuals perception of what's 'cheating' and what's acceptable in an adult relationship. By some people’s definition of the word, yes, I certainly have... but by mine and my S.O's definition, no I haven't.

When you have to suffer in silence as your partner tries out a wonderfully erotic technique that they've learnt off somebody else it's a pretty good give away.

 

[playful_pal69]

Is everyone out there cheating today?

I s'pose a lot is determined by each individuals perception of what's 'cheating' and what's acceptable in an adult relationship. By some people’s definition of the word, yes, I certainly have... but by mine and my S.O's definition, no I haven't.

When you have to suffer in silence as your partner tries out a wonderfully erotic technique that they've learnt off somebody else it's a pretty good give away.

WOW.... would not like to be in that position!!!

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

Do you think everyone out there cheating today? Have you ever?

And besides the obvisous - of catching them in the act, or finding proof - what are other ways to tell if you are being cheated on??

(ie: e-mails or letters are fine if you are shy!!)

this is a tricky question because so many people/couples define it different.but in the most basic sense i have cheated and did everything i could to explaine/defend it, i got involved with a girl from lit and it started out very innocently as pen pals.it then grew into a small fire of desire that rapidly grew into full on wanting. which led to me looking for ways to hide and decieve my s.o. all the while calling it innocent and "nothing but friendship" all the while the fire and longing growing, then it happend the first phone call. after that it was full on cheating i gave myself to this other woman full on emotionaly and that is the very basic level of cheating. and also the most dangerous one. i never slept or even met her in person....but i gave my heart to her. at which time she tore it apart and married another....i think it hurt more to all involved to cheat the way i did......that was 3 years ago and im still paying for it each and everyday... my s.o. didnt leave me or end the relationship even though everyone told her too.....but to answer the question yes everyone cheats not saying everyday or even in the most physcial way but when you look at another or think of what it would be like to be with that person you let the emotional bounds streatch if you will and then you are cheating.

 

[playful_pal69]

this is a tricky question because so many people/couples define it different.but in the most basic sense i have cheated and did everything i could to explaine/defend it, i got involved with a girl from lit and it started out very innocently as pen pals.it then grew into a small fire of desire that rapidly grew into full on wanting. which led to me looking for ways to hide and decieve my s.o. all the while calling it innocent and "nothing but friendship" all the while the fire and longing growing, then it happend the first phone call. after that it was full on cheating i gave myself to this other woman full on emotionaly and that is the very basic level of cheating. and also the most dangerous one. i never slept or even met her in person....but i gave my heart to her. at which time she tore it apart and married another....i think it hurt more to all involved to cheat the way i did......that was 3 years ago and im still paying for it each and everyday... my s.o. didnt leave me or end the relationship even though everyone told her too.....but to answer the question yes everyone cheats not saying everyday or even in the most physcial way but when you look at another or think of what it would be like to be with that person you let the emotional bounds streatch if you will and then you are cheating.

I can surly see what you mean, and I also understand how a person can get themselves caught up in a whirl wind. It is very easy to let ourselves become vulnerable to passion. That heat and excitment are over-whelming at times, and it creates desires within us, that we didn't even realize we had before. I'm sorry that it turned out badly for you, but it appears that you have learned a lot from the experience. So that is a good thing!!! *HUG*

 

[jarhead1361]

id say no, because ive never cheated

 

[Azuldrgon]

In my mind, I haven't cheated because everything I have done has been with the blessing of my so. I have never done anything physical with another while being married. There had been moments in the past when I thought she would want to cheat and even a time when she accused me of it. But things have become better since then.

Cheating to me is defined as anything done in secret from your prospective other. Whether it's physical or online,it depends on the limitations of the relationship. My partner and I fantasize about inlcuding others in our acts and such, but in reality it hasn't happened and probably won't due to the fact that we are so concerned about the other's feelings about it. It is a sticky issue.

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

I can surly see what you mean, and I also understand how a person can get themselves caught up in a whirl wind. It is very easy to let ourselves become vulnerable to passion. That heat and excitment are over-whelming at times, and it creates desires within us, that we didn't even realize we had before. I'm sorry that it turned out badly for you, but it appears that you have learned a lot from the experience. So that is a good thing!!! *HUG*

yes you understood exactly what i was tring to say.it was very bad and was very hard to let go but i did learn something about not only myself and how gullible i was and really i guess immuture. but it can happen so easily and what i did not mention was that my s.o. and i were having problems and the other woman was exactly what i was needing /looking for in everyway so it was easy to get lost in the fantasy and really that is all it is a fantasy that fuels the fire.... but ii see from your responce that you are not only beautiful on the outside but you have much too offer from the inside....thanks for the hug it was nice

 

[playful_pal69]

yes you understood exactly what i was tring to say.it was very bad and was very hard to let go but i did learn something about not only myself and how gullible i was and really i guess immuture. but it can happen so easily and what i did not mention was that my s.o. and i were having problems and the other woman was exactly what i was needing /looking for in everyway so it was easy to get lost in the fantasy and really that is all it is a fantasy that fuels the fire.... but ii see from your responce that you are not only beautiful on the outside but you have much too offer from the inside....thanks for the hug it was nice

AWWWWWW you are soooo very welcome!!! And thank you for the sweet compliment!! I can see that you are very sensitive as well.... Nice!!

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

AWWWWWW you are soooo very welcome!!! And thank you for the sweet compliment!! I can see that you are very sensitive as well.... Nice!!

tis a pleasure to know you most beautiful one....i hope your having a great day and super new year

 

[playful_pal69]

tis a pleasure to know you most beautiful one....i hope your having a great day and super new year

So Far .... So Good!!

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

So Far .... So Good!!

i agree imet you and its only 3 days in

 

[playful_pal69]

i agree imet you and its only 3 days in

Isn't today the 4th?? Or did I miss something?? lol

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

Isn't today the 4th?? Or did I miss something?? lol

you are correct beautiful one ...i amsmoking crack or something or maybe its just you thats got me all messed up lol ....hope you have a great day

 

[playful_pal69]

you are correct beautiful one ...i amsmoking crack or something or maybe its just you thats got me all messed up lol ....hope you have a great day

You to my friend.... just didn't want you to work an extra day for nothin'... lol

 

[Miss Eggroll]

Shamelessly flirt, but never cheat!

 

[scarlett_wolf_del]

It depends on one's definition of cheating, I guess. If we're talking sexually, no. Any other kind? I have gone out with more than one guy at a time. And yes, was caught once, at 15.

Other times married and engaged men have found more than a slight interest in me and since I was a teenager at the time, what was I gonna do, say no to all that attention? Uh uh. But thankfully no, I didn't sleep with them.

 

[TwilightEmbrace]

I found out that my husband was cheating when he disappeared. Everything w/i me said not to give him another chance but I did. Then my cell phone died and he gave me his to use while he purchased a new one.

He didn't clean up his txt messages. I found several I love you's from him to her and from her to him. I left him in October of 2006.

 

[playful_pal69]

I found out that my husband was cheating when he disappeared. Everything w/i me said not to give him another chance but I did. Then my cell phone died and he gave me his to use while he purchased a new one.

He didn't clean up his txt messages. I found several I love you's from him to her and from her to him. I left him in October of 2006.

You were a strong, loving woman to give him another chance.... He should have appreciated that!!

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

You to my friend.... just didn't want you to work an extra day for nothin'... lol

i didnt think it was possible for you to get any sweeter but it happened .....there is only one thing i would like to spend an extra day working on but ill leave that unsaid

 

[wickedlady31]

cheating

Plain and simple...cheating is doing something your SO wouldn't approve of..or you can't tell them about!
Cheating is even emotionally investing in someone else....doesn't have to be sex.

I cheated on my first husband and it was horrible...he didn't deserve it and I was being a selfish bitch.....he deserved better and I knew it...so we parted and remaine friends.

How to tell if your partner is cheating? They answer the phone and take it into another room. They look stressed when the phone rings and you answer it. They hide receipts and credit card and phone bills...they often 'work late' and suddenly no longer want sex from you...
may wear perfume or cologne where normally he or she would not....and they distance themselves from you.....emotionally and physically...

 

[playful_pal69]

i didnt think it was possible for you to get any sweeter but it happened .....there is only one thing i would like to spend an extra day working on but ill leave that unsaid

Awwww what a nice thing to say.... you seem like a pretty special guy yourself. (Emmmm, and that wouldn't be "WORK" really now would it??? lmao)

 

[alltherage]

Some are and some are not but in general I don't think it is any different today than it ever was. I have seen stats the suggest that the divorce rate is dropping which could skew the number of people cheating either way. I don't think most people are hounds however.

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

Awwww what a nice thing to say.... you seem like a pretty special guy yourself. (Emmmm, and that wouldn't be "WORK" really now would it??? lmao)

ummmmmmm no its not work although i work hard at it ....why does the thought of those words coming from your lips make me shiver

 

[playful_pal69]

ummmmmmm no its not work although i work hard at it ....why does the thought of those words coming from your lips make me shiver

Because you are a little chilly??? lol