Care for a little pain with your sex?

[Iris]

Some friends and I were talking about our lovers/sig others last night and somehow or another I mentioned how I like it when my lover hurts me. Not the "OW!! What the fuck are you doing?!?!" kind of pain, but a well placed bite, just hard enough to sting a little but no marks and definitely no blood, that sort of thing. Somehow I was under the impression there were a lot of people that liked that for the simple fact that when you're excited the endorphins in your system can actually make pain feel good.

My friends disagreed. All three of them said they would never want to be hurt, even just a little. So folks, am I alone here? Anyone else like a little pain with their sex?

 

[bluntforcemama]

I don't mind a little love nip once in a while, but nothing that going to deter me from getting what I want (An orgasm).

 

[*bratcat*]

all i can say is....

 

[genderbender]

Backside pleasures...

But I wonder about a little anal intercourse? Its definitely not everyone's cup of tea, but for many of us its a delightful alternative to the traditional course of this wonderful menu of life. As a man I don't experience pain during the act, but my partners invariably experience if not pain, at least a certain discomfort that may be as much psychological as physical. I sense that is part of the excitement in doing the deed. Of course, I would never attempt to harm my partner while engaging in anal intercourse, but playing the edge around the act is defintely part of the pleasure for both of us. Whatdya think?

 

[jcgirl]

Um no

 

[Nicole]

Could I be so bold to ask?

Why it is that people that aren't "into" pleasurable pain think that those of us that are, are in some way "mad", "crazy", "abnormal"?

Pain is part of the pleasure for some people, wether that be, anal, spankings, being tied up, bondage, S&M, BDSM ... whatever ... to some people it is a way of life, until that small OR Large action of pain has been introduced, they can't become excited about the act of sex.

To me there is nothing wrong with pain, heavy or light. There is also nothing wrong with people that don't get "into" pain. Find the right partner, make mad passionate love, being gentle and caressing, and be happy.

Then again you might find the right partner and have them either take or administer the right amount and style of pain for you.

Relationships work in many different ways ... some like pain ... some don't, but either way we should all be open minded about what the other likes. As long as our friends are safe and happy what does it matter if they do or don't like pain? Don't look at one as different to the other.

To answer your question ... yes I do get turned on by pain, but not only biting, it's a number of things, and it doesn't always mean that I only want pain during sexual acts either, it could be that I want the pain to get me into the "mood" for what is to come.



P.S. Sorry if I haven't made sense, I'm still asleep due to my son waking me at 5 am (gotta love kids eh).

 

[Asta]

Thanks for saying that Iris. I agree with you 100%. Personally, I prefer a nice hard slap (or 2, or 3...) on my bootie, but love bites are good too.

Sometimes I want the romance and the love-making, but as a general rule I think my most memorable sexual encouters tend to be those that have involved some element of pain. Nothing serious, just the hurts-so-good kind of pain.

Let's admit it ladies, before you say no think back...we all have at least one of these experiences in our past. I bet you remember it fondly.

The time you ended up with carpet burns all over your back after that little tryst on the floor?

The line of little love bite bruises up and down your inner thigh after your encounter with the guy with the amazing mouth and tongue?

How about that night when that guy pumped you so hard you thought your head was going to go through the headboard?

Or that nice boy-next-door type who pulled you over his knee and left his hand print in red on your ass? Remember how tingly it felt when he fucked you doggie style afterwards?

Maybe it was the man who left bruises on your upper arms that night when you were too excited to make it to the car and ended up fucking against the wall in the alley behind the club?

If none of these experiences sound familiar, maybe you ought to expand your horizons. I bet you'll be glad you did.

 

[RonG]

Or that nice boy-next-door type who pulled you over his knee and left his hand print in red on your ass? Remember how tingly it felt when he fucked you doggie style afterwards?

Boy, we should have seen that coming. Asta loves doggie style!

 

[Asta]

Arf! Arf!

pant! pant! pant!

Can I have my cookie now?

 

[Silverlily]

Re: Could I be so bold to ask?

Why it is that people that aren't "into" pleasurable pain think that those of us that are, are in some way "mad", "crazy", "abnormal"?

Fantastic question, Nicole! Personally, I play rough; biting, scratching, spanking, etc. I like it, my husband likes it, and we trust each other not to go too far.

Oh well, to each his own.

 

[brazenblaze]

Re: Could I be so bold to ask?

Why it is that people that aren't "into" pleasurable pain think that those of us that are, are in some way "mad", "crazy", "abnormal"?

Relationships work in many different ways ... some like pain ... some don't, but either way we should all be open minded about what the other likes. As long as our friends are safe and happy what does it matter if they do or don't like pain? Don't look at one as different to the other.

You tell it girl!

I recently got called a "WHAT" because of my interest in pleasurable pain. It was like I was being classed right up there with child molestors.

As far as sex goes...if both/all parties find pleasure and no one gets truly hurt (emotionally or physically), then I say go for it. I like a little pain served with my sex, yet there are those times when I want something different.

If the fact that I get turned on by the sight of a riding crop makes me a freak....well then I'M A FREAK!
But I'm a HAPPY freak.

 

[CRaZy]

If you are in the right mood sexually pain does release endorphins and take you to a higher plane of pleasure. If you are in the wrong mood, well, it just damn well hurts - LOL. Having a guy being dominant, the slight risk that he may go too far even if you trust him, the anticipation of not knowing exactly what he is going to do - it's all good heart pumping, breath rasping stuff. For myself at least, if there is some pain involved, I am focussed on that and not whther I am too fat/smell nice/have sexy underwear. There's nothing like thinking to destroy sex. Pain focusses the mind in one direction so you can enjoy the ride when it does come.

 

[Nobody Special]

The Wife seems to always leave claw marks on my back for some od reason.. She usually appologises for them later when she finds them but hey at the moment it feels to good to actually stop and tell her to stop doing it.. soooo I would say that some pain is good and can be fun

E

 

[Cheri]

In the heat of passion, almost all things are acceptable and even welcomed. And you'll know when that situation has occured by my begging for harder, deeper, faster, nastier fucking. At that point, we can do whatever our devious minds can imagine. I'll just stop there.

 

[CRaZy]

Poison
Your cruel device
Your blood, like ice
One look could kill
My pain, your thrill
I want to love you but I better not touch (Don't touch)
I want to hold you but my senses tell me to stop
I want to kiss you but I want it too much (Too much)
I want to taste you but your lips are venomous poison
You're poison running through my veins
You're poison, I don't want to break these chains

Your mouth, so hot
Your web, I'm caught
Your skin, so wet
Black lace on sweat

I hear you calling and it's needles and pins (And pins)
I want to hurt you just to hear you screaming my name
Don't want to touch you but you're under my skin (Deep in)
I want to kiss you but your lips are venomous poison
You're poison running through my veins
You're poison, I don't wanna break these chains
Poison

One look could kill
My pain, your thrill
I want to love you but I better not touch (Don't touch)
I want to hold you but my senses tell me to stop
I want to kiss you but I want it too much (Too much)
I want to taste you but your lips are venomous poison
You're poison running through my veins
You're poison, I don't wanna break these chains
Poison

I want to love you but I better not touch (Don't touch)
I want to hold you but my senses tell me to stop
I want to kiss you but I want it too much (Too much)
I want to taste you but your lips are venomous poison, yeah
I don't want to break these chains
Poison, oh no
Runnin' deep inside my veins,
Burnin' deep inside my veins
It's poison
I don't wanna break these chains
Poison

 

[fgarvb1]

if i remember it right

a little well placed pain, like a light slap on the naked butt or some fingernails applied in carried away moment of passion adds something extra to it... yes.

{If my wife put the nails to me i'd think she was having a heart attack !}

 

[strawberryfields4ever]

thinking..thinking..ummmm. nottt...

 

[Nobody Special]

I think I perfer this..

E

Trash - Alice Cooper

It aint the way you crawl across the Cathouse floor
It aint the way you slam the Bedroom door
It aint the way you sweat me for a hand full of easy cash
It's just the way you love me when you turn to Trash

Trash

It's not the way you dress when you socialize, Oh those Eyes
It aint the Diamond rock or the rolls you drive
You can walk the streets with all your uptown Flash, such flash
But when you hit the sheets you just turn to Trash

Trash
You're such Trash

I love the way you look, You're such a High Class tramp (I like a tramp)
It'd not the way you touch me when you...
You're daddy's dream, you're a peach and cream
and you're finally ripe at last

But when you hit the sheets you turn to Trash

 

[Iris]

Nah, I think I prefer "Poison". I'd forgotten all about that song until Crazy mentioned it.

 

[Nobody Special]

But then again as Xaviera had said.. "Trash is one of the best albums to listen to when havingt sex." And I would have to agree.. take a listen to the whole album some time when you are in the mood..

E

 

[Juliangel]

OH YES!!!

I have this spot on the side of my left calf that I love to have bitten when my legs are over his shoulders and either side of my neck works too.

I love it when he leaves a bruise on my leg when bitting because for days after I can close my eyes and rub the bruise and it brings it all back.

When I am on my hands and knees I like for his to bite me on the back of my shoulder and pull my hair.

He likes me to rake my nails down his back and leave whelps and to grab a fist full of hair during sex.

 

[Charly]

Actually, it is strangely erotic to be bitten lightly on the nipple- and that's a man speaking. A little scary and shocking at first when you are not used to it!

I decided I shouldn't complain though, since I like doing that to her nipples. I think she likes it, too.

the other pain I have experienced was all too much like it was going to do some permanent harm. Scares hell out of me to feel teeth while getting an otherwise delightful and enthusiastic oral gratification of my cherished member.

 

[Stormystarr]

I have come to love the pain myself. I didn't use to, but about 2 years ago I started out a little at a time. I admit it, I like it rough, and the rougher the better!

 

[SteamyChik]

I like pain before sex and then I want nice sweet loving.