Chasing Rainbows

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I did have one woman tell me over our dinner salads that she thought that together, we could produce some gorgeous children. Thats just what every bachelor wants to hear on a first date.

Sheesh I mention it once and you broadcast it to the whole of Lit !

Someone pass the Waldorf puhlease

 

[FurryFury]

Dear Shy,

I am so sorry that you have ended your relationship. I know that was so hard. I also know what you mean when you say that what you dreaded turned out to be a relief later.

*HUG*

I don't know how I missed this until now.

It's good to see that you are feeling more yourself though.

Dating is never easy.

I'll be sending good thoughts your way.

*HUG*

 

[Andraste]

it's nothing that can't be fixed with new shoes & shiny things.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... Then again there a couple of nice sadists I am talking to.....maybe I am giving in too soon.....

You haven't called ME yet shy...

 

[Sir_Winston54]

... Then again there a couple of nice sadists I am talking to.....maybe I am giving in too soon.....

You haven't called ME yet shy...

She said nice sadists, EG.

 

[FurryFury]

She said nice sadists, EG.

LMAOROTF!

Good one Sir Winston 54!

 

[CutieMouse]

Edit to add: Cutie, I have been following your latest adventures but I am lost a little in what happens now, could you give me the readers digest condensed version so I can catch up properly please?

So sorry Shy - I just saw your edit.

Reader's Digest Version:

About 8 weeks ago, I decided that after two freaking years, I was tired of waiting for someone to decide our LDR non-relationship was ready to move full time, and pushed the issue. He chose to pick a squabble and stop talking to me. (For the record, J is thrilled to death about Mr. Grumpy's drug out hesitation and my decision to move on, and has joked that I should email Mr. Grumpy for him, to say thank you for throwing away the best woman, and most fabulous sex on the planet. LOL)

About 6 weeks ago, I "test drove" a personals ad in the Lit BDSM section.

A few days later, I placed the same ad at collarme, and (literally) 5 minutes after it posted, J answered it with an inquiry along the lines of "why limit yourself just because of location?" A few emails were exchanged.

24 hours later he convinced me to chat on IM (during which he mentioned a paucity of companionship in his life, and I realized I was so screwed); 45 minutes after that we were on the phone.

A few days after we first spoke, I agreed to a 2 week visit in the DR.

So we did the phonecalls until 1am every night getting to know each other for a few weeks, then I flew down and spent two amazing weeks with him in the DR. It's like we've known each other for years... honestly the most intuitive relationship I've ever had outside of my best friend of 10 years. By the third day we were sitting on the back deck by the pool and both saying "Ohhhh shit it wasn't supposed to be this good... we are so screwed." (He says I falsely advertised... I didn't say one single thing about certain ways in which we are perfect for each other; I say he lied about being a complete asshole, when he's actually an incredibly good man. )

I'm home to sort a few things out things here that I was previously committed to, but the goal is to fix logistical issues and move me down in the next 2-3 months.

 

[Netzach]

So why can I not get a single email from a gender girl in a 200 mile radius on lit personals OR on Collarme? Talk about rainbows and easter bunnies.

 

[CutieMouse]

So why can I not get a single email from a gender girl in a 200 mile radius on lit personals OR on Collarme? Talk about rainbows and easter bunnies.

You know if I were even close to bi or lived within 200 miles, I would so be bugging you to death. LOL

 

[Netzach]

Yay.

But really. I mean I thought a FemDom with a really yummy bi sub guy who's totally fine being totally NOT involved or involved would have some novelty in a sea of MDom/fub couples seeking thirds. Newp.

 

[CutieMouse]

Yay.

But really. I mean I thought a FemDom with a really yummy bi sub guy who's totally fine being totally NOT involved or involved would have some novelty in a sea of MDom/fub couples seeking thirds. Newp.

Okay, yeah... there is just something sick and twisted (not in the fun way) about a lack of response in that situation. I mean really... what is wrong with kids these days?

 

[Sir_Winston54]

So sorry Shy - I just saw your edit.

Reader's Digest Version:

About 8 weeks ago, I decided that after two freaking years, I was tired of waiting for someone to decide our LDR non-relationship was ready to move full time, and pushed the issue. He chose to pick a squabble and stop talking to me. (For the record, J is thrilled to death about Mr. Grumpy's drug out hesitation and my decision to move on, and has joked that I should email Mr. Grumpy for him, to say thank you for throwing away the best woman, and most fabulous sex on the planet. LOL)

About 6 weeks ago, I "test drove" a personals ad in the Lit BDSM section.

A few days later, I placed the same ad at collarme, and (literally) 5 minutes after it posted, J answered it with an inquiry along the lines of "why limit yourself just because of location?" A few emails were exchanged.

24 hours later he convinced me to chat on IM (during which he mentioned a paucity of companionship in his life, and I realized I was so screwed); 45 minutes after that we were on the phone.

A few days after we first spoke, I agreed to a 2 week visit in the DR.

So we did the phonecalls until 1am every night getting to know each other for a few weeks, then I flew down and spent two amazing weeks with him in the DR. It's like we've known each other for years... honestly the most intuitive relationship I've ever had outside of my best friend of 10 years. By the third day we were sitting on the back deck by the pool and both saying "Ohhhh shit it wasn't supposed to be this good... we are so screwed." (He says I falsely advertised... I didn't say one single thing about certain ways in which we are perfect for each other; I say he lied about being a complete asshole, when he's actually an incredibly good man. )

I'm home to sort a few things out things here that I was previously committed to, but the goal is to fix logistical issues and move me down in the next 2-3 months.

You give us hope.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Yay.

But really. I mean I thought a FemDom with a really yummy bi sub guy who's totally fine being totally NOT involved or involved would have some novelty in a sea of MDom/fub couples seeking thirds. Newp.

*grins*

Maybe I should start stalking Netz instead of Cutie?

Damn... I'm outside the 200 mile territorial limit...

 

[JMohegan]

Things in life have changed alot. A week before he and I ended I cried for over 12 hours straight, including being physically sick (I have had better nights in lol). I cried for what he and I used to have, what we had now, I cried for my son and how much it hurts to not have his dazzling smile and cheeky grin around the house, I cried for drought victims in Africa, for ADR, for friends I don't keep in touch with enough....you name I cried for it. But it was very cathartic and something I had not done before. I have gone back to the care industry and I am less stressed because my money situation is now fixable, I feel brighter and more 'me' than I have for a very long time.

Catharsis.... hmm. Very familiar. I am glad you were able to let go like this.

If you pass through a throwing-furniture phase, please let me know. I was once given a great quote about firewood, at a time when I really needed it.

Congratulations on the return to your old line of work, and the return of the 'me' that was you.

I feel I am chasing rainbows, leprechauns and pots of sadistic gold; none of which exist

I notice that you haven't actually asked for advice.... but I'm gonna give it anyway.

Stop chasing anything, and just enjoy being shy. Take a page out of agibean's book and Netzach's, too. Look for friends to hang out with, doing the things you love to do..... and when you least expect it, the lucky guy will crash right into you.

But if you must continue with this bizarre online kink personals search process, then for god's sake, woman - at least let it feed your wonderful sense of humor. And be sure to report back here often, to amuse us too.

 

[shy slave]

Of course you're looking in the wrong place. Don't you know that there are men over here that would love to get their hands on you!

Flies? Really? I was recently telling a friend that I have given up looking for "the one" and have settled into a series of someones. I've had some bad dates but none that compare to the fly story. I did have one woman tell me over our dinner salads that she thought that together, we could produce some gorgeous children. Thats just what every bachelor wants to hear on a first date.

Bloody Hell!!!​

SAWMAN!!

*faints*

How are you gorgeous man?

It has been way way too long since you wandered down these corridors.

I figured you must have been happily playing with you power tools and therefore too busy to be here.

If this thread brought you out of hiding then my work here is done.

No, that doesn't mean I will now shut up lol.

But tell me this, what good are the men on the other side of the pond, when I am here??

Damn Doms, never where they should be.

If you were here we could ummm, errr, God, I can't use the baby line (I will not use someone else's line), how does 'make sweet music together on the spanking bench of love' sound?

*note to self, put down the romance novels and get a life*

Seriously I am so happy to see you here, are you staying?

Pull up a chair, I have a great idea to help convince you stay .....

 

[shy slave]

shy, my dearist friend, who i love and adore...




bitch, if i'm not getting any then you shouldn't either!
4 goddamn years!!! and you think you have room to complain????
this weekend i'm going to whine the ears right off your head!




love you

4 years when you are so gorgeous and sexy!

That is too long, four hours is too long. How can someone so obviously stunning go that long. Does it seal up and have a 'no entry sign' hung on your pubes?

As for whining in my ears, go right ahead.

It will keep me in practice for listening to a Dom go on and on and on about boring stuff like rules and things

 

[WriterDom]

If those are the kinds of guys you've been meeting than something is seriously wrong with your screening process.

 

[Andraste]

4 years when you are so gorgeous and sexy!

That is too long, four hours is too long. How can someone so obviously stunning go that long. Does it seal up and have a 'no entry sign' hung on your pubes?

As for whining in my ears, go right ahead.

It will keep me in practice for listening to a Dom go on and on and on about boring stuff like rules and things

i should be fucking like a bunny. tis true.

but...well...sex lasts a few hours...and shoes last for months! years even!
my love of shoes provides greater reward.

ps. i found cobwebs in my knickers last night.

 

[WriterDom]

So why can I not get a single email from a gender girl in a 200 mile radius on lit personals OR on Collarme? Talk about rainbows and easter bunnies.

I have nothing good to say about Collarme.

 

[shy slave]

Catharsis.... hmm. Very familiar. I am glad you were able to let go like this.

If you pass through a throwing-furniture phase, please let me know. I was once given a great quote about firewood, at a time when I really needed it.

Congratulations on the return to your old line of work, and the return of the 'me' that was you.



I notice that you haven't actually asked for advice.... but I'm gonna give it anyway.

Stop chasing anything, and just enjoy being shy. Take a page out of agibean's book and Netzach's, too. Look for friends to hang out with, doing the things you love to do..... and when you least expect it, the lucky guy will crash right into you.

But if you must continue with this bizarre online kink personals search process, then for god's sake, woman - at least let it feed your wonderful sense of humor. And be sure to report back here often, to amuse us too.

OH my goodness me.

Yet another rare Dom sighting!

JM, I am so glad to see you.

And as always you advice is always welcome

I have been very surprised in the past few weeks, I have had more of a social life recently than I have ever had in my whole life.

I feel more at ease with who I am and feel very relaxed. I am so happy to be back bossing people around, and having fun doing something I love so much

I am talking to people in the bizarre online kink places, some are nice, some are sadists

Later I promise I will posts the story of the flies, if only to amuse you.

You know there is nothing I would not do to amuse you

 

[shy slave]

EG and Sir_W - BEHAVE!!!

Sir_W thank you for your kind words, even though your AV makes me shiver, I do like you lol.

EG, wwhat can I say, You live across a hell of a pond, you have Janie and I don't do poly.

*sob*

Life is SOOOOO unfair at times.

 

[ShyGuy68]

Life is SOOOOO unfair at times.

I so agree with you on that!

 

[shy slave]

it's nothing that can't be fixed with new shoes & shiny things.

This is my all time favourite line in the whole world.

The Andraste (previously known as Dolf) anthem.

But I am very confused, how the hell do you get cobwebs in your knickers when you spend so damn long in the bath???


I need shiny things and handbags and shoes.

Really really need them.

NOW

 

[shy slave]

Cutie I am in shock.

I leave you for 5 mins and the cute library girl transforms into a a a a well a hmmm a what?

Sir_W said you give us hope. You have always been a great catch; it just took the dumb Dom population a while to figure it out.

LOL

Net, I believe in all kinds of things, easter bunny, fairies and eleves at the bottom of the garden.

When I get the right lotto numbers I am on that plane over to you, yes, you can see that as a threat lol

 

[shy slave]

If those are the kinds of guys you've been meeting than something is seriously wrong with your screening process.

screening process?

I thought there was no need.

Everyone seems so honest, why would I need to screen them