Can one blackmail a male into sex?

[jeninflorida]

When you think about it, what man would ever say no to sex? So, under what situations can a male succumb into sex? Under what situations can this be sexy for the reader?

 

[Never]

My first thought would be a priest or a married man.

 

[tanyachrs]

I knew a guy who was totally anal about using condoms. How about blackmailing a guy into going bareback? Too dangerous to be hot in real life but it could make a good story.

 

[AsylumSeeker]

When you think about it, what man would ever say no to sex? So, under what situations can a male succumb into sex? Under what situations can this be sexy for the reader?

It depends on the size of the 'barrel' - LOL

 

[AsylumSeeker]

Well, I'm guessing one can't quote the TITLE line, or I did it wrong. Sigh. So this will seem nonsensical. Many apologies to all.

 

[bisexplicit]

Generalizations such as all men want sex with any woman at all times is, to put it politely, untrue.

 

[Never]

Generalizations such as all men want sex with any woman at all times is, to put it politely, untrue.

What next? Not all black men are well hung animals? Not all women secretly want to be 'put in their place' via rape?

Pornography is full of disturbing stereotypes. It's something I find myself struggling with at times. When so much of porn is the world as we sometimes wish it to be, what does it say about us that our collective fantasies revolve around incest and rape?

 

[floating]

Readers are often able to suspend their disbelief in the name of an orgasm, so just about any contrivance to blackmail a man into sex would be just fine. In our fantasies, men are probably going to agree to have sex with any attractive woman. However, the man being faithfully married(or attached) would work just fine because you're still not supposed to be having sex with this unbelievably attractive woman even though you'd like to.

I think it's a hot idea. Run with it.

[Deos anyone know "The Last Five Years"? Listen to the song "A Miracle Would Happen/When You Come Home to Me".]

 

[Lee Chambers]

Despite the stereotype, there are men in the world who don't think with their dick.

A man could be single and not want to sleep with a beautiful woman because she works in the same company, or department, or is a client. Mixing business with pleasure, in the real world, is very risky and dangerous. If things go sour in the relationship they often screw things up in the business end.

A pragmatic man would not get involved with someone in this position (one of the reasons I don't like to date co-workers). But if the woman wants him enough she could blackmail him into sleeping with her.

Another situation where a man wouldn't sleep with a beautiful woman is that he isn't interested in here (again, going with the "not all men think with dicks" idea). She's really hot, but maybe she's a real bitch, maybe she smokes or drinks a lot, or maybe she did something like blackmailing or backstabbing someone else that turns him away from her. But she won't be rejected, so she'll get him by any means she can.

 

[jeninflorida]

My first thought would be a priest or a married man.

well i would focus on the married man. the point, can a story have conflict and keep the reader on his or her seat with out sounding perdictable. or, if there was a blackmail theme, would the reader expect the man to give in.....

 

[BlackSnake]

My first thought would be a priest or a married man.

I'd say a married man who really loves and adores his wife. Sex with someone else would not only be a betrayal to his wife, but would be damanaging to his sense of self. He would be forced to go against his core values. Some people may not think very much of men, but a lot of us have things we hold true to ourselves.

For instance, you can talk trash about some men their wife, clothes, car, job, etc., but if you say a word about their mother you have a fight on your hand.

To me, the blackmail has to be damaging to someone he loves, not himself, because men take personal hits all the time. Losing jobs, friends, etc. Men would roll with the punches, the other thing to think about is that men know that if you give into blackmail it won't stop.

The blackmail has to be very good

 

[jeninflorida]

that is one example of great conflict, he's torn. he wants to keep his job/stay out of trouble...and doesn't want to risk his marriage...as he loves his wife.

I'd say a married man who really loves and adores his wife. Sex with someone else would not only be a betrayal to his wife, but would be damanaging to his sense of self. He would be forced to go against his core values. Some people may not think very much of men, but a lot of us have things we hold true to ourselves.

For instance, you can talk trash about some men their wife, clothes, car, job, etc., but if you say a word about their mother you have a fight on your hand.

To me, the blackmail has to be damaging to someone he loves, not himself, because men take personal hits all the time. Losing jobs, friends, etc. Men would roll with the punches, the other thing to think about is that men know that if you give into blackmail it won't stop.

The blackmail has to be very good

 

[emap]

This is a toughy. At first I'm thinking blackmailed into gay sex, but like blacky said, that would have to be a really good blackmail unless he wanted to do it in which case blackmail is kinda pointless.

Now I'm not wanting to go here, but let's talk religuous blackmail. Say you have a younger man who is really into a jewish girl and goes to the synagogue with her on the sly. Say he and his folks, more his folks of course are strict bible thumping there is no such thing as evolution Catholic. Now the person blackmailing him can be all sorts of different people, his sister for those into incest, his teacher for those into that particular thing, though personally I am thinking more along the lines of the girl next door who has loved and lusted after him since they were both born.

Say she followed him to the synagogue and got a picture of him going in with her cell phone. Threatens to show it to his parents unless he gives her sex, of course gives him a day or two to think about it.

 

[BlackSnake]

This is a toughy. At first I'm thinking blackmailed into gay sex, but like blacky said, that would have to be a really good blackmail unless he wanted to do it in which case blackmail is kinda pointless.

Now I'm not wanting to go here, but let's talk religuous blackmail. Say you have a younger man who is really into a jewish girl and goes to the synagogue with her on the sly. Say he and his folks, more his folks of course are strict bible thumping there is no such thing as evolution Catholic. Now the person blackmailing him can be all sorts of different people, his sister for those into incest, his teacher for those into that particular thing, though personally I am thinking more along the lines of the girl next door who has loved and lusted after him since they were both born.

Say she followed him to the synagogue and got a picture of him going in with her cell phone. Threatens to show it to his parents unless he gives her sex, of course gives him a day or two to think about it.

Yes, family...I'm over 40 and still don't swear in front of my mother and aunts (good catholic boy that I am ).

 

[Texguy84]

Say he and his folks, more his folks of course are strict bible thumping there is no such thing as evolution Catholic.

A minor note here: The Catholic Church is Evolution compatible. According to the Vatican, there's insufficient evidence to prove it right or wrong, so you can believe it happened *as long* as you believe that God made it happen.

Of course, if you prefer to believe that God created life in some other fashion, that hasn't been proven to be totally bunk, then more power to you too. Apparantly we're just weirdly flexible like that.

That said, I can see how the blackmail could work here if the guy's parents didn't want him hanging out with no Jewish girls. Bonus points if they're sexually adventerous to begin with, and the girl also blackmail the Jewish girl... with the same picture, only the threat being that the girl's parents will get it.. into some lesbian action or something...

 

[subwannabe]

For the most part the stereotype is true but certainly a lot of married men wouldn't be afraid to say no. My first thought was yes, you could blackmail a man into being a sex SLAVE, something he might not want to do. That is one of my favorite fantasies. I once posted a story idea about some college girls tricking guys into being their sex slaves, actually having a contest to see how many guys they could get.

 

[BlackSnake]

For the most part the stereotype is true but certainly a lot of married men wouldn't be afraid to say no. My first thought was yes, you could blackmail a man into being a sex SLAVE, something he might not want to do. That is one of my favorite fantasies. I once posted a story idea about some college girls tricking guys into being their sex slaves, actually having a contest to see how many guys they could get.

Sounds like a promise the guys might get some

 

[Athena_e19]

Viagra

Situationally speaking, men have Viagra.

What about the husband of a politician who is gone in DC for long periods of time during Senate sessions. He is a middle aged man, alone, but completely faithful to his wife. However, the woman who does the families cooking and cleaning starts introducing regular doses of Viagra into his food. He has three months to go, and he can't understand the constant hard on.

Starts masturbating, hoping to releive it, but come dinner, it is back. Soon his fantasies are wandering, but he only has two months to go. The maid/cook starts using the way she dresses to encourage it. Then she leaves the bathroom door open while peeing/ showering, etc. It is just an ongoing torture. One month to go.

Then we have the scene where she gets what she wants, the week before the wife returns. Blackmails the guy into repeated sexual encounters. Eventually he is a willing partner and she discontinues the Viagra use.

 

[rydia57]

When you think about it, what man would ever say no to sex? So, under what situations can a male succumb into sex? Under what situations can this be sexy for the reader?

There are guys that simply aren't into it. But it would be nice to blackmail them into it, and then have them wind up liking it... I've had that fantasy twice... go for it!

 

[BedtimeStories77]

When you think about it, what man would ever say no to sex? So, under what situations can a male succumb into sex?

If he's straight and the blackmailer is a male, it would be a sex act he's not entering willingly.

If the blackmailer is "ugly", or by any means, a turn off for him...

 

[Never]

Athena_e19:
"Situationally speaking, men have Viagra.

What about the husband of a politician who is gone in DC for long periods of time during Senate sessions. He is a middle aged man, alone, but completely faithful to his wife. However, the woman who does the families cooking and cleaning starts introducing regular doses of Viagra into his food. He has three months to go, and he can't understand the constant hard on."

FYI: Viagra can kill you. More than five pills a month is dangerous.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I've written one story involving blackmail of a shrink where he is married and he is afraid that he and his wife will go to prison for his wife's theft from her workplace. To protect both of them, and partly to punish her for the theft (from which he unwittingly benefited, hence the risk to him, but of which he disapproved), he succumbs to blackmail with his wife's boss. She's a hot British-born lawyer and makes him become office stud. The story is called "Blackmailed For Wife's Crimes". And, yes, the other woman is a smoker (then again, so is the shrink).

Another story with blackmailed men is "Hank And His Neighbors", which involves a pastor and his foreign-born, married lover being blackmailed by her husband and his new girlfriend (and her family). To say the least, a minister would have a lot to lose in such a case.

 

[funrunner]

Not so original, but...

There is always the situation where a man works for a high powered female boss. She then makes a move on him, and he declines. He then threatens to sue for sexual harassment and she then threatens to turn the tables on him. Who would the company believe? The male employee who is saying his boss harassed him, or the female boss who is alleges that he tried to rape her. (If this sounds familiar, it is the plot from the Michael Douglas and Demi Moore movie, Disclosure).

So in a nutshell, can a male be blackmailed....I would think so. If backed into a corner where it can have a serious impact in his personal and professional career, what is he to do? Threatening someone with a rape allegation can seriously impact the way that someone lives their lives.

I can see someone succumbing to this because they don't want their family life disrupted, not have to deal with a harassment investigation that could turn criminal.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Absolutely, a man can be blackmailed. I wrote a story,"Pet Teacher" about a high school teacher who was blackmailed by an 18 year old female student. In fact, I wrote four sequels to the story and there will be more. I also have a story where a woman college professor blackmails a student, threatening to flunk him, and getting him expelled from college. In this case, she used a strapon on his ass "The Professor's Dildo". That one is also the first of a series.