Can I go and not be part of the action?

[deezire1900]

A friend invited me to her "spanking good time birthday party" Can I go and not be part of the direct action. I love her to pieces and would hate to miss her 30th birthday....plus I don't want her to think I don't support her.

and what the hell do you wear to an event like this?

Thanks.

 

[Goddess Helia]

deezire1900, I'm sure you coild give your friend a call and explain your mixed feelings on this. Ask her to explain to you a bit more what would be expected.

Any parties like that, that I've been to were pretty open to everyone's individuale comfort levels. (Not that many, btw.)

I'm sure your friend would give you a clear view of what exactly would be expected at her party.

And if she doesn't want you there if you don't want to jion in, well at least you know before hand.

Going to observe the fun and games is a great way to learn and explore though.

Just relax and have fun.

Respectfully,
Helia

 

[MissTaken]

Only adding

your friend is lucky to have a friend like you.

 

[FungiUg]

A friend invited me to her "spanking good time birthday party" Can I go and not be part of the direct action. I love her to pieces and would hate to miss her 30th birthday....plus I don't want her to think I don't support her.

and what the hell do you wear to an event like this?

Thanks.

My suggestion: go, but make sure you have your sense of humour seriously engaged! Prepare to be wierded out (or even better, oddly attracted).

Wear whatever you like (something comfortable would be my suggestion) -- but if you wanna get kinky with it, leather, PVC, and the "slutty" look are all good. (Think Madonna and you can't go far wrong.)

 

[His_sugar]

the first 'party' i went to like this, i wore a summer dress and a pair of white keds. Nothing that screamed "i am kinky" but i felt comfortable and was welcomed warmly. The attire ranged from nakedness, to leather, to very extreme fetish wear.

i didn't participate at a 'party' for 6 months, until i was completely comfortable and had gotten to know those who attended.. again, no one made me feel bad for my choices, infact they respected me alot more i think.

Each person takes away what they want from an event like this. If you want to support your friend, her choices and her lifestyle.. that is wonderful! Don't think you will be expected to get naked upon arrival and participate. These are not swinger club orgies *grin*

Have a great time!

basque

 

[lark sparrow]

A friend invited me to her "spanking good time birthday party" Can I go and not be part of the direct action. I love her to pieces and would hate to miss her 30th birthday....plus I don't want her to think I don't support her.

and what the hell do you wear to an event like this?

Thanks.

Sounds like good questions to ask your friend.

Perhaps you talked to her and know it is a kinky party, but I wouldn't assume that simply from the title, and have absolutely no idea what type of event it might be from what you have included in this post. Good luck and have fun!