Can y'all explain some things to me?

[Calamity Jane]

Quite often on the board we see questions raised about various kinks and whether or not we'd indulge in them. There's invariably an answer along these lines:

It's not my thing, but if it turns him/her on, then I'm all for it.

I've thought about this a lot lately, and I don't think I'd engage in a behavior that I found distatsteful just to please a partner. Now, I'll freely admit that I'm a selfish lover, but I can't imagine seeing my lover turned on is going to be enough of a turn on to me to make up for the fact that I was engaging in a behavior that did nothing for me.

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I also see this one a lot from the men:

To tell you the truth, I don't enjoy receiving oral all that much, but gawd I love to eat the pussy!

I've NEVER met a man who didn't enjoy oral. This place, in fact is the only place I've ever heard the claim, and I tend not to believe it. It sounds to me like a guy trying to come off all sensitive and caring and unslefish and stuff, but I never ever believe that they really don't want their cock in 'my' mouth.

Seriously now, in the name of research... how many of you guys are actually serious when you say this? I'm not asking if you cum when you get a blow job. I'm asking if you really truly don't enjoy the actual deed.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

That second one sounds like it comes from the same type of guy that says things like, "You know, I don't really like porn."

 

[huskie]

Quite often on the board we see questions raised about various kinks and whether or not we'd indulge in them. There's invariably an answer along these lines:



I've thought about this a lot lately, and I don't think I'd engage in a behavior that I found distatsteful just to please a partner. Now, I'll freely admit that I'm a selfish lover, but I can't imagine seeing my lover turned on is going to be enough of a turn on to me to make up for the fact that I was engaging in a behavior that did nothing for me.

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I also see this one a lot from the men:



I've NEVER met a man who didn't enjoy oral. This place, in fact is the only place I've ever heard the claim, and I tend not to believe it. It sounds to me like a guy trying to come off all sensitive and caring and unslefish and stuff, but I never ever believe that they really don't want their cock in 'my' mouth.

Seriously now, in the name of research... how many of you guys are actually serious when you say this? I'm not asking if you cum when you get a blow job. I'm asking if you really truly don't enjoy the actual deed.

are you single?


cock sucking question: When I was younger I didn't want it. But that could have been cause my cock was just to sensitive or that the girl just wasn't doing right??? not sure??? But I do love to give more than recieve oral and I aint that sensitive and caring and all that crap.....

 

[Calamity Jane]

Exactly! It's such an obvious lie that it's laughable.

 

[k¡tty]

I've never run into a man who didn't like having oral performed on him, thank goodness. But I do have a friend who's husband doesn't care for it.. so they are out there.. just a rarity is all.

 

[bad kitty]

I've thought about this a lot lately, and I don't think I'd engage in a behavior that I found distatsteful just to please a partner. Now, I'll freely admit that I'm a selfish lover, but I can't imagine seeing my lover turned on is going to be enough of a turn on to me to make up for the fact that I was engaging in a behavior that did nothing for me.

I see where you are coming from. I won't perform in an act that I have a problem with. i won't do that for anyone, but if I was indifferent and it really got them off, then I would. I have learned to repoect myself enought to stand up for myself. Doing things that you have a problem with and don't want to do will only fuel hatred, disgust, and resentment.

To tell you the truth, I don't enjoy receiving oral all that much, but gawd I love to eat the pussy!

I've NEVER met a man who didn't enjoy oral. This place, in fact is the only place I've ever heard the claim, and I tend not to believe it. It sounds to me like a guy trying to come off all sensitive and caring and unslefish and stuff, but I never ever believe that they really don't want their cock in 'my' mouth.

Seriously now, in the name of research... how many of you guys are actually serious when you say this? I'm not asking if you cum when you get a blow job. I'm asking if you really truly don't enjoy the actual deed.

I have only met one man that really says this and means it. I sure wish there were more. And I am anxiously awaiting to see the answers to this.

 

[ithaqua]

I've thought about this a lot lately, and I don't think I'd engage in a behavior that I found distatsteful just to please a partner. Now, I'll freely admit that I'm a selfish lover, but I can't imagine seeing my lover turned on is going to be enough of a turn on to me to make up for the fact that I was engaging in a behavior that did nothing for me.

There are many of us that are more flexabile about this. I for instance love to see my partner turned on. It is the most important thing about sex. If they are not having a good time, then it's never good for me. So yah, I am willing to trade (to a point) my good times for theirs as it comes back to me in the end.

'm not asking if you cum when you get a blow job. I'm asking if you really truly don't enjoy the actual deed.

Dude!, I am with you. They are all liars!

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: Can y'all explain some things to me?

are you single?

No. Why?


But I do love to give more than recieve oral and I aint that sensitive and caring and all that crap.....

I didn't ask which you enjoyed more though. I was asking if there were honestly men on the planet who don't enjoy receiving at all.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Quite often on the board we see questions raised about various kinks and whether or not we'd indulge in them. There's invariably an answer along these lines:



I've thought about this a lot lately, and I don't think I'd engage in a behavior that I found distatsteful just to please a partner. Now, I'll freely admit that I'm a selfish lover, but I can't imagine seeing my lover turned on is going to be enough of a turn on to me to make up for the fact that I was engaging in a behavior that did nothing for me.

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Define "did nothing for me". If something is neutral to me, but it will make my partner more enthusiastic, I'm game. For instance, if she can't keep her hands off me while I'm wearing panties, it is 'doing something for me', even though the idea of wearing paties by itself doesn't make me hot. There are also things I haven't tried, that i will attempt, if my lover is really into it, as long as it doesn't violate a hard limit. I'm not exactly eager to have things in my asshole, for instance, but if she wants to try it, and is willing to be as gentle as she expects me to be, I'll give it a go. After all, I might like it!

 

[curious2c]

Well...at the risk of sounding like the above-mentioned males...

I do like to receive oral but to give it is so much better. I enjoy the taste's, the sensation, the heat, everything about orally servicing a woman. I have always been this way for some reason. It isn't just the old 'please my partner thing' either. I really love to lick and be very close to pussy.

As to doing something that I may be uncomforatable with or that which is 'not my thing'.

I have in the past let some stuff go since my partner at the time was so into what was going on. I didn't enjoy it as much as they obviously did, but all things considered, I have never had 'bad' sex.

How far would I go to please a partner sexually? Depends on the particular circumstances at the time. I do have limits, just not very many.

 

[glamorilla]

i understand your point~there are certain things i would indulge a lover and i can see indulging in various kinks as a huge turn on if someone did them for me. we all have limits (i won't sleep with the same sex,no s&m,NO FISTING etc.) but i think someone that goes out of thier way to please thier lover as incredibly romantic an they might even learn a thing or two about thier sexuality in the process.

and for the record i love blowjobs~getting and giving and ive never had a man have trouble coming from one.

 

[8ball]

Quite often on the board we see questions raised about various kinks and whether or not we'd indulge in them. There's invariably an answer along these lines:



I've thought about this a lot lately, and I don't think I'd engage in a behavior that I found distatsteful just to please a partner. Now, I'll freely admit that I'm a selfish lover, but I can't imagine seeing my lover turned on is going to be enough of a turn on to me to make up for the fact that I was engaging in a behavior that did nothing for me.

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I also see this one a lot from the men:



I've NEVER met a man who didn't enjoy oral. This place, in fact is the only place I've ever heard the claim, and I tend not to believe it. It sounds to me like a guy trying to come off all sensitive and caring and unslefish and stuff, but I never ever believe that they really don't want their cock in 'my' mouth.

Seriously now, in the name of research... how many of you guys are actually serious when you say this? I'm not asking if you cum when you get a blow job. I'm asking if you really truly don't enjoy the actual deed.

The first part, hell yes. Seeing my lover turned on out of her mind would be well worth me doing something that did nothing for me.
Well, there are limits.

Oh, and I love both receiving and giving oral.

 

[bad kitty]

WOW! 5 replies in under a minute

 

[glamorilla]

plus if youre going to do something you prolly wanted to in the first plce and are just using that "I'm doing it for you"as an excuse.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

plus if youre going to do something you prolly wanted to in the first plce and are just using that "I'm doing it for you"as an excuse.

Good point...some people feel uncomfortable, so pass teh responsibility off on their partner...saying "I did it for him" allows a person to avoid the negative stigma of some acts.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I had a boyfriend who hated to get a blowjob. He loved to eat, but hated to have it done to him.

It's very, very simple, actually. He was terrified that his penis wasn't up to standard. If I never touched it with my hands or mouth, then I couldn't tell him he was too small. Or that's what he told me.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: Can y'all explain some things to me?

Define "did nothing for me". If something is neutral to me, but it will make my partner more enthusiastic, I'm game.

I'm not exactly eager to have things in my asshole, for instance, but if she wants to try it, and is willing to be as gentle as she expects me to be, I'll give it a go. After all, I might like it!

I'm trying to think of something I wouldn't actually be willing to do... LOL.

I can't see anything erotic about urine. Peeing on/for/with my partner would do absolutely nothing for me, because I think it's a private act and somewhat distasteful/disrespectful. No matter how much it turned my partner on, I'm not sure I'd do it because I wouldn't be into it at all.

BK... are you wishing there were more men who didn't like oral?

 

[Calamity Jane]

plus if youre going to do something you prolly wanted to in the first plce and are just using that "I'm doing it for you"as an excuse.

Excellent point.

 

[bad kitty]

Re: Re: Re: Can y'all explain some things to me?

BK... are you wishing there were more men who didn't like oral?

Indeed I am. I mean I like to lick and tease, but I hate doing it til he cums. I would much rather have him inside me to do that. The taste of cum makes me gag and puke everytime. I didn't used to mind it so much til I was made to do it regularly and my hate for it grew. Don't get me wrong I love to take a nice hard cock in my mouth and give it a good licking, but anything over 4 minutes crosses my threshold now.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Re: Re: Re: Can y'all explain some things to me?

I'm trying to think of something I wouldn't actually be willing to do... LOL.

I can't see anything erotic about urine. Peeing on/for/with my partner would do absolutely nothing for me, because I think it's a private act and somewhat distasteful/disrespectful. No matter how much it turned my partner on, I'm not sure I'd do it because I wouldn't be into it at all.

BK... are you wishing there were more men who didn't like oral?

I only have three really firm limits...Piss, Poop, and Pain. Everything else is negotiable.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Can y'all explain some things to me?

Indeed I am. I mean I like to lick and tease, but I hate doing it til he cums. I would much rather have him inside me to do that. The taste of cum makes me gag and puke everytime. I didn't used to mind it so much til I was made to do it regularly and my hate for it grew. Don't get me wrong I love to take a nice hard cock in my mouth and give it a good licking, but anything over 4 minutes crosses my threshold now.

Ohhhh... ok. I'm kinda with you on that one. I love sucking cock. Crave the feel of a cock in my mouth, actually. Lately though, the thought of swallowing cum makes me gag.

 

[bad kitty]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Can y'all explain some things to me?

Ohhhh... ok. I'm kinda with you on that one. I love sucking cock. Crave the feel of a cock in my mouth, actually. Lately though, the thought of swallowing cum makes me gag.

I can't even get to the swallowing part, the teeniest taste of it and I am heaving. Of course being pregnant doesn't help with that either.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

Did I say that?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Ladies...a guy who isn't sensitive to his lover's dislikes is a jerk. I think it is hot for a woman swallow...but I wouldn't insist on it any more than I would appreciate someone trying to force me to do something I don't like.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: Can y'all explain some things to me?

There are many of us that are more flexabile about this. I for instance love to see my partner turned on.

Oh, I like to see my partner turned on.

I think of it this way though. I don't think my partner doing something that he didn't enjoy, just to make me happy, would turn me on.