breaking a hymen

[shy little fairy]

Uh, somethng's off about this story, guy. Jews get circumcised as babies, just like everyone else, only 8 days after birth. Not in high school. A guy who converted or something will do something different where only a drop of symbolic blood is taken.

i'm not jewish, but no this isn't true. while most converts would NOT decide to perform the procedure after puberty, it does happen - it is the "pure" and "right" way. people would argue someone who truly wanted to show they were a jew would be willing to deal w/ the temporary pain. rare, but that doesn't mean it was a joke.
also some parents don't circumcise the baby because they think it should be the child's choice when they are older

 

[ConfusedAgain]

hmm this thread confuses me. Some say tampons were too painful when virgins but I've used tampons since I was 15'ish and they don't hurt. I'm aware this thread was posted in 2004 but it was in the "Blank Manual". I thought threads in the sticky would be more active.

I've had 2 doctors ask me if I was "sexually active", after realizing how much pain I was in when they stuck something up there. Not sure what that question even means. Does that mean if I've ever had sex or were currently having sex? I just said yes out of humiliation. I don't know, I have a friend whose popped out a few kids and even she said doctors sticking stuff up there hurts. I automatically clench and even after a few anti-anxiety meds, I still clenched but not as bad.

Guys I've had "sex" with were kind of small...Size doesn't really matter to me but I'm obviously not experienced so I don't know if it matters for the hymen I may or may not have.

Guy I lost my 'virginity" to or almost lost it too..was huge. I remember a burning, throbbing pain and I couldn't take it anymore and stopped. I remember him saying he wasn't even in that far.. lol

Ugh, what can I use on myself to be sure? I'm a little too old now for that embarrassing bloody session.

 

[MissBonita2012]

hmm this thread confuses me. Some say tampons were too painful when virgins but I've used tampons since I was 15'ish and they don't hurt. I'm aware this thread was posted in 2004 but it was in the "Blank Manual". I thought threads in the sticky would be more active.

I've had 2 doctors ask me if I was "sexually active", after realizing how much pain I was in when they stuck something up there. Not sure what that question even means. Does that mean if I've ever had sex or were currently having sex? I just said yes out of humiliation. I don't know, I have a friend whose popped out a few kids and even she said doctors sticking stuff up there hurts. I automatically clench and even after a few anti-anxiety meds, I still clenched but not as bad.

Guys I've had "sex" with were kind of small...Size doesn't really matter to me but I'm obviously not experienced so I don't know if it matters for the hymen I may or may not have.

Guy I lost my 'virginity" to or almost lost it too..was huge. I remember a burning, throbbing pain and I couldn't take it anymore and stopped. I remember him saying he wasn't even in that far.. lol

Ugh, what can I use on myself to be sure? I'm a little too old now for that embarrassing bloody session.

I still find the yearly gyno exam painful, mostly because there is no way I am excited and naturally lubed when I go in there and the doctor can't lube the instrument because lube messes up the pap smear. I have had the doctor ask several times if I was sexually active but that had to do with my tightness. Even now, if it has been a while since I have had sex, I bleed a little the first time or two and it hurts a little (especially if he is well endowed- unlike a lot of women I see post, I do not think bigger is better). I am assuming that is normal to some degree since I have gone years between sexual partners. I had wondered in the past if I wasn't ok in my girly parts but the doctor told me I was fine, just tight and unlubed. You may want to try dilators, they are kind of like a dildo that has multiple sizes. They are used to gradually stretch you. They made a huge difference the last time I had sex and even went for my yearly exam, it wasn't painful and there was no bleeding. You would definitely be able to tell if your hymen was intact with these. I got a set on Amazon for $25. Good luck.

 

[MoonlessNight]

Although mine definately broke the first time I had sex, I think it was most definately stretched the first time I went to the Gyno.

When I was a virgin, tampons were too painful to wear...I went to the gyno so I could get on birth control and had my first pelvic exam...let me tell you...I started crying cause it hurt so much. I think that got me part way there...I didn't notice any blood then...and the first time I had sex there was blood.

I wasn't too sore afterwards...the sex part was way less painful for me than my first experience at the gyno.

I was in the same boat you were. Couldn't wear tampons either.

I had sex before I ever had a pelvic done. And the pelvic was soooooo much more painful. There was definitely pain when I had sex for the first time, but when I did the pelvic for the first time, there was PAIN.

 

[SexyKitten1974]

I literally didn't feel it. I, for some reason, assumed it had been broken already by fingers, horse riding, etc. The first time I had sex I didn't feel any pain at all, and wasn't surprised. But when I went to the bathroom there was blood (a fair amount) so I know I did tear it.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

I still find the yearly gyno exam painful, mostly because there is no way I am excited and naturally lubed when I go in there and the doctor can't lube the instrument because lube messes up the pap smear. I have had the doctor ask several times if I was sexually active but that had to do with my tightness. Even now, if it has been a while since I have had sex, I bleed a little the first time or two and it hurts a little (especially if he is well endowed- unlike a lot of women I see post, I do not think bigger is better). I am assuming that is normal to some degree since I have gone years between sexual partners. I had wondered in the past if I wasn't ok in my girly parts but the doctor told me I was fine, just tight and unlubed. You may want to try dilators, they are kind of like a dildo that has multiple sizes. They are used to gradually stretch you. They made a huge difference the last time I had sex and even went for my yearly exam, it wasn't painful and there was no bleeding. You would definitely be able to tell if your hymen was intact with these. I got a set on Amazon for $25. Good luck.

Thanks. That helps. Good point about not being excited there. haha. I've also gone a while and over a year without sex so I can see how that is also a problem. I don't think I've ever bled though. That is another thing that confuses me. Not during or after. Unless super sized tampons could've broken it and bled then. Any suggestions on something to try that doesn't look like an obvious sex toy? I don't live alone and I don't want something like that even hiding in my dresser. I'd probably end up using it at a hotel and then chuck it.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

I was in the same boat you were. Couldn't wear tampons either.

I had sex before I ever had a pelvic done. And the pelvic was soooooo much more painful. There was definitely pain when I had sex for the first time, but when I did the pelvic for the first time, there was PAIN.

Could you wear them after you lost it? I wonder why it seems some could wear tampons and some can't. Even the Tampon FAQs says virgins can use them and it doesn't break hymens.

 

[OnceFuturePoly]

So you're a young woman, going to the doctor for birth control before you stat having intercourse, or maybe you're going just because you reached a magic age.

Why don't you ask the doctor "is my hymen going to be a pain?" (pun!) "And would you clean it up for me?"

Or is there just something unavoidable about the wedding night bloody sheet ritual?

 

[Ellafun]

My confusion, as always, is why a thread from 2004 was resurrected...I'm pretty sure that the OP has lost her virginity by now. Maybe she can pop back in here and let us know her experience...

 

[ConfusedAgain]

My confusion, as always, is why a thread from 2004 was resurrected...I'm pretty sure that the OP has lost her virginity by now. Maybe she can pop back in here and let us know her experience...

I'm confused as to why the "helpful links" in the stickies were so outdated. Why haven't they been updated? Or at least the stickies unsticked and new threads stickied?

I know on many forums they don't like repeat topics and questions and when you ask a question everyone gets mad and tells you to search. So I just replied with my own question to the one in the FAQ which bumped the thread.

 

[ebunny15]

I still find the yearly gyno exam painful, mostly because there is no way I am excited and naturally lubed when I go in there and the doctor can't lube the instrument because lube messes up the pap smear. I have had the doctor ask several times if I was sexually active but that had to do with my tightness. Even now, if it has been a while since I have had sex, I bleed a little the first time or two and it hurts a little (especially if he is well endowed- unlike a lot of women I see post, I do not think bigger is better). I am assuming that is normal to some degree since I have gone years between sexual partners. I had wondered in the past if I wasn't ok in my girly parts but the doctor told me I was fine, just tight and unlubed. You may want to try dilators, they are kind of like a dildo that has multiple sizes. They are used to gradually stretch you. They made a huge difference the last time I had sex and even went for my yearly exam, it wasn't painful and there was no bleeding. You would definitely be able to tell if your hymen was intact with these. I got a set on Amazon for $25. Good luck.

When i was a virgin, I couldn't use tampons at all. It was like hitting a brick wall. Actually, my boyfriend stretched my hymen during play, so I was able to use them after we had been together for a little while but before we had sex. Funny how i don't remember bleeding on his fingers during play. I don't know if i ever did because he never mentioned it. Sex was always painful, but i never bled then, either. I let him try for a couple of years before telling him it just hurt too much. Going to the gyno is never fun, and my first doctor told me the problem was more in my head than in between my legs. Now that i've been here, I've read enough threads to think maybe i just have to take matters into my own hands. So i bought a set of dilators to try to loosen myself up. It has taken months, and it still hurts to a certain extent for me. Each new size is like trying to shove a Caddie into a parking space made for a moped. But that is simply my body reacting and it is slowly getting better. I would like to think that it would feel better if I were aroused, lubed up, and playing around with a man, but such is not my situation right now. Every girl is different.

 

[Juliewife]

Pain first time

I did not bleed the first time, but it did hurt when he entered me. More of a stretched feeling than any tearing. It felt real good pretty soon. I didn't climax the first time either.

 

[MoonlessNight]

Could you wear them after you lost it? I wonder why it seems some could wear tampons and some can't. Even the Tampon FAQs says virgins can use them and it doesn't break hymens.

Yes I could. I don't understand that either

 

[Lunar_Eclipse]

I was masturbating when I broke mine. I was seventeen and with a hairbrush and as good as it had been starting to feel when it broke it hurt a bit, thought the blood was more of a scare than anything over the pain.

 

[Ropebunny]

I have no idea when my hymen would have broken but I don't think it was through sex as there would have been pain/blood. I started exploring my body pretty early so I must have broken it myself but I really don't remember and blood or pain. Is there anyone else that doesn't know when their hymen broke?

 

[ConfusedAgain]

Is there anyone else that doesn't know when their hymen broke?

lol I don't know either which is why I bumped the thread questioning if I might still have one.

 

[Flybigirlsea]

My hymen was intact the first time I was introduced to intercourse. He was older, experienced and very gentle. He encouraged me along the way and when he finally tore my hymen it did hurt but he moved forward very slowly and gently. I did not orgasm that first time nor did he...we ended the intimacy just holding each other and cuddling. There were some tears on my part because of the intensity of the experience but it was an emotional high. This same man brought me to my first orgasm, tought me how to please him and knew how to play my body. Unfortunately we never were able to maintain a relationship outside the bedroom.

 

[Aphro]

How do you people find these ancient threads to resurrect?

 

[Zeb_Carter]

They are trolls, trolling is their life.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

unless you've saved your hymen and crafted it into a lovely necklace, in which case we'd like to see

 

[Emerson40]

How do you people find these ancient threads to resurrect?

Some of these old threads have links in the Blank Manual thread, 'stickied' at the top of the HT.

I think some new users find these and post replies, without being aware of the 'sell-by' dates of the threads. I think their intention is more about contributing to or continuing the conversation, than resurrection.

 

[Eilan]

I agree. I don't think there's any need to be critical or judgemental. And when its a discussion topic like this, who really cares when it was started?

Especially if the person who bumps the thread has a female-sounding username, amirite?

 

[tiny_tits]

I agree. I don't think there's any need to be critical or judgemental. And when its a discussion topic like this, who really cares when it was started?

It's always a crapshoot.

If you start a thread that duplicates one back in like 2006, it quickly gets pointed out "been there, done that".

If you resurrect that thread, it's all like "WTF?"

 

[tiny_tits]

I know. It's a no-win. To me it makes more sense to take an old one and pick up where it left off, but I've been scolded by anal mods who feel it breaks some arbritrary etiquette code. Apparently common sense isn't a part of that code.

I know, right?

 

[NippleMuncher]

I know. It's a no-win. To me it makes more sense to take an old one and pick up where it left off, but I've been scolded by anal mods who feel it breaks some arbritrary etiquette code. Apparently common sense isn't a part of that code.

To me, if the poster has something relevant to ask or contribute to a thread, then it doesn't matter that it gets bumped, however, bumping something just to say "cool" or "great thread" or otherwise being an asshat, that's not looked upon well.