Can someone help me understand something?

[TrailerHitch]

Well I've decided its time for a new toy and this one has caught my eye. Anyone tried this one yet?

 

[mtfreehiker]

TrialerHitch, I believe the personals are used as entertainment. The same applies to correspondence inspired by an ad. The persons you converse with likely have no intention of meeting you in person. They only want the thrill of erotic talk. I ran into this years ago on Craig's List. At that time, there were a lot of scammers. Sad to say, most don't want to meet for coffee or even get to know who they are playing with. Like you, I have always sought long friendships with a good fuck buddy. This makes me old-fashion.

 

[mtfreehiker]

No, I have not tried the product. I've not bought any toys in years. Those that use batteries tend not to last. I do sculpt my own and cast them, in plat silicon. I am building a fuck machine.

 

[wishywashy1956]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing seems to come to fruition?

It seems to me your not talking to the right people.Look me up and we can chit chat and then go from there

 

[Vitriolhack]

TrialerHitch, I believe the personals are used as entertainment. The same applies to correspondence inspired by an ad. The persons you converse with likely have no intention of meeting you in person. They only want the thrill of erotic talk. I ran into this years ago on Craig's List. At that time, there were a lot of scammers. Sad to say, most don't want to meet for coffee or even get to know who they are playing with. Like you, I have always sought long friendships with a good fuck buddy. This makes me old-fashion.

Sorry for laughing, the old fashion comment comment made me chuckle.

 

[mtfreehiker]

Sorry for laughing, the old fashion comment comment made me chuckle.

It's okay to laugh. It is good for the soul.

 

[Superfungurl]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing seems to come to fruition?

I can tell you EXACTLY what you are doing wrong - thinking most guys will follow through. No. I've done this a couple of years now...I can host, I can travel...I've had SO much "interest" that disappears come go time. It's not hard - so many fantasize and few have the courage to actually go through with it. That's just reality. Hell, I've even used sites dedicated to this kind of fun and those people are the same! It's a low percent of guys who will actually go through, no doubt. My policy I developed is to just...not feed the flakes. So I've had to go to a "no pics unless we meet" type thing. Everyone loves the fantasy, but few have the courage to see it through. And? That's ok, I don't want someone who will freak the fuck out on me...I want my playmates to be enthusiastic!

 

[Smileyouronnow]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing seems to come to fruition?

Hi TrailerHitch, I am a married guy who has experimented in the past with a couple of other bi-curious married men.
I had been friends with both guy's for many years before doing anything. First of all we were friends, trusted each other long before even considering playing. We had talked lightly about our curiosity and never made each other uncomfortable. We through out an idea on the table to ponder and only talk about it again if there was interest or simply curiosity.

Always leaving the other a way to bow out and making sure to respect each others limits and wishes.
There many other things to consider, but the rest is for another time.
M.

 

[TrailerHitch]

I know the feeling TrailerHitch, I posted, and told exactly what I wanted and what I was all about. It started off great and when it came time for the hookup. Snowball setting in hell. Like you, I don't do the vehicle, alley or public settings. I got a 10,000+ square foot home. Took my wife and me 1 whole year to fuck in every thought of place there. Never made it to the barndaminum or party shed. Keep on trying, who knows, I just might call you up.

Let's talk, PM me. I'm tired of fakes, liars, cowards and players. Too many are just talkers.

 

[Britva415]

I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me.

"Here" isn't the place to meet guys who are serious about meeting someone to meet up and play with in person.

Use a real dating or hookup app. Some of the local guys on them are likely to be flakes too, but not the vast majority.

Also don't limit your search to other married, bi-curious guys. Let the uncloseted gay guys have a crack at showing you the ropes. Lots of them are beyond OK with no-strings play with married guys, and some of them will even enjoy regular repeats.

Are you apprehensive about that because you're afraid they'll all be stereotypical flaming queens rather than whatever your preferred type is? Banish the thought, give it a chance, I'm positive you'll find guys you can be into if you take it seriously and dare to see who you can meet.

 

[TrailerHitch]

I appreciate all of your advice but what I am looking for is someone without a track record of several or dozens of partners.

I'm not apprehensive about a flaming queen at all, although since I perceive myself as a bottom a queen would not be of much use to me. Hell I even said if a top shemale was interested to hit me up. What I am apprehensive about is someone with multiple partners and an STD.

So maybe I'm looking for a unicorn. I just don't know.

 

[AvgGuy01]

IMO. Lit is a majority fantasy based place. Yes, there are guys here who honestly share the same interests and curiosities, but unless you find someone close by, the chance of actually meeting up with someone in close to nil. There may not be an interest investing the time and effort to travel to meet a stranger from a porn site.

With that being said, good luck to you

 

[Nicklie]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing eems to come to fruition?l

Sounds like your being smart, safe and really do want to explore and need the adventure! If I'm being safe and haven't got to speak enough to get a reading on them I'd be cautious. Maybe try meeting at Starbucks but traveling then meeting I'd be cautious because your out of comfort zone. Try someone close and meet in public first maybe that would relax and be safer for all. If I was meeting someone for first time I'd have someone outside! Thing are different than they were 20 years ago! They will kill you, rob you no respect for life or anybody! I stay with meeting friends or through other friends, networking, Good luck. PM I'll talk and see in three or 4 states south! A nice motel maybe for first time. Also bi around same age experienced healthy and could guide you through this journey!

 

[Smileyouronnow]

Sounds like your being smart, safe and really do want to explore and need the adventure! If I'm being safe and haven't got to speak enough to get a reading on them I'd be cautious. Maybe try meeting at Starbucks but traveling then meeting I'd be cautious because your out of comfort zone. Try someone close and meet in public first maybe that would relax and be safer for all. If I was meeting someone for first time I'd have someone outside! Thing are different than they were 20 years ago! They will kill you, rob you no respect for life or anybody! I stay with meeting friends or through other friends, networking, Good luck. PM I'll talk and see in three or 4 states south! A nice motel maybe for first time. Also bi around same age experienced healthy and could guide you through this journey!

I think that most of the guys on this site love to fantasize, but when it comes to actually meeting they are very nervous about it and most often back out due to the nervousness.
If you really want to find and meet some bi-men, you might want to consider SilverDaddies.com. I believe you'll have better luck there.
This site tends to be more for sharing stories and fantasies of what you have done in the past and want to share and compare with others or what you dream of doing.
Don't get me wrong, that's also exciting to do.
Hope that helps.