Changing it to BDSM.

[Kain]

I know it has probably been done, I want to ask though. How does one go about changing a nilla relationship to avenues more kinky and dark? I am searching for real for a woman, who is into the scene. Sadly Iowa is full of posers. So I think my only option will be to find a "normal" girl and subvert, I mean, try to get her to try some kink.

 

[MWG]

I know it has probably been done, I want to ask though. How does one go about changing a nilla relationship to avenues more kinky and dark? I am searching for real for a woman, who is into the scene. Sadly Iowa is full of posers. So I think my only option will be to find a "normal" girl and subvert, I mean, try to get her to try some kink.

Simple. Come to Mississippi.

End of problem.

 

[lark sparrow]

Have you tried a munch?

Iowa Stocks & Bonds Iowa

Quad Cities D/s Group Eastern Iowa/Western Illinois

BDSM Dubuque, Iowa Dubuque

**Other Groups in Iowa**

Various Groups Nationwide:
http://bdsmdungeon.com/localgroups.htm
http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/support_groups.htm

Portland Leather Alliance
P.O. Box 5161, Portland, OR 97208
Phone: 503-727-3148
E-mail contact: pla@pdxleatheralliance.org


Various Groups Local to Iowa:


Des Moines, IA
Des Moines Area Deviants (DMAD)
http://come.to/dmad

Quad Cities area, IA/IL
Riverbound
http://www.riverbound.net

Muscatine, IA
Eastern Iowa D/s
http://EasternIowaDs.mybdsm.com

Quad Cities area, IA/IL
Whipstaff Manor
http://bdsmdungeon.com

Cedar Rapids, IA
Cedar Rapids Organization of Perverts (CROP) mail to:C_R_O_P@yahoogroups.com

Peoria, Illinois
Peoria D/s Forum
http://homepage.davesworld.net/~shawnee/index.html

Tri-State's BDSM Club
http://tri-states-bdsm-club.freeservers.com
tri_states_bdsm_club@hotmail.com


The Round Table Discussion Group http://members.fortunecity.com/gayla1/theroundtable/


Springfield, IL
Scarlet Moon
http://www.scarletmoon.org/

Champaign, Illinois
The Bondage Club of Champaign/Urbana
http://extra.newsguy.com/~tbcfey

Kansas City, MO
Alternative Hedonistic Source
http://www.ahs-kc.org/

Kansas
Kink in Northeast Kansas
http://come.to/K-I-N-K

Madison, WI
Satyrcon
http://www.mailbag.com/users/satyricon/

They can't all be posers. Good luck.

 

[Kain]

Re: Have you tried a munch?

Iowa Stocks & Bonds Iowa

Quad Cities D/s Group Eastern Iowa/Western Illinois

BDSM Dubuque, Iowa Dubuque

Ok, color me ignorant. What's a munch?

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Re: Re: Have you tried a munch?

Ok, color me ignorant. What's a munch?

Just to give you a general idea about what a munch is:

"A munch is a get together for socializing in a non-threatening atmosphere, usually a public setting. It gives the attendees a chance to meet and greet others in the scene, to renew or begin friendships, to hear about things happening locally, to discuss toy options, etc. Dress is Florida casual. We have usually over 140 regulars each munch. We welcome all levels of experience, and host all combinations of lifestyle choices. We have people come from all points of Florida, plus we've had several stop by who happen to be in the area on vacation or on business."

Quoted from the Orlando FL Munch website (www.orlandomunch.com/munch.htm)

~anelize "BDSM Librarian"

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I know it has probably been done, I want to ask though. How does one go about changing a nilla relationship to avenues more kinky and dark? I am searching for real for a woman, who is into the scene. Sadly Iowa is full of posers. So I think my only option will be to find a "normal" girl and subvert, I mean, try to get her to try some kink.

Have you browsed through our Library, Kimura? Have a look, and see what you come up with. There are alot of useful threads stacked in there, perhaps you'll be able to find one to suit your needs.

~anelize, "BDSM Librarian"

 

[Kain]

Thanks for the replies and info people.
Lark Sparrow, thanks for the links, lots of good stuff there.
AnelizeDarkEyes, I am going to hit the library as soon as I have the chance to really study them. Thank you for the heads up on the munches.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I know it has probably been done, I want to ask though. How does one go about changing a nilla relationship to avenues more kinky and dark? I am searching for real for a woman, who is into the scene. Sadly Iowa is full of posers. So I think my only option will be to find a "normal" girl and subvert, I mean, try to get her to try some kink.

Now I find your post very interesting. I have a vanilla SO and I only call him that because in my world "vanilla" means non BDSM or D/s. It has nothing to do with the kinkiness of the relationship.

I think that it is a mistake to think that BDSMers have a corner on kinkiness. Many of the posters on this very forum are more conservative than my so called vanilla SO.

So, to give you an answer, I think it is best to look for relationships that meet your needs as fully as possible. That means you have to be honest about what your needs and expectations are, and be willing to step away from relationships that do not have the elements you desire.

I do not date men who are not kinky and sexually adventurous. Then I never have to worry about their ability to "keep up".

Good luck to you.

 

[lassarina]

Re: Re: Changing it to BDSM.

Simple. Come to Mississippi.

End of problem.

LMAO! Mississippi is kinkier than most people believe.......