can a sub not like pain
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Hecate
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Welcome aboard deadhippy (geee- what a handle *chuckles*)
and YES! a sub can not like pain.
In fact, there is a quite clear distinction between D/s (as in Dominance and submission) and in SM (sadism and masochism).
In many cases you will find that the lines between those two are blurred in a BDSM relation, but as to how much the one or other side has the better part of it is strictly up to the people involved.
There is no law saying D/s always comes with a topping of pain, so enjoy what you and your partner like about the power exchange (that is basically the core of a non-SM D/s relation I would say) and deal with the rest as you see fit.
PS: since you are getting replies you obviously did it right
and YES! a sub can not like pain.
In fact, there is a quite clear distinction between D/s (as in Dominance and submission) and in SM (sadism and masochism).
In many cases you will find that the lines between those two are blurred in a BDSM relation, but as to how much the one or other side has the better part of it is strictly up to the people involved.
There is no law saying D/s always comes with a topping of pain, so enjoy what you and your partner like about the power exchange (that is basically the core of a non-SM D/s relation I would say) and deal with the rest as you see fit.
PS: since you are getting replies you obviously did it right
CarolineOh
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deadhippy said:
You did just fine. Welcome to Lit.
lovetoread
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Yes.
I am a sub.
I hate excessive pain.
To me anything that goes beyond a spanking or nipple play is too much.
I am a sub.
I hate excessive pain.
To me anything that goes beyond a spanking or nipple play is too much.
Trainerman
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If you don't mind me saying....
its a bit like asking "can a woman not like ice cream ?" or "Can a man put the rubbish out?" <joke>
Be yourself...as long as you and your partner are happy, go for it. Don't worry about definitions and fitting pidgeon holes. (ever seen a pidgeons hole ??!!).
Being ourselves and happy is what its all about....its "whatever floats your boat ".
Enjoy
p.s....answers to the above 1) yes 2) don't ask me....I am a fella !!!!
its a bit like asking "can a woman not like ice cream ?" or "Can a man put the rubbish out?" <joke>
Be yourself...as long as you and your partner are happy, go for it. Don't worry about definitions and fitting pidgeon holes. (ever seen a pidgeons hole ??!!).
Being ourselves and happy is what its all about....its "whatever floats your boat ".
Enjoy
p.s....answers to the above 1) yes 2) don't ask me....I am a fella !!!!
cymbidia
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As has been discussed, most submissives like some degree of sensation play, even if it's mild. Some, however, do not. They prefer other aspects of submission, stuff like service roles or humilitation play, for example.
What's right is totally dependant on what you and your partner have determined you need between you.
What's right for you will probably not be right for me. It doesn't mean i'm wrong and you're right, it only means there's lots of ways to be right.
The real trick is to find a partner who needs to do the kinds of things we need to do to the degree we need to do them.
Everything else is just and forever personal preference.
What's right is totally dependant on what you and your partner have determined you need between you.
What's right for you will probably not be right for me. It doesn't mean i'm wrong and you're right, it only means there's lots of ways to be right.
The real trick is to find a partner who needs to do the kinds of things we need to do to the degree we need to do them.
Everything else is just and forever personal preference.
