Can't Concentrate!

[lil missy]

Any ideas on how to help me concentrate to get my work done and keep my household going?

Yes, I've been working through a divorce that is no closer to being resolved then when I started a year ago.
Yes, I run and exercise daily, and eat a balanced diet.
Yes, I've read some wonderful books to help with the roller coaster of emotions, but I'm always open to more suggestions.

I'm afraid I'm going to lose the best job I've ever had if I don't get my shit together!!!

 

[Machiavellian]

Focus as much as possible - if you have kids - focus on them - if you don't focus on yourself

Do things that you normally wouldn't.

Don't hold yourself back because of reservations.

Remember that you don't have to explain to anyone anything anymore.

AND Most of ALL - don't regret - or regress - life is a one shot deal - enjoy it!

 

[blondie74]

This might sound odd, but have you tried gardening? I've often found that when going through periods of ups and downs, that nurturing plants and working in the dirt is highly theraputic.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

Focus as much as possible - if you have kids - focus on them - if you don't focus on yourself

Do things that you normally wouldn't.

Don't hold yourself back because of reservations.

Remember that you don't have to explain to anyone anything anymore.

AND Most of ALL - don't regret - or regress - life is a one shot deal - enjoy it!

well said

 

[dollface007]

I've been through this before my first year of grad school. I seriously thought i had developed ADD. The culprit was a mixture of anxiety and depression due to the intense pressure of grad school and the intense loneliness that came from living in a new place. I would imagine a divorce could do the same thing to a person. I would try seeing a counselor if i were you. Diagnonsis will take half the weight off your shoulders and will help your ability to focus. Treatment will help even more.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

Compartmentalize. I've had similar rough patches. You need to allow yourself to think about your problems (e.g. divorce) for only so much of the day. After that, focus exclusively on the task at hand (NOT the "job", the current task).
And this too shall pass.

 

[lil missy]

Mach--- Definitely need to try and keep focusing. Just that some days are easier than others ya know. And I don't hold back at all maybe that could be the part of the problem after the years of verbal and emotional abuse I feel like a new woman and I have a new leash on life that I'm just trying to soak it all up at once.

Blondie, I've always enjoyed being outdoors....actually I worked road construction for several years so I know that hard physical work is a good thing and I do include that in my daily routine as much as possible.

Dollface-- I did have a counselor for awhile, although we quit because I was doing much better.......but it's these rough patches that are a struggle to get through.

Devil-- Sigh....yeah I realized just yesterday I think I need to try and set small goals of 2 or 3 things to accomplish in a day and like you said not let the divorce crap distract me so much. Easier said than done though.

Thanks you guys for all the suggestions. They really are good and I'm trying. Those down days though are just killers

 

[dirtywhiteboy]

Thanks you guys for all the suggestions. They really are good and I'm trying. Those down days though are just killers

Hey, baby, if you're feelin' down
I know what's good for you all day...........