CFNM as a genre

[njaybird]

Forgive me if this has been posted elsewhere; relative newbie here.

Was considering the Cfnm genre and it strikes me that it pretty much is a male fantasy. Was wondering what others thought. Glad to hear any rebuttals from ladies, if such exists.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

As a girly, I used to agree with you but now I think it is more subtle. As far as my experience goes (not that far), it is more of a power exchange.

Women are not turned on by the site of floppy bits waggling in their face but add a few margaritas and they begin to enjoy a transfer of power.

Not really for me but there are quite a few popular CFNM posts on Lit.

 

[DreamCloud]

The idea of trading power with a woman is alluring. If it is done correctly, CFNM is one aspect of that desire.

I am not and never will be a fan of the belittlement that can permeate the genre. Power is only sexy when it doesn't debase.

 

[lovecraft68]

To me CFNM has two types. There is the style where the guy is a stripper and all the horny housewives are sucking on him....hen parties I think they call them

That is certainly a male fantasy and created by male porn driven writers and directors.

But true CFNM is about humiliation and in a way submission. Its still a male fantasy, but that of a submissive male as the women have the power in these fantasies.

So it is more a female fantasy in that sense and falls under a form of "femdom lite"

I enjoy the geenre, but highly doubt it could carry a category here. Most of the stories I have found featuring it seem to be in fetish.

 

[PayDay]

WTF is CFNM?

 

[lovecraft68]

WTF is CFNM?

Clothed female naked male.

In the first example I gave its usually male strippers getting naked and a bunch of fully clothed horny housewives passing their cock around like a cold. So strictly the male fantasy version(see the site dancing bear, but know that it is totally staged with the "housewives" really being third tier porn stars and local working girls)

For the second example just go to red tube and search CFNM and you will see sites that show the more accurate femdom/submissive male aspect of the fetish.

 

[PayDay]

Clothed female naked male.

In the first example I gave its usually male strippers getting naked and a bunch of fully clothed horny housewives passing their cock around like a cold. So strictly the male fantasy version(see the site dancing bear, but know that it is totally staged with the "housewives" really being third tier porn stars and local working girls)

For the second example just go to red tube and search CFNM and you will see sites that show the more accurate femdom/submissive male aspect of the fetish.

Really? I would think if a man was naked and a woman wasn't, then he just got undressed faster....

Go figure.

 

[lovecraft68]

Really? I would think if a man was naked and a woman wasn't, then he just got undressed faster....

Go figure.

If lit has taught us all one thing its....if its out there someone is turned on by it.

 

[PayDay]

If lit has taught us all one thing its....if its out there someone is turned on by it.

Sadly

 

[Athlantian]

Thank

WTF is CFNM?

Thanks for asking that question. I was thinking the same

 

[Hypoxia]

Thanks for asking that question. I was thinking the same

CFNM = clothed female, naked male.

 

[MatthewVett]

I can only confirm that it's a fantasy of mine, and I'm a male. I just love it. A bit of exhibitionism, a bit of embarrassment. I like being the only guy in the room anyway. It's much more fun when I'm the only one nude in the room, too.

 

[CharleyH]

To me CFNM has two types. There is the style where the guy is a stripper and all the horny housewives are sucking on him....hen parties I think they call them

That is certainly a male fantasy and created by male porn driven writers and directors.

But true CFNM is about humiliation and in a way submission. Its still a male fantasy, but that of a submissive male as the women have the power in these fantasies.

So it is more a female fantasy in that sense and falls under a form of "femdom lite"

I enjoy the geenre, but highly doubt it could carry a category here. Most of the stories I have found featuring it seem to be in fetish.

Leaning on this assessment, for sure.

 

[NakedDan]

Forgive me if this has been posted elsewhere; relative newbie here.

Was considering the Cfnm genre and it strikes me that it pretty much is a male fantasy. Was wondering what others thought. Glad to hear any rebuttals from ladies, if such exists.

I'm a male who tries to experience as many CFNM situations as I can. I've found that women enjoy looking at me naked if they feel safe doing so. That's why I don't flash. I model for art classes a lot, and there's nothing sexual about them. But I have seen girls who aren't in the art classes make excuses for coming into the room to see me nude on the platform. I can think of two girls who used the "I was in a class in here earlier and think I left my cell phone here" trick at two different schools. Of course, neither girl found her cell phone. I don't mind these things, and to tell you the truth, I'm kind of flattered by them.

I also attend the Bay to Breakers in San Francisco every year, and the girls there love seeing me nude. I can't tell you how many have come up wanting to pose for a picture with me. Sometimes, I manage to get someone to take a picture with my camera.

Here are a few that I have:

http://i.imgur.com/RBEBw8El.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/wlBjfN4l.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/TkHFmJml.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/AxAlyUhl.jpg

My love of being naked in front of women drives a lot of what I write. The first story I posted on Literotica is a pure CFNM fantasy that I wrote a few years back.

 

[Carnevil9]

I can only confirm that it's a fantasy of mine, and I'm a male. I just love it. A bit of exhibitionism, a bit of embarrassment. I like being the only guy in the room anyway. It's much more fun when I'm the only one nude in the room, too.

I always assumed it was related to those dreams where you show up at work or at school naked, and everybody else is clothed. It's sort of embarrassing, sort of humiliating, but also sort of thrilling, and definitely extra naughty. It's not my cup of earl grey, but I can see how people could be turned on by it.

 

[NakedDan]

I always assumed it was related to those dreams where you show up at work or at school naked, and everybody else is clothed. It's sort of embarrassing, sort of humiliating, but also sort of thrilling, and definitely extra naughty. It's not my cup of earl grey, but I can see how people could be turned on by it.

I remember having those dreams back in high school. Then I went to college, started modeling nude for art classes, and those dreams stopped. Either the fear of being seen naked was overcome, or I embraced my subconscious desires. I wonder what a psychologist would think of that...

 

[49greg]

I had never heard of Bay to Breakers before, so I just now looked it up on Wiki. They claim that nudity was banned in 2009. Did they ease up on it due to public outcry? or not enforce it?

As for me I've always figured men don't look as sexy naked as women. I never had dreams of being naked in public, In college and for years afterword I dreamed about not being able to find my classroom though. I do have to admit that I get an extra thrill when I'm naked the first time with a woman. Of course that hasn't happened (the first time) with anyone but my wife for the last eighteen years. I still get that thrill with her though.

 

[MatthewVett]

I always assumed it was related to those dreams where you show up at work or at school naked, and everybody else is clothed. It's sort of embarrassing, sort of humiliating, but also sort of thrilling, and definitely extra naughty. It's not my cup of earl grey, but I can see how people could be turned on by it.

I can actually place where I first became aware of this kink. I was reading one of those choose your own adventure Goosebumps books, and one option had you transforming from a bird to a human in front of people, but you forgot that bird-you wasn't wearing clothes. I read that, and it was just like, click, this is hot.

 

[Cruel2BKind]

I had never heard of Bay to Breakers before, so I just now looked it up on Wiki. They claim that nudity was banned in 2009. Did they ease up on it due to public outcry? or not enforce it?

As for me I've always figured men don't look as sexy naked as women. I never had dreams of being naked in public, In college and for years afterword I dreamed about not being able to find my classroom though. I do have to admit that I get an extra thrill when I'm naked the first time with a woman. Of course that hasn't happened (the first time) with anyone but my wife for the last eighteen years. I still get that thrill with her though.

If you don't find naked dudes as inherently sexy as naked women, that's because they are never photographed the same way.

I see all these 'role reversal' pictures where they take say, a sexy Gucci ad and then they swap it and they just have some bearded out-of-shape frat bro smirking and striking a sexy pose in his underwear. That's not the same thing. It makes me grumpy. It's so hard to find photos and art of the male form that isn't marketed towards gay men.

Here's a photoshoot that nailed it. A true role reversal, and keeping everything sexy, and it is for the heterosexual female eye. The nude male form is hella sexy. And just as hard to obtain as those female supermodels that everyone is supposed to aspire to.


http://40.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7c799pvfP1qlia32o2_1280.jpg

http://40.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7c799pvfP1qlia32o4_1280.jpg

http://40.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7c799pvfP1qlia32o1_1280.jpg

http://41.media.tumblr.com/98573e268a4dec44d45c240f8cac8918/tumblr_m7c799pvfP1qlia32o3_r1_500.jpg


Here's one of those supposed 'role reversal' pictures that are everywhere.


http://sirfmarketing.com/clients/th...oads/2014/10/role-reversal-in-advertising.jpg

 

[njaybird]

Thanks...

Appreciate all the considered feedback. I definitely feel the two sides of it--the male fantasy fulfillment vs. the female transfer of power vibe. I get a sense that guys may confuse the two, but that's speculation.

For me it's both a titillation and (at least when I write it) a potential for low brow humor.