calling all transgendered

[Tymeless]

unfortunately and fortunately i have no one in my life atm and from my understanding your hair on your head your facial hair and your pubic hair continues to grow even on hormones but all other hair stops growing and eventually falls out correct me if i'm wrong on this one but all information i've seen points to this

 

[TransJason]

All hair growth slows down...I have talked to many MTFs on this issue.

And all the people I know were advised by there Gender Identity clinic Dr to grow it first.

One way around it is to have hair extensions.

Jas

 

[Tymeless]

well i'll talk to my endrocinologist when the time comes i've still got 3 months prolly if not more before i can start my hormones so i've got time to lose as much of my weight as possible and grow some hair wish i hadn't got it cut but its to late to worry bout that. I also have read that it reverses male pattern baldness in alot of cases if so i'm definately looking forward to it

 

[deidracowen]

One of my good tranny friends is on hormones. About six months now.

She has noticed that her body hair has slowed down in its growth...but she still has body hair to her chagrin. She is doing laser treatments to really get it undercontrol.

 

[Gi_Venus]

One of my good tranny friends is on hormones. About six months now.

She has noticed that her body hair has slowed down in its growth...but she still has body hair to her chagrin. She is doing laser treatments to really get it under control.

Hello Everyone ((((Hugs))))
If one is hirsute then the process can take a lot longer, Still if she does electrolysis or laser she should just concentrate on the areas that will not loose the hair no matter how long one has been on Hormones. Which is the face and neck and around the breasts usually. At least if she cannot afford the electrolysis I would wait and see...the process may take a few years.
I know how she feels, I get impatient for the changes as well.

Gi

 

[Tymeless]

i'm still fighting with the day ins and day outs of how much i wanna persue it for every 10 days i'm certain i wanna become a woman i have one day of wanting to stay a guy i don't know how you all deal with it or if your even conflicted at all about it i'd like to hear from everyone on this maybe it will help me. and temp if your out there *hugs* and thanks GI and Hugo for all your help and support!

 

[bijoe2]

i give you all the credit in the world for persuing your dream.stick with it baby and don't look back.

good luck luv
joe

 

[Tymeless]

thanks for your encouragement bijoe!

 

[Gi_Venus]

i'm still fighting with the day ins and day outs of how much i wanna persue it for every 10 days i'm certain i wanna become a woman i have one day of wanting to stay a guy i don't know how you all deal with it or if your even conflicted at all about it i'd like to hear from everyone on this maybe it will help me. and temp if your out there *hugs* and thanks GI and Hugo for all your help and support!

You are very welcome Tymeless.
I cannot say I was conflicted as you. My conflict was more like denial....I pushed the conflict deep within myself and tried to live as a male...I never quite fit in. My mental state was that of confusion because I was never addressing the issue of being myself. I decided I was bisexual to explain my feelings to myself. My mistake is I always tried to define myself by my environment, because of my insecurities I denied myself truth.....smiling maybe I should say a truth. Now there is no doubt, no conflict other than the potential angst of my situation.

I am sorry for your conflict, I hope you can find resolution without too much turmoil in your life.
I would say try to be true to yourself do not let want and need be your gauge but genuine nature... Sometimes that can only be determined by experimentation.

Gi

 

[TransJason]

If your conflicted or unsure then DONT DO ANYTHING..you must be 100% certain and comfortable and desperat to do it. If not then things can go seriously pearshaped (and I dont mean your hips !)

Remeber 3 to 9% of MTFs wish they had never done it and end uo going back to male again.

You must be 100% sure of what your doing and the need for it, your motivation and psychological state.

The SRS changes take a lot of time its not immediate and you will have a few years ahead that will be VERY difficult.

You have to be very down to earth and realist and meet with people doing the same thing..its a must. If you have no back up thats crazy, and you might well end up crazy.

Even if theres a group in another city go there and meet and talk to them.

Jas

 

[Tymeless]

part of my therapy is a group meeting but i've only been the one time to it i'm starting therapy back up next month about it and its not that i'm not sure about it because i know i'm a woman its just that one benefit of being a man i am not sure i'm ready to give up with yet and thats getting myself in well enough shape to go try out for pro baseball i love baseball and am pretty sure had i stayed in shape i would of been good enough to at least make it to the high minor leagues if not pro. at this point thats the only thing holding me back possibly giving up one dream for another its a hard thing to figure out but 95% of the time the need to be female wins out!

 

[Gi_Venus]

Hello everyone Just a bump tonight

Gianna

 

[Gi_Venus]

Hello everyone, a bump for this thread....smile.

 

[Tymeless]

yes we have been quiet lately and thier seems to be a few new transfolk to the boards just want them to realize we have a thread for them too!

 

[Gi_Venus]

Hello Tymeless and everyone
I hope you all have been fine.

Gianna

 

[Tymeless]

i really need money for hormones!

i really want to lose more weight. this dieting and excercising sucks but its got to be done.

i really wanna go get my ears pierced.

i really want to go shopping so bad!

 

[B20civic]

i am extremely confused as always.

i have been cross dressing since at least 10 years old. always fantasized about being female since way before that. as much as i want to, and try to pursue it, i just cant seem to bring myself to do it. i have no idea why. i think i'm just stuck as a female in a male body, yet happy with how things are going i guess.

 

[Gi_Venus]

i am extremely confused as always.

i have been cross dressing since at least 10 years old. always fantasized about being female since way before that. as much as i want to, and try to pursue it, i just cant seem to bring myself to do it. i have no idea why. i think i'm just stuck as a female in a male body, yet happy with how things are going i guess.

Hi B20civic, ((((Hug)))) If you are happy with it I see no reason to change. If you are afraid and want to change I would see a therapist or join a therapy group, it will help to clarify exactly what you would like to do. There are therapists that do telephone therapy so if location is a problem you can work it that way. I talked myself out of it for years.... I am happy I made my decision. Smile...it may be different for you.

Gianna

 

[Tymeless]

I talked myself out of it for several years myself i wish i would of just embraced it at 15ish instead of hiding from it!

 

[B20civic]

I talked myself out of it for several years myself i wish i would of just embraced it at 15ish instead of hiding from it!

at this rate, i will probably keep hiding from it for awhile

 

[Gi_Venus]

at this rate, i will probably keep hiding from it for awhile

If it makes you unhappy I think you should study other alternitives.
Action will always make you feel better. It is okay to stay where you are but if you have the intent you will feel better moving in your chosen direction. I tend to hold still and recuperate before charging ahead. In otherwords.... doing what you are doing is fine as long it is nurturing to you.

Gianna

 

[Gi_Venus]

This thread is a wonderful spot for sharing ideas and such, I thought I would start throwing things out there...suggestions and Ideas for the transgendered with Tiffany's permission of course...smile....I think the spirit of this thread is a viable and needed thing for the forums.

There are varying degrees of transition and how people go about it. For some it is in secrecy or with caution, for others it is an open celebration of self. Many people fall somewhere in the middle of the orientation of male and female, they do not gravitate toward the extreme end of the spectrum and sometimes find themselves outcast even by the transexual community.

I can only reference from my own experience which is MTF transitioning. Please if anyone wants to add FTM advice it would be welcome.

One thing to realize is that the people around you are resistant to change. One has to have a realistic approach to transitioning. It is human nature to fear or dislike change even though for most of us it is a growing experience and neccesary for our character. In that frame of thought a gradual approach is best utilized allowing for changes to go unnoticed or so gradual that people have already accepted the changes with out realizing it on an unconcious level.
This will work well in the early stages before the physical changes become so apparent that being open no longer becomes a choice but is thrust upon you.

People will react differently to your changes. For some it is a total rejection from everything in their life....family and friends can be very unfriendly about such things....if you are lucky you will have the support you need. It is why therapy is so important, it puts you in a position of having a support network to fall back on if things go poorly and it will help you to resolve what inner conflicts you have with clarification.

Some ideas to use.

Wear baggy clothing unless you are open...grin ...oh how i wish.
T-shirts quickly become too revealing.
Avoid sheer material....my god I looked in the mirror yesterday and shocked myself. I am not an exhibitionist......yet...smile

Grow your hair, once you are on hormones the hair growth slows dramatically.

Be very careful who you reveal yourself to, unwanted conflict and interaction is something you do not need.

smiling if you are transitioning openly then you can disregard much of what I am saying with regards to modesty.

Love you all

Gianna

 

[Tymeless]

very good post!

once i'm out to my parents i'll have no problems being open about it most of my friends already know.

 

[Gi_Venus]

very good post!

once i'm out to my parents i'll have no problems being open about it most of my friends already know.

Thank you((((Tiffany))))
I have one close friend I fear I will loose. Sigh!

Gianna

 

[Tymeless]

give the friend time its hard to deal with but if they are your friend they will find thier way back to you!