Susurration
Whispering softly
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I've been putting off our discussion about what has been up (in this case not up), just seems like there is never a good time.
Anyone have any pointers about those talks? I don't want him to feel attacked or become defensive. And if the reason is the bit of weight I have put on, I think I'll die. I'm very insecure, I have gained a dress size these past few months going back to school and all the stress that comes with that... I guess that's why I haven't brought it up...
There's never really good time to have a conversation like that. I think that the most important thing is to choose a time when you have time to talk and there's nothing immediately pressing that either of you needs to be doing, so there's no time pressure to say everything quickly.
Oh, and regarding the weight issue, you look incredible in all the photos I've seen you in, and I'd be astonished if that has anything to do with it.
Most men aren't great about talking about how they feel, especially when they don't initiate such conversations, so it may be difficult to broach the subject if he's not willing to discuss feelings. Tread carefully, but obviously you mustn't keep your own feeling bottled up about this much longer, otherwise you'll be harming yourself. Maybe just start by explaining how you're feeling and not ask him what's wrong or how he is feeling? He may simply be unaware of the effect this is all having on you deep down.
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