Can someone help me understand something?

[TrailerHitch]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing seems to come to fruition?

 

[WillsCuriousity]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing seems to come to fruition?

I would say that your challenge is that Lit's primary focus isn't relationship hook ups. I know it happens but I would think of it like giving away stuff on craigslist. Its easy to say yes and then flake if its inconvenient or become uninteresting.

You might try a more local approach.

 

[paulman999]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing seems to come to fruition?

I understand the frustration, hosting is always the challenge, and meeting public somewhere is an safe choice. I suggest yo7 keep at it, and you will find the right partner eventually, There are other sites to consider. PM me for suggestions

 

[Cocklover121]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing seems to come to fruition?

I have had the same problem I think some people just want pictures then disappear. What area are you in I'm in the Knoxville area you can get me at boyes805@gmail.com if you want to talk

 

[gary04]

I agree but my problem is a little different. Nobody wants a 70 yr with a below average cock. I would love to find a regular hookup for occasionally meeting.

 

[TrailerHitch]

I agree but my problem is a little different. Nobody wants a 70 yr with a below average cock. I would love to find a regular hookup for occasionally meeting.

Where are you located?

 

[TrailerHitch]

I have had the same problem I think some people just want pictures then disappear. What area are you in I'm in the Knoxville area you can get me at boyes805@gmail.com if you want to talk

I sent you an e-mail.

 

[gary04]

Sent email

 

[TrailerHitch]

Sent email

Never got it

 

[gary04]

Check your spam I sent another

 

[Gulfbaypaul]

Hi, here are a few of my suggestions. I am bi married so I know it’s difficult to connect
1. Meetup.com is free and has social gatherings wit like minded men. Last month I went to one of their get together at a members house six men in total all respectfully and in their 5o’s
2. Silverdaddies.com free mature men all over the world with similar interests. I have met a few on here but timing is an issue.
Good look and I’m me if you want to chat

 

[muycurioso]

Mid MI 54

 

[southfla]

TrailerHitch, try Adam4adam. You can join for free and see where people are measured in feet.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I've been posting about my Bi-Curiosity for a few months now. I'm 63, MWM in an open marriage and my wife knows and is okay with my bi-sex curiosity and my exploring it as long as I play safe. I have talked to several guys on here and it seems like it gets to the point of setting a time and place to meet up and people just seem to disappear and then ghost me. I live in Tennessee and I can travel to nearby states and perhaps even farther if we hit it off.

I guess my only restriction is I am not interested in doing this in a car, or a park, or any public place. My wife and I agreed that none of our "play friends" are allowed in our home so that is out, and I understand that may be the same with a potential partner. I'm okay with paying for a reasonably priced motel, but I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away.

So tell me what am I doing wrong that nothing seems to come to fruition?

I get the sense that you want to have some kind of connection before you jump into “action”.

To me, it it’s a lot better when you first have a beer and a conversation, then see where it leads.

Meeting for the sole purpose of sex, may be intimidating at first, then again, maybe I’m old school?

 

[TrailerHitch]

I get the sense that you want to have some kind of connection before you jump into “action”.

To me, it it’s a lot better when you first have a beer and a conversation, then see where it leads.

Meeting for the sole purpose of sex, may be intimidating at first, then again, maybe I’m old school?

Did you read this part of my post? "I would like the first meet up to be in a restaurant or bar so if either one of us is uncomfortable it is easy to walk away." I want to meet first, have a drink, lunch or dinner and talk to see if we are compatible. I am not interested in some deep relationship, but friendship is cool with me. I also am not interested in picking some guy up for anonymous sex.

I have had long conversations on lit with different guys, even talked on the phone with a few, and it always seems to go like this, yeah I'm interested, let's get together, and then poof ghost time.

 

[TrailerHitch]

Well I decided to take care of some of my longing with a new toy. I bought a heated, thrusting, vibrator to play with.

 

[Smileyouronnow]

Well I decided to take care of some of my longing with a new toy. I bought a heated, thrusting, vibrator to play with.

View attachment 2212624

I believe I know what the problem is. You're talking about meeting people from near & far away.
Most attached men are looking for a regular buddy for occasional meets. If you are talking about traveling to other states, it implies you are looking for for quick flings and quick flings are usually playing with many different people.

I'm also married and would prefer someone in the same area so we could occasionally meet when work schedules, family life and time permit our meeting.

It is also good to let your potential fwb know if you are looking for topping ,bottom, receive, give or both with oral.
If you've been tested for std's, let them know. You'll get more responses. Try friending other Married guys before trying to schedule a meeting and find out what they have in common with you.
It will help when you are trying to connect.

 

[TrailerHitch]

I am not interested in quick flings. I have talked with a few about shared interests. Just because I am willing to travel, within reason, doesn't imply anything about my motives. It just increases opportunities. I have clearly and concisely on multiple posts stated EXACTLY what I am looking for.

You made several unfounded assumptions about me that I don't appreciate in the least.

 

[Smileyouronnow]

I was giving some of what i thought was constructive criticism and was trying to help. I meant no insult. My apologies for the misunderstanding.

 

[TrailerHitch]

I was giving some of what i thought was constructive criticism and was trying to help. I meant no insult. My apologies for the misunderstanding.

I am a bi-curious virgin in that I have done nothing with a man, TS, Crossdresser, or otherwise. I have stated that clearly. I have also stated clearly, multiple times that I am looking to learn how to be a good cocksucker and perhaps be fucked if the circumstances were right.

I would love to find a local regular but so far everyone close to me has turned out to be a flake, a phony, caused my spidey sense to go into overdrive, or just poofed and ghosted me after many messages back and forth. I would love to have a friend that was also interested in bi sex. Sadly I have not found that yet.

 

[southfla]

TrailerHitch, I would suggest you stay off Literotica. If you want anything to come to fruition regarding your bi desires stay with sites with members closer to your location.
Try these:
Adam4adam.com
Squirt.org
Doublelist.com
and even craigslist, but you have to read between the lines there.

 

[TrailerHitch]

TrailerHitch, I would suggest you stay off Literotica. If you want anything to come to fruition regarding your bi desires stay with sites with members closer to your location.
Try these:
Adam4adam.com
Squirt.org
Doublelist.com
and even craigslist, but you have to read between the lines there.

I am looking for a unicorn I think. I would love someone close that has not had a ton of partners. Honestly, one guy who would hook up with me a few times a year would be perfect.

 

[WillsCuriousity]

Hi, here are a few of my suggestions. I am bi married so I know it’s difficult to connect
1. Meetup.com is free and has social gatherings wit like minded men. Last month I went to one of their get together at a members house six men in total all respectfully and in their 5o’s
2. Silverdaddies.com free mature men all over the world with similar interests. I have met a few on here but timing is an issue.
Good look and I’m me if you want to chat

Curious what search terms you used for MeetUp? Anytime I put in anything I can think of that would get me to a sex type situation it draws a blank.

 

[Gulfbaypaul]

Curious what search terms you used for MeetUp? Anytime I put in anything I can think of that would get me to a sex type situation it draws a blank.

Meetup.com/login

 

[WillsCuriousity]

Meetup.com/login

?