cannot orgasm

[ShaunaM]

 

[trodas]

She has to keep fingering you, that's all

Not all gals can come just from licking their niples You, seems, need "something inside", so...


PS. don't get to the "takes it personally that I don't" pressure, or you will be stressed that you can't come and yep, you will do not...

 

[ShaunaM]

 

[Eilan]

we're both well aware that she has to keep fingering me and know that I need "something inside." I told her I wasn't like her. I do enjoy having her suck/lick/bite my nipples but it doesn't do as much for me as it does for her. It frustrates me that I cannot have an orgasm while she is fingering or giving oral. I was wondering maybe does it have something to do with watching/viewing porn and/or masturbating!?

I don't know that porn or masturbation would have anything to do with anything in this case. Masturbating is actually an excellent way for you to figure out what does and doesn't work for you. We all react differently to various stimuli.

I don't take that. I think she was only joking when she said it - though I know that I would take it personally if I couldn't give her an orgasm. I know it's not her fault - I just wish that I could correct whatever is happening with me so that I could cum.

It's really easy to feel inadequate if, for some reason, your partner doesn't have an orgasm, but neither of you should take things too personally. (I realize that sometimes that's easier said than done.) Attempting to place blame--on either of you--is counterproductive because, as trodas said, stressing about not being able to cum almost guarantees that you won't cum.. If you're wired a certain way, it's not good or bad--it just IS.

Figuring out what a new partner likes is a major learning process. If all techniques worked for everybody, then things would be really easy, but, unfortunately, that's not the case. Keep communicating--that's the most important thing you can do.

Good luck.

 

[trodas]

Im glad she only joke, as stress (any form - you have to be cool and relaxed for sex!) is a great cum-killer...

You confused me a little, so right now, even fingering did not bring the orgasm to you? That's sad. Maybe you need something extra then... I won't go far for handcufing the hands over you head, blindfold and clothespins on your erected niples and fingering + oral stimulation on clit (or maybe bigger tool that finger or there ), however that's just me

I believe that everyone deep down know, what is the key for orgasm for them, so, dig deep into your mind and find it and no matter how sick it might sounds at the first, try realize it.

Keep communicating--that's the most important thing you can do.

Yep! And also keep experimenting what works, and what does not

 

[ShaunaM]

 

[silverwhisper]

shauna: just wondering if there was a happy update...

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[muddpuppy]

There was a time when i couldnt enjoy oral sex, i found out that if someone went down on me right away i couldnt get into it. I have to be teased first barely touch me and kiss around my vagina make me want to feel your tongue. I also like to watch porn at the same time. I dont know what your situation is but i hope i helped.

 

[ShaunaM]