Breakups

[Svedish_Chef]

OK when my last girlfriend and I broke up... she dumped me and then creid on my shoulder... has anyone else had this sort of thing happen to them?

Da chef

 

[Guest]

Me too

 

[Patryn]

Yep...same here. When I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, it wasn't that I didn't love him, because I did, very much. It's just that we weren't doing each other any good in a romantic relationship. I balled my eyes out, so did he. We're still VERY good friends, and we're much more comfortable that way. I think we're even closer now, actually.

 

[Naked Hunny]

Cant say ive ever had this problem!! is that a good thing? Ok well most guys i dated we had decided breaking up was best. then theres the guy whos heart i thought i was gonna break if i dumped him so when he dumped me i did a dance for joy and went out and got plastered!!! Then there was the last guy honestly i dumped him and i had everyreason to yea i was upset but not as hurt as i was when he was punching the shit out of me!!

 

[Cocoa]

It sounds like you got put in the dreaded "friend zone", cheffie. We women tend to file guys there or in the "romantic zone" and it's easy to be moved from the latter to the former, but not the other way around.

My advice is to try to cut your losses and move on. You can't often win a woman back just by being sympathetic and listening to her problems. That'll just make her see you as more of a "friend".

 

[Endlessly]

Yanno, the weirdest sucession of breakups I ever had was with my ex-boyfriend, Lucas.

We decided we wanted to persue a relationship.. Three days later, he dumped me, crying. I cried too.

A few months later, we tried again. Got into a huge fight involving Robert Sean Leonard. (Don't ask.) I dumped him. We cried.

A few months later, he and I discussed getting back together. In the same phone call we got together and broke up again. No one cried.

I have a feeling that, even though I've lost all attraction to him whatsoever, this is going to be the on-again, off-again relationship that never ends. Ugh.

 

[Skitten]

Can't say it has ever happened to me, but I have heard of that. They do the breaking up and then they want you to comfort them which is totally unfair to the other person. If you are the one who ends it you should have the decency not to let the other one comfort you. You are the one hurting more so because you just got dumped and you didn't even have anytime to prepare. They on the other hand did they knew it was coming they are the ones who worked up to it so I think it is wrong. I am sorry to hear about you and your girlfriend hope your doing ok. *hugs*

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Got into a huge fight involving Robert Sean Leonard. (Don't ask.) I dumped him.

The black guy in cruel intentions? ... OK then?

For further info it was a couple of years ago and we get along well now just was one of the stranger things that has happened to me.

Da chef

 

[Skibum]

Every time I ever got dumped it was for anoyher guy. I even had one girl show up for our date with another guy in tow. That was a real fun afternoon.

There have never been any breakups in which we really saw each other much more, except for the former lover I met in the PX at Fort Knox with her husband. He must have been real surprised to see his wife hug a total stranger! The real odd thing was that she had been a friend of my wifes before we ever met, and once called to ask if she could come and stay with us while her husband was away on business. I had all kinds of wild fantasies about what might develop, but chickened out and told my wife it would be better if she didn't stay with us. I probably blew the only chance I will ever have to live one of those fantasies I write about!

 

[Endlessly]

I swore I wasn't gonna tell this story..

*LOL* No.. The guy from 'dead poet's society' and 'much ado about nothing.'

I was chatting in the Park, and the picture by my name was one I'd just cropped of my eyes alone, I thought the shadows were cool. So in comes my guy since he can't get through on the phone, and asked why I had an icon of RSL's eyes. This pissed me off-- I'm HYPER-sensitive about my eyebrows-- and when I told him they were my eyes, which he has always loved, he refused to believe me until I showed him the original pic.

Eeesh.

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

There was only one guy tht I ever cried when we broke up. We both knew we were too young for a serious relationship so we decided to go and sow some wild oats and meet back up again later. We cried for hours about it and almost never did it. We were soul mates but we wanted to experience life first before we settled down. Well we never did meet back up again he passed away 2 years ago and our chance to be together will never be now.Sorry I go off topic alittle bit.

But now If I break up with someone I don't cry in front of them I go home to do it. I hate crying in front of someone.

Bonnie

 

[Isabella Thorne]

They say that breaking up is hard to do ..

well sure Chef .. it hurts to break up a relationship .. even if you are the one breaking it off ..

i remember when i broke up a LTR .. i cried .. and cried .. and cried hysterically .. and yes in front of him too ...

for me crying helped to purge my sad feelings .. sad feelings because the relationship did not work out the way i needed it to .. tears are almost therapeutic i guess.

i am so glad to hear that you are still friends with your ex though .. unfortunately i was not so lucky .. i wanted to remain friends .. but he refused to have anything more to do with me .. he won't even talk to me now ... and believe me i have tried repeatedly to communicate with him.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Nice quote iz babe...

Just one of the strangest things I had ever had... sorry it didn't work out as well for you miss thorne dear

Da chef