can't orgasm?

[twistedpair]

Hi all,
First post, and this is a tough one. I can get my g/f to climax with Clitoral stimulation, but for some reason, when I pennetrate her she is not stimulated, and thus can't reach orgasm. Either she has no button in there, or I am just not reaching it. She says that no one has ever been able to get her to orgasm through pennetration, so I KNOW it is not me.
The other day I read something about Kegal exercises for women. I wonder if that would help? Maybe a certain position?

Help me!

 

[Weird Harold]

Maybe a certain position?

Step 1:

Find her G-Spot with your fingers. See if you can get her off that way.

Step 2:

Find a position that directs your cock against her G-Spot.

 

[Guest]

I can get my g/f to climax with Clitoral stimulation, but for some reason, when I pennetrate her she is not stimulated, and thus can't reach orgasm.

Basically the same situation is true for me. I can always acheive an orgasm through clitoral stimulation (especially if it is oral! ), but have trouble acheiving one vaginally. Like WH had said, locate her G-spot. If you play with her a bit beforehand, it should be easy for you to hit it with your penis too. Other things you can try would be to play with or suck on her nipples during sex. Or play with her clit.

~Tiggs~

 

[Oscar]

Try your girlfriend on top. That's about the only way my wife ever gets off through intercourse. She controls the angle, depth, speed etc and is able to achieve the orgasm.

 

[Easy Boy]

Or you could stop trying

...to give her a vaginal orgasm, and enjoy giving her orgasms, period. IHO, _how_ the two of you enjoy sex is far less important than _that_ you do.

Did you know that her clitoris has as many nerve endings as your penis? This is what makes it her pleasure center, and worthy of all the attention you care to give it. Enjoy!

 

[gordito]

My father had a VW squareback that you couldn't get started with the key. He hooked up a starter button underneth the dash. It worked just as well as the key. The main thing was it got the car started every time.

Where I work, if you get your job done ethically, they pay for results not how you got them.

 

[Wizard]

Intresting way to put it.............Pretty good I must say..................

 

[twistedpair]

Good suggestions

Thanks for all of your responses!
Basically I use clitoral stimulation as the only means of giving her an orgasm at the moment. I guess the reason why I asked is that it would be cool if there was some way for us to achieve it together through vaginal stimulation. Some of you suggested to just feel around for the button with my fingers, which I have tried, although probably not hard enough. It has occured to me though, that she does not have a g-spot, which apparently some women don't! I have no problems with the tongue approach, it is just that it *HAS* to get old after a while I would imagine. Thanks for the comments!

Twistedpair

 

[youngun]

have the two of you considered anal as this is the most direct form of stimulating the g-spot

 

[Weird Harold]

have the two of you considered anal as this is the most direct form of stimulating the g-spot

I think you are confusing the G-spot with the Prostate Gland.

The G-Spot is on the front wall of the vagina, 3 to 4 inches inside.

The prostate is about the same distance inside the rectum. I'm not even sure if women have a prostate, but if they do, that's where it is. <G>

 

[vegasmale]

Weird Harold

I she has a prostate......she is a he....look a little closer next time

 

[Wizard]

Who's on first?................

 

[gordito]

I have been wrong before but not in this case. The prostate is a male thing only. If you find a female with one call your local teaching and researching hospital. They will want to investagate that one.

 

[Weird Harold]

I she has a prostate......she is a he....look a little closer next time

To be more precise, the original question was posted by the male half of a couple who use the same username, and was in regard to giving HER (the female half of the couple) an orgasm other than a clitoral one.

 

[Isolde]

I had the same problem with my partner and I discovered that if I, my self, stimulated my clitoris while he was inside we orgasmed together. His orgasms were also increased by this and so was the sexual enjoyment by both of us.

Just my two cents though.

 

[Maddy]

I always find that if my hips are raised and my head lower than my body....(discovered this while doing it on a mtress that was on the floor....)that you cant but help hit the clit with penetration...phoar factor nine for me...

 

[ultramagnus]

Simultanous Orgasms Most of the time

Method 1
Try woman ontop and have here here clit against your pelvic bone. Using a pillow under your ass helps to raise your torso higher for easier contact of the clit. My girlfriend and I have simultanous orgasms most of the time this way. The more wet she is the easier it is for her to cum. Perform Oral to get her close to cumming then Let her Ride Horsey!

Method 2
Try 69 position with a dildo.

Method 3
Try Oral on her with a dildo to get her used to cumming with a cock inside here. Then used the real thing.

 

[twistedpair]

Yes, to respond to earlier comments, this is a male asking about how to pleasure a female. I have been either playing with her, or eating her out to get her to orgasm. I did a strange position one time where I stimulated her clitoris with my penis. Worked great actually. I searched around in her for a G-Spot, but did not find one. It is either out of finger's reach, or not there at all. Thanx for all of your comments all!

 

[ContessaR]

The more women I talk to on this subject, the more I am certain that the G-spot orgasm is a myth. I have hunted for years with my boyfriend, and have experimented myself with the so-called G-spot stimulators. The only result I got was the urge to pee!

I'm not saying that vaginal orgasms are impossible, but I do think they are a rarity. No one, male or female, should feel inadequate sexually if the only orgasm achieved is clitoral. Feels good enough for me!

 

[Ree]

Try taking her vaginally from behind....her hands on floor, her ass in air, and legs spread apart, while you are inside use your hand to stimulate her clit. If height is a problem, have her wear a pair of high heels. I know it sounds kooky but it works. My hubby and I couldn't use this position until platform shoes came back in style. He is 6'4 and I am 5'0. You could also try it from the side, sort of "spooning with benefits" and use your hand to stimulate her. Trust me, I am pretty sure you can NEVER get bored with oral stimulation. Remember practice makes perfect.

 

[Juliet]

Just as a few others have posted I also recommend doggie style. That way either you or she can stimulate her clit while you bang her from behind.

Or her on top should work wonders also but I'll add another curve to that one...Buy her an Orb/Egg/Bullet vibrator and have her place it between the two of you. Then as she mounts your cock and moves up and down her clit will be directly stimulated by the small vibrator. OMG OMG OMG Very intense orgasms! She can also use this to stimulate her clit if you two are in doggie style also.