Can a cheater ever be trusted?

[Deacon_Voss]

I said beating because it's similar to cheating where the guilty one often says ill never do it again. yet they almost always seem too.

As for the cheating question thank you to everyone for your responses. I never have and never would simple because hate it being done to me. That being said i can understand some situations where there is that gray area and i dont judge people on that.

I'm confused, because you say you wouldn't cheat, and in your siggy it says you're faithful, But in the personals you're asking to meet with a woman that has a boyfriend she wants to cheat on?

What gives?

 

[Januari]

I wouldn't trust someone who has cheated before. I did once, and then I was so shocked and angry when they cheated and lied to me too.

Now if you're talking about cheating at Monopoly..... it's the only way to make the game end!

 

[tnh_06]

My wife cheated for quite a while, it took a while to completely forgive, but trust? I don't completely trust she won't do it again, what I have done is come to the conclusion that if she did, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I really don't think people are built for monogamy. So I don't worry anymore about distrust and get all worked up about what she might be doing. Is that trust? No. But i don't think she is and if she does, let's hope she's a lot more inventive than she is at home, or it will be a one time thing.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I'm confused, because you say you wouldn't cheat, and in your siggy it says you're faithful, But in the personals you're asking to meet with a woman that has a boyfriend she wants to cheat on?

What gives?

And this is why I love you.

 

[Deacon_Voss]

And this is why I love you.

I'd never cheat, unless it's with you

 

[Deacon_Voss]

I'd never cheat, unless it's with you

Or Beachbaby,

Or Sexy Britches,

Or Jersey Jade,

Or . . . eh fuck it, I'm a horny guy like 99.9% of men.

 

[zydrate]

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[AlwaysFara]

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Best Answer.

 

[Januari]

My wife cheated for quite a while, it took a while to completely forgive, but trust? I don't completely trust she won't do it again, what I have done is come to the conclusion that if she did, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I really don't think people are built for monogamy. So I don't worry anymore about distrust and get all worked up about what she might be doing. Is that trust? No. But i don't think she is and if she does, let's hope she's a lot more inventive than she is at home, or it will be a one time thing.

Right there with you. It sounds amazing in theory but in practice.....

And I like that you differentiated between forgive and trust. For some, the two are mutually exclusive. I don't agree that they are.

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

I guess if somebody feels the need to cheat their current relationship is already finished.

 

[KarenB59]

Short answer- no

And if someone is in a relationship with someone who is cheating on someone else and they think they're not going to do the same thing to them one day. Well, that's just a special kind of stupid.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I guess if somebody feels the need to cheat their current relationship is already finished.

This is a battle I will choose and not to fight. But this answer has always made me angry. It is not so cut-and-dry.

 

[Disturbingimage]

I'm confused, because you say you wouldn't cheat, and in your siggy it says you're faithful, But in the personals you're asking to meet with a woman that has a boyfriend she wants to cheat on?

What gives?

That was joke for someone obviously not really. if your gonna go through my history at least understand who your talking to. any user i have actually communicated with personally not just a thread comment i make it very clear i am happy where i am and not gonna cheat or meet up.

Sorry if you cheated and now feel like others are righteous for not but dont bring it this way just cause i said i wouldnt

 

[English_Oak]

This is a battle I will choose and not to fight. But this answer has always made me angry. It is not so cut-and-dry.

Totally agree, a relationship is more than sex.

 

[Karabare]

My wife cheated for quite a while, it took a while to completely forgive, but trust? I don't completely trust she won't do it again, what I have done is come to the conclusion that if she did, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I really don't think people are built for monogamy. So I don't worry anymore about distrust and get all worked up about what she might be doing. Is that trust? No. But i don't think she is and if she does, let's hope she's a lot more inventive than she is at home, or it will be a one time thing.

This, just change she to he. And Lit has made me much more inventive.

 

[Deacon_Voss]

That was joke for someone obviously not really. if your gonna go through my history at least understand who your talking to. any user i have actually communicated with personally not just a thread comment i make it very clear i am happy where i am and not gonna cheat or meet up.

Sorry if you cheated and now feel like others are righteous for not but dont bring it this way just cause i said i wouldnt

You called me a troll? Damn, I must have really got you where it hurts. Sorry, good luck in your marriage.

 

[Disturbingimage]

You called me a troll? Damn, I must have really got you where it hurts. Sorry, good luck in your marriage.

What else to you call someone throwing shade one someone else for simply responding. Either you recognized my name from that post or went and searched thru my history to make me look bad.
Why bro? why not just be like yes or no on the question and move on?
Ill admit this subject is a lil touchy for me but you can't hurt me with your words.
Have a nice day and thanks for your input.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Define "cheater"?

Is it just a physical thing, is it an emotional attachment?

There are so many levels and shades of grey.

If you're in a Litship with someone who's married, and they talk to others, is THAT cheating???? I'm so confused.

 

[DarkSimian]

I think this is an interesting question especially since this is a sex site and there are many married people on here. Now they may not meet someone for sex but what about flirting, or playing online, or later sex pms, or phone, or cam....

A lot of people on here cheat... and what if you are married and your spouse doesn't know you are online and that you are playing?

Frankly I don't think this is a realist question to ask because more are guilty then not. Just my 2 cents.

Thank you, sir.

 

[Shi_One81]

I’ve learned once a cheater always a cheater.

 

[Rascal1357]

The honest answer is No

Nope........wish it could happen but it just doesn't

 

[LadyJS]

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[beachbaby179]

Or Beachbaby,

Or Sexy Britches,

Or Jersey Jade,

Or . . . eh fuck it, I'm a horny guy like 99.9% of men.

Haha. Back atcha, Deacon.

So... I cheated, if you can call it that. Yes. I was still married. Technically. But it was loveless, sexless for over a decade (yep...) and headed for divorce. Does that mean I would ever do it again? Well, I'm not likely to marry again but if I ever did, the answer is no. I take my promises seriously and was just at my breaking point. I needed some validation that I was still worth something. And as it turned out, it was a good choice for me because it wasn't just a one night fling, we were very close friends before that, and remain close today. And he made me feel like a queen.

There's never a stock answer to anything where relationships are concerned.

 

[DarkSimian]

Haha. Back atcha, Deacon.

So... I cheated, if you can call it that. Yes. I was still married. Technically. But it was loveless, sexless for over a decade (yep...) and headed for divorce. Does that mean I would ever do it again? Well, I'm not likely to marry again but if I ever did, the answer is no. I take my promises seriously and was just at my breaking point. I needed some validation that I was still worth something. And as it turned out, it was a good choice for me because it wasn't just a one night fling, we were very close friends before that, and remain close today. And he made me feel like a queen.

There's never a stock answer to anything where relationships are concerned.

Amen ((((((((hugs)))))))))))

 

[Yrsecret]

Just because we enjoy coming to this site for whatever reason doesn’t make us all cheaters. And yes maybe SOME here are cheaters. But friendly conversation, compliments, and flirting isn’t anything different then the way you act at a party or out with your friends.

The way I look at it is......if you found out you significant other was doing what your doing (flirting etc) would you be upset? If yes then it’s wrong. If no then your all good!