Can You Surrender ?

[Programmer Cat]

Can You Surrender ? Let your partner have total access/control over your body during a sex act ? Or is that too much ?

I can surrender to my wife, and if she's there I can surrender to other people.

 

[playwithlezli]

Hey Programmer Cat-sounds like your fantasies are coming true and you are enjoying them-good for you!

 

[Programmer Cat]

Hey Programmer Cat-sounds like your fantasies are coming true and you are enjoying them-good for you!

Thanks. I'm just glad my wife is enjoying them as well. It helps that I let her have control.

 

[playwithlezli]

Thanks. I'm just glad my wife is enjoying them as well. It helps that I let her have control.

sounds wonderful!

I am off for the weekend, so I hope you get up to as much trouble as I hope to!

 

[PredatorSmile]

Surrender is not easy for certain personality types.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

i must admit my new hubby has let me take more control than i ever have and he has absolutely no problem surrending to me, its awesome but there are still times i wish it were flipped around and he was alittle more DOMER

 

[gingermango]

I'm a sub - I surrender totally to my Goddess every time we have any kind of sexual or D/s contact at all.

 

[SweetCherry]

I willingly surrender in all things, both in and out of the bedroom. It works well.

 

[VoteForMe]

Can You Surrender ? Let your partner have total access/control over your body during a sex act ? Or is that too much ?

No, that's not too much at all. When we first met she used to come home late at night after work and work me over. Now we have a different rhythm, and I thinks she prefers that I be the force. But we so totally trust each other that surrender works just fine.

 

[StrapFantasy]

I don't know what to classify myself. If you were to see me at work, dealing with some girl who's a slacker on the job or an arrogant client, you'd think I were a drill sergeant in a past life. I'm tough when I have to be. Yet when I come home...it's a whole different story. My man is a total dominant. And I've come to love being "taken by force". Ever since the "shower incident". Yet people who know me would NEVER guess this about me.

I thought about it and it wouldn't surprise me if macho boxers were into being subs at home and high-powered female executives also loved being dominated by the man in their life. Why ? It can be liberating, once you get past the fear.

I think people who must be forceful, aggressive, dominant, or have to be leaders in their professional lives tend to be submissive at home. There must be a need to shed all that we are at work - to be something by choice, different from the role life imposes upon us.

And to answer your question, absolutely yes! There is no better place to be than totally under her control.

PredatorSmile, your insights here are an incredible pleasure to read. Your outlook on taking a strap on to your guy is spot on how I feel about it, and now this. I think you may have just won yourself another fan!

 

[neonflux]

Yes...

Can You Surrender ? Let your partner have total access/control over your body during a sex act ? Or is that too much ?

I am into bdsm and switch. i can surrender / submit. Absolutely. I can also accept surrender. It is always a gift, to surrender and to honor the same from someone else.

Surrender is not easy for certain personality types.

I agree, as it is also not in some people's nature to Dominate.

In my way of thinking that is most important is to remain true to one's desires while also respecting those of one's partner(s)

 

[seahawk23]

Can you Surrender

I can as long as there is absolute trust between the two of us. I like receiving a bit of pain, and as long as I know the other person wouldn't do anything to hurt or deface me, I would love it. My wife I'm not so sure about, she love when I take over completly, but I'm not sure of complete control.

 

[Kandi]

I can, with the right partner.

 

[angelkitty7888]

My girlfriend and i have a bit of a strange rel;ationship with being dom/sub... in emotional matters it's almost always me that is leading (she has trouble with her emotions and figuring out how to word them) but with our love life? she definately is more in control than i am... in all honesty the first few months of our relationship she didn't want me to touch her at all, i'm not overly sure why, but i surrendered to her completely and was vastly rewarded and when she was comfortable with me touching her she basically surrendered to me and let me explore... i'm not that good at initiating sexual situations anyways... i always feel kinda stupid doing it... not to mention she is a very strong personality lol but i love her so i never mind submitting to her

 

[Radarlove500]

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[PredatorSmile]

If im with someone I can trust I have no problem giving myself to them. Its an incredible feeling once you let it happen.

good for you ! most people feel the same way on this topic.

 

[fingermagic]

Yup, I got to agree. I have given up total control with a couple of partners I trust and it turned out to be a great emotional experience and quite erotic. There was some pain involved, but I enjoy a bit of light pain. What I really liked was that once I gave up any desire for control, I was able to truly enjoy and understand the experience. It was lovely.

 

[bluesky496]

can i surrender ,oh yes please , my man and i have a special reelationship and i signed a contract in which i agreed to give him total obedience , i wear what he tells me , i do exactly as he wishes and i am totally submissive to him and i am not allowed to play with my cock unless he gives permission so yes i can submit

 

[klippert]

I have to say I'm much more dominant... I trust my wife completely so I could surrender...but not totally, I don't get off on excessive pain or tickling.....

so would that be a: yes but no.... or just NO

 

[eddie03]

I can completely surrender to my lover. With my ex we were both switches when it came to b&d/lite s&m play. It would go back and forth who would be the dom and who would be the sub. We had great communication when it came to our sex life (unfortunately horrid communication with everything else) and we always seemed to be on the same page when it came to sex. The first time I was her sub I will never forget, but the first time I was her dom I will never forget either. For both us it was the first time that we had ever given each other to another person in that respect.

That is my view of a hardcore 'surrender' however on a more romantic 'surrender' (not a dom or sub situation) that has been something I have been fortunate to achieve with all of my lovers. I know your thinking what do you mean a romantic surrender. To me its hard to put into words but its when she is guiding me in almost my every move and there is a connection so that you know you are fullfilling her needs and desires & your needs fade out & you take pleasure from pleasure you are giving. In that moment I am hers and only for her. I don't know if that made sense or not, but it does to me.

I don't know if will ever be given the chance to 'surrender' to a man, and if I would if I had the chance. But its a fantasy.

 

[TraderRon]

Sure, within reason.

 

[ficklefun]

Would be very difficult for me.

 

[dkak001]

Can You Surrender ? Let your partner have total access/control over your body during a sex act ? Or is that too much ?

Yes I can. She's the only person I've been able to do that with.