Breast cancer has hit my family

[Shelby]

The first case I've known of, or have been old enough to know of. The men of the family don't seem to take it as seriously as I do. The phone calls are flying back and forth, and the men say "it'll be fine." Her breast is being removed on Tuesday. How is that fucking fine? I've heard racecar bets, baseball bets, but nobody will talk about this.

It's her fucking breast that is coming off. And we don't yet know where the cancer is. She's a smoker, did she get lung cancer..no! She's going to have her right breast removed instead.

Sorry, venting.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

*hugs* just relax... things will be better soon enough

 

[Simply Me]

Sorry to hear that Shelby. Unfortunately, lots of women will be diagonosed with breast cancer, and usually it is too late when they find it. I have reached the age now where I have to have a mammogram more frequently. I hope all women do breast exams on themselves. Sending good thoughts your way.


And just a reminder. Men get breast cancer as well. Not as frequently, but nonetheless, something to be aware of.

 

[Shelby]

Thanks, to both of you.

Why do men dream about them, judge women by them (where's KM?) worship them, but then make Nascar bets when we have to discus them seriously? WTF?

Sorry, but I'm pissed.

 

[Simply Me]

Thanks, to both of you.

Why do men dream about them, judge women by them (where's KM?) worship them, but then make Nascar bets when we have to discus them seriously? WTF?

Sorry, but I'm pissed.

Fortunately, not all men are that way. I guess some are just scared of what they don't understand, or can't do anything about. Most men are do'ers, not talkers. I have heard men say that they hate feeling helpless, so they turn away from it. I really can't say for sure. Maybe some men could give some insight to it.

Or maybe as KM would say, They are just assholes.

 

[sch00lteacher]

I am very sorry to hear about this. I hope that the surgery will end the problem. I've lost family to this. Men do take it seriously. It is just that some are too damn stupid to know how to handle it so they change the subject or make jokes.

Not all of us are idiots though.

 

[MissTaken]

~hugs, Shelby~

My family, too, has been struck by cancer on several occasions.

Take care and stand together.

 

[Beebeeblue]

Fortunately, not all men are that way. I guess some are just scared of what they don't understand, or can't do anything about. Most men are do'ers, not talkers. I have heard men say that they hate feeling helpless, so they turn away from it. I really can't say for sure. Maybe some men could give some insight to it.

Or maybe as KM would say, They are just assholes.

Exactly. What she said. *Applauds*

Shelby, my maternal grandmother goes in Friday for the same surgery. They are still not sure if its in her lymohnodes or not, so no idea as to what kind of treatment afterwards. 2 yrs ago, my husbands grandmother had the same. My daughter is so screwed.

Keep in touch, if you wish. Ill be here for ya.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Debbie]

I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family. Cancer of any sort is terrible. My positve thoughts and best wishes are with you.
In men's defence, the easy way, imho, is that they are flippant, off the cuff silly stuff, they seem callous but their hearts are in the right place, preparing for the worst but truly hoping for the best.
We all cope the best way we can.
I wish you all the love and best wishes I can send.
Take care. *hugs*

 

[MishkarinaSkye]

That's horrible..

Prayers have been said for your family member...

God bless~

 

[sexy-girl]

im very sorry i dont know if this will help at all but my girlfriends sister had breast cancer and it was really worrying but she is completely better now and lives a normal life i know its different though because she didnt have her breast removed and i imagine thats going to be really hard for the person but they can still recover and lead normal life too


im sorry i wish i could say more and do more to help

 

[Kymberley]

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Shelby,

I am so sorry to hear this has hit your family.

Just thought you might want to check out yahoo, it is breast cancer awareness month. They are doing the home page in pink as well as having useful information that might help comfort you.


We will all keep you and your family in our prayers.

 

[Shelby]

Thank you all. I did man bash, didn't I. Sorry, just a downer day and the Nascar bets sent me off the edge a bit.

She went in today for her last consultation before "the" day. I haven't heard anything yet.

Ironic, I get the news on the first day of Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

I was wondering to myself if husbands, girlfriends, lovers, S/O, who feel the breasts of their lovers, know that they should voice anything that they feel that is different.

 

[batter]

Shelby.

sorry to hear the sad news.
as you know, there are many types of cancers out there which happen from different things.
my older sister has breast cancer and had radiation and chemo therapy about a year and a half ago. she is doing fine and just to let you know, her hair came back in curly where she had straight hair before.
now her cancer, is different from my mothers who has had cancer for the past 12 years. her cancer is caused by having too much estrogen in her system. she has never had radiation or chemo and had instead decided to use Tomoxafin (?) when it first came out for trial runs. she only recently had her one breast removed 2 years ago and does fine now although she does have some signs of it appearing on her spine and she is taking pills for it and seem to be doing good for he as the doctors believe it was caught in time.
my wife, had cancer in her uterus before i met her and she is doing fine. it has not come back for her.

there is cancer on both sides of my family.
i share your concerns and pray that things will work out fine for you all in the end.

hugs!!!