Can you help me?

[jenamapat]

i need help on being a dominant woman. I want to give this man his fantasy which is to be with a dominant woman. He wants to be a woman's bitch he says well i'm pretty submissive normally but i want to make this fantasy come true for him. Please answer here or pm please. Any help would be appreciative.

 

[Lena_Hornee]

i need help on being a dominant woman. I want to give this man his fantasy which is to be with a dominant woman. He wants to be a woman's bitch he says well i'm pretty submissive normally but i want to make this fantasy come true for him. Please answer here or pm please. Any help would be appreciative.

If he will teach you himself that can be really hot. I am naturally submissive or switchy, but had a man teach me how to make him my bitch. It allowed me to learn every nuance of his sexuality, and then I expanded from there.

 

[CutieMouse]

If you're the sort of person who benefits from research, or maybe just needs confirmation that it's okay to sometimes "run the show" [for everyone's pleasure], there are a couple of quick books on the subject of learning to dominate a lover.

The Sexually Dominant Woman : A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by Lady Green

and

The Mistress Manual : The Good Girl's Guide to Female Domination by Mistress Lorelei

But those are just guidelines... material to get your creative juices flowing and start thinking in terms of what you would like/what benefits you can see in taking charge. It also presumes an interest in actually taking charge sexually (at least every so often). Talking to him about what *his* view of "being your bitch" means will help quite a bit, as well... you might use a checklist as a resource to think of questions to ask/subjects to discuss.

 

[jenamapat]

Thanks guys so much for your replies. Lena, all the training he gave me us this. "First you have to figure out what you want. Then make me do it. You have to have rules and punishments for them if i don't do it to your liking. If you wanted me to call you yes mistress and crawl and my hands and knees make me do it." i think i just need to build my confidence up. i KNOW i can do this!

CutieMouse, thank you for your book suggestions. I'll have to try and find those and see if they can help me.

 

[CutieMouse]

Thanks guys so much for your replies. Lena, all the training he gave me us this. "First you have to figure out what you want. Then make me do it. You have to have rules and punishments for them if i don't do it to your liking. If you wanted me to call you yes mistress and crawl and my hands and knees make me do it." i think i just need to build my confidence up. i KNOW i can do this!

CutieMouse, thank you for your book suggestions. I'll have to try and find those and see if they can help me.

The titles are links to the Amazon listings; you could get both for just under $20 + shipping. They're also quick reads - like an hour or two. I owned them several years ago when a lover requested we have more of a "switch" relationship, and while the relationship didn't work out the research I did (those books and many others) helped me better understand the mindset behind the attitude. Make sense?

 

[Netzach]

When this is all over, he owes you one.

Dunno if this is a one-off favor or something for a lover they really want and so it's gratifying to do it for him, or what, but unless you're submissive enough to get sucked in and pleasing for good, keep it even steven.