Can a cheater ever be trusted?

[Disturbingimage]

So i have this theory that if someone cheats(or beats) once they with do it again.
Some people have agreed while others say no it can be a one time thing.

So my question is if you someone has cheated either with you or on you can you ever trust them to not do it again?

 

[PattiJolene]

May I be blunt ...no they can't be trusted.

 

[pvt_addiction]

May I be honest? Not bragging by any means, but I’m probably not the best person to ask.

 

[BongoGal]

I say no, and that is one of the reasons I have never cheated.

 

[DeckardNYC]

I think it depends on the person and the circumstances that led to the cheating. At the extremes, some people cheat because that's just the way they are, they have no need to be honest and trustworthy. On the other end, some people cheat despite being honest and trustworthy and guilt ridden, because they are lacking and desperately need affection in their lives. And I'm sure there are all shades of grey in-between.

 

[PNWKitten]

Honest answer. Is no. Cheaters will continue to cheat. In RL or online, it doesn't matter the medium.

 

[barefootgirl69]

There are some who are 'serial cheaters' and some who have cheated once who will never go down that road again, they realize it's not worth losing everything.

The REAL question is will they ever be trusted again, and the answer is "no". You can't undo things, you'll never be fully trusted again.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Once you fully commit to the act of physically cheating you've basically crossed a line that's extremely difficult to come back from. So...yeah, don't do it. Like ever.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

I notice the popular vote is no. Never trust them again. In real life, I've seen where the woman forgives the man on many occasions. If a woman cheats, THAT'S THE END. I've always wondered why the double standard?

I'm not saying that I'm guilty of it, just my observations.

 

[XBeautifulSoulX]

No my personal opinion is if they do it once someone else will tempt them I don't think I could trust myself not to throw accusations at them every time there is a fight,or they don't answer a call and so on.

Cheating makes you feel less than you should in a relationship some partners see even texting someone else as cheating and can't forgive and move on. I can understand this because the intent for self gratification was there.

Edit I should add there are plenty of circumstances that cheating is understandable to me. I personally couldn't do it to anyone I care for I'd rather leave a bad relationship before it gets to that.

 

[DarkSimian]

*sigh* Just call me Hester Prynn, then ….

 

[beachbaby179]

*sigh* Just call me Hester Prynn, then ….

You cheated with your preacher? Do tell...

 

[SassySheDevil]

May I be honest? Not bragging by any means, but I’m probably not the best person to ask.

Sadly. My answer too.

 

[pvt_addiction]

Sadly. My answer too.

Not like I can go back and change the past, I just have to live with my choices.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Not like I can go back and change the past, I just have to live with my choices.

Yep...

 

[hotoldrguy]

If someone cheats, whether you can trust them or not, you never will trust them. You can only forgive them if you choose to stay with them.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Wondering why you said cheating and beating?

Like, HITTING someone?

Because, that? NO.

 

[hotoldrguy]

Wondering why you said cheating and beating?

Like, HITTING someone?

Because, that? NO.

I agree. One time is one time too many. Throw the fucker in jail!

 

[Deacon_Voss]

I think its funny how the hard "No" answers seem to be lacking in details.

My wife had been in a couple violent relationships before we got married. bout a year into our marriage, she got upset with me and started pounding on me, chasing me down the hall. I don't hit women, so when she calmed down, I told her if she ever did it again, it was over. She's never lifted a fist since. (30 years)

So throw her in jail? WTF is wrong with people?

Twenty years ago I cheated on her, because we were in a sexless place in our marriage. I told her a week later and we separated. She made the decision to change, and return. So I'm terrible and untrustworthy? Eh, go fuck yourself, lol.

As far as Lit goes? My wife knows all about it.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I think its funny how the hard "No" answers seem to be lacking in details.

My wife had been in a couple violent relationships before we got married. bout a year into our marriage, she got upset with me and started pounding on me, chasing me down the hall. I don't hit women, so when she calmed down, I told her if she ever did it again, it was over. She's never lifted a fist since. (30 years)

So throw her in jail? WTF is wrong with people?

Twenty years ago I cheated on her, because we were in a sexless place in our marriage. I told her a week later and we separated. She made the decision to change, and return. So I'm terrible and untrustworthy? Eh, go fuck yourself, lol.

As far as Lit goes? My wife knows all about it.

If you notice, I didn’t answer the cheating question. I’ve seen way too many situations like you describe.
Hitting me is a hard No.
Unless it’s a spanking, then...mmmm, yes.

 

[hotoldrguy]

I think its funny how the hard "No" answers seem to be lacking in details.

My wife had been in a couple violent relationships before we got married. bout a year into our marriage, she got upset with me and started pounding on me, chasing me down the hall. I don't hit women, so when she calmed down, I told her if she ever did it again, it was over. She's never lifted a fist since. (30 years)

So throw her in jail? WTF is wrong with people?

Twenty years ago I cheated on her, because we were in a sexless place in our marriage. I told her a week later and we separated. She made the decision to change, and return. So I'm terrible and untrustworthy? Eh, go fuck yourself, lol.

As far as Lit goes? My wife knows all about it.

So I never really thought about the woman beating on the man when I answered. I never would hit a woman and any man that does deserves what he gets was my points. And there was no hard no in my cheating answer.

And also, how the heck are you? I have not run into you on the threads in ages

 

[Sexybritches69]

Yes, I believe that anyone who genuinely wants to make something work, and values his or her partner can be trusted.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

What I'm seeing is that each case is different and not cut and dry. There is a LARGE grey area. There are circumstances and dynamics some of us haven't thought about. It depends on the relationship I guess. I'm not condoning it nor am I playing judge and jury. It's up to the parties involved and how they deal with it which may not be any of my business. I can't really answer this, however I can say, each case is different and should be treated as such.

 

[Disturbingimage]

Wondering why you said cheating and beating?

Like, HITTING someone?

Because, that? NO.

I said beating because it's similar to cheating where the guilty one often says ill never do it again. yet they almost always seem too.

As for the cheating question thank you to everyone for your responses. I never have and never would simple because hate it being done to me. That being said i can understand some situations where there is that gray area and i dont judge people on that.

 

[Spenser41]

I think this is an interesting question especially since this is a sex site and there are many married people on here. Now they may not meet someone for sex but what about flirting, or playing online, or later sex pms, or phone, or cam....

A lot of people on here cheat... and what if you are married and your spouse doesn't know you are online and that you are playing?

Frankly I don't think this is a realist question to ask because more are guilty then not. Just my 2 cents.