After 10 yrs of divorce I have recently married. The sex has been great but I need your advice, comments, ideas whatever. She has wanted sex everynight for the past 3 months which is great. My problem is I am having trouble keeping up that, what can I do? I am in my 50's and so is she. Please leave me something here or PM me. Thanks all you literotica friends.
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Snuggle Bunz
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I know alot of what hurts functioning is stress, and i cant tell u how to get rid of that one cus im still struggling with it. But whats helped is counseling to have a neutral party to talk to.... The other thing u could try is really delve deep into both of your kinks....what have u always wanted to hear? See? Have done to you? Sometimes really getting down into what u desire will spark something!
I would suggest herbs before the little blue pill, but you have to be wise and ensure any health issues are not present and if they are obviously that the herb does not interfear. You know the other thing to 'buy' time as it were, simply spend an evening seeking out her g-spot....i know it distracts me to no end perhapse it will be the same for her.
I would suggest herbs before the little blue pill, but you have to be wise and ensure any health issues are not present and if they are obviously that the herb does not interfear. You know the other thing to 'buy' time as it were, simply spend an evening seeking out her g-spot....i know it distracts me to no end perhapse it will be the same for her.
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Thank you snuggle bunz. I appreciate your comments. Some good suggestions there. It all still works but everyday is just getting a little tough. Talking with wife should help. The thought of talking with others I hope will happen too. That's why I am here thanks much.
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Quite welcome, and good heavens yes! Talk with her im a bit airheaded today thats the first thing u should do. My hubby and I are having our own sexual battles but talking and communication keep us together through all this hell.
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Hiya,
I'm around the same age .. I found this was the best thing to help the libido (given that stress is sometimes unavoidable). This thing really does work ..
http://www.happyhighherbs.com/Products/pid/7/Hard-n-Up
Plus, practising not ejaculating .. it takes a while to recover as you get older .. it just means you can keep the desire all the time .. a happy wife means a happy life ..
Sometimes ya just need some supplements to keep the cock healthy, especially as you get older .. but with a healthy strong cock and maturity .. you'll be on a winner ..
I'm around the same age .. I found this was the best thing to help the libido (given that stress is sometimes unavoidable). This thing really does work ..
http://www.happyhighherbs.com/Products/pid/7/Hard-n-Up
Plus, practising not ejaculating .. it takes a while to recover as you get older .. it just means you can keep the desire all the time .. a happy wife means a happy life ..
Sometimes ya just need some supplements to keep the cock healthy, especially as you get older .. but with a healthy strong cock and maturity .. you'll be on a winner ..
Thank you very much will check this out. I also agree need ot enjoy what we can not always have to ejaculate. Looking for more thoughts ideas suggestions. The stories on here sure do help with some of those things. Thanks to snuggle bunz and craiggie501 for your comments.
Here is something that helps me go twice a day with my lady.
It's women's Prenatal vitamins. I take one in the afternoon and I am good to go in the evening and the next morning. I know whatyou mean about it getting a little tough to go. I am going through cancer treatments and these vitamins have helped give me the energy to go.
It's women's Prenatal vitamins. I take one in the afternoon and I am good to go in the evening and the next morning. I know whatyou mean about it getting a little tough to go. I am going through cancer treatments and these vitamins have helped give me the energy to go.
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http://www.iherb.com/Irwin-Naturals-Yohimbe-Plus-Maximum-Performance-120-Liquid-Soft-Gels/3166?at=0
I'd recommend giving those a try...they work for me.
Another thing to try, if you haven't...is be phenomenal with your tongue. Making a woman scream from a blistering g-spot orgasm, is a highly effective way to keep her happy. Watching them lie there, unable to move for a full minute, is as hot as it gets for me.
I'd recommend giving those a try...they work for me.
Another thing to try, if you haven't...is be phenomenal with your tongue. Making a woman scream from a blistering g-spot orgasm, is a highly effective way to keep her happy. Watching them lie there, unable to move for a full minute, is as hot as it gets for me.
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Before you run off and try a bunch of herbal "supplements", make sure you're in shape. Do you excercise three or more times per week, particularly cardio?
If not, exercising and a healthy diet (not dieting, just eating well) will do wonders for your libido and sexual function.
If not, exercising and a healthy diet (not dieting, just eating well) will do wonders for your libido and sexual function.
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I agree about the working out...I do that, as well as the supplements. Though, the supplements I take were working before I got back into going to the gym. You really do have to be careful what ya take.
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Morning sex 
Set the alarm clock for an hour early.
Set the alarm clock for an hour early.hidden_self
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Be sure to talk to her about it. It's possible she's exaggerating her desire because she's afraid you will be put off if she's "not in the mood."
Consider some strategies for how you can please her without penile penetration. Oral sex and fingering are obvious choices, but they don't have to be boring.
For example, I once dated a guy who sometimes roleplayed being the cabana boy... he's get out the massage oil and give me a looooong full-body massage as I lay face down. He'd call me Ms. _____, say he hoped I didn't mind if he was so forward as to say I was very attractive, my boyfriend is a very lucky man, etc. Then he'd let his fingers wander between my legs, stroke my clit and finger me until I came a few times.
Beyond that, consider shopping (together, or surprise her) for a few toys for you to use on her. There is a lot of upside there, including the fact that she can choose what size she's in the mood for. ;-)
Consider some strategies for how you can please her without penile penetration. Oral sex and fingering are obvious choices, but they don't have to be boring.
For example, I once dated a guy who sometimes roleplayed being the cabana boy... he's get out the massage oil and give me a looooong full-body massage as I lay face down. He'd call me Ms. _____, say he hoped I didn't mind if he was so forward as to say I was very attractive, my boyfriend is a very lucky man, etc. Then he'd let his fingers wander between my legs, stroke my clit and finger me until I came a few times.
Beyond that, consider shopping (together, or surprise her) for a few toys for you to use on her. There is a lot of upside there, including the fact that she can choose what size she's in the mood for. ;-)
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Can you help
Im in the same boat, but I find its fun to try and keep up the pace.....
Im in the same boat, but I find its fun to try and keep up the pace.....
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There are a lot of things beside intercourse that you can use to satisfy her sexually. I think you should talk to her honestly and tell her that you're just getting worn down and need to do something OTHER than intercourse for a little while, before your penis falls off.
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Have you read my TRY THIS thread?
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892
If it works you'll be able to have whatever amount of sex you want but you'll be able to give her more than she can handle and not have to worry about your "performance." There are so many factors as we age that interfere with a good erection and one of the biggest reliefs of the stress that can sometimes cause problems is by being able to give her more orgasms than she ever thought possible. First off it is an enormous turn-on being able to watch her while you do this for/to her and that - the visuals of her orgasming like that is enough to fix the problem. What can happen though is you either cum through whatever means you enjoy and then you can spend as much time driving her insane as she wants. The technique allows almost unlimited orgasms for her. Women love the intimacy of intercourse but I have yet t hear a woman complain that she was having too many orgasms with their lover when they did this.
Have you read my TRY THIS thread?
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892
If it works you'll be able to have whatever amount of sex you want but you'll be able to give her more than she can handle and not have to worry about your "performance." There are so many factors as we age that interfere with a good erection and one of the biggest reliefs of the stress that can sometimes cause problems is by being able to give her more orgasms than she ever thought possible. First off it is an enormous turn-on being able to watch her while you do this for/to her and that - the visuals of her orgasming like that is enough to fix the problem. What can happen though is you either cum through whatever means you enjoy and then you can spend as much time driving her insane as she wants. The technique allows almost unlimited orgasms for her. Women love the intimacy of intercourse but I have yet t hear a woman complain that she was having too many orgasms with their lover when they did this.
thanks so much everyone for your comments and suggestions. yes I ma in good health and do exercise regularly. the communication issue has been brought up and we do talk but think maybe abit more specific and clear in taking will help. Love all the thoughts and ideas wow thank you very much everyone.
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