Braking Contract
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jamesie_85
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Sorry to hear that, some people just dont get it and expect it just to be a case of the domme helping you to get off, theres much more to it than that.
Its not even a D/s thing, its a people thing and its a pretty poor person who instead of trying talk through any issues just runs off and breaks contact.
I sure hopes I speaks good inglish sos peeple who reed this noes what im trying to says
Its not even a D/s thing, its a people thing and its a pretty poor person who instead of trying talk through any issues just runs off and breaks contact.
I sure hopes I speaks good inglish sos peeple who reed this noes what im trying to says
satindesire
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Yes, responses like this surely will show your prospective mates how compassionate, calm and well-adjusted you are.
Seriously, dude, take a chill pill, walk away from the computer for a day or two, and calm the heck down.
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The same reason you post, because you have something that you think is important enough to type out. It's not that hard to understand, is it?
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yeah those online contracts are so hard to enforce
psst.... it's break not brake, and you're not your
perhaps it's time to "dom" your english studies & vocabulary before
moving up to something complicated like another human being... just saying.
have fun and good luck
Its is also "to" not "too," sorry just feeling a bit snarky.
People break contracts all the time, just look at the divorce rates, not to mention adultery. A contract is only as strong as the parties who make it. Both have to get what they need or want out of it.
If I were you I would stop making any contracts and just play the field for a while.
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Its pretty clear lacus10 is upset and just venting their frustration at sombody just running off on them without trying to work it out first. Nothing wrong with that is there? or would we all prefer it if when we get hurt we just bottle it up and dont get it out there? Thats healthy isnt it
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There's a difference between venting and being an abrasive jerk.
People aren't robots and they know full well that their words can hurt. A mature adult doesn't just vent their spleen in a hostile and rude way.
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When your upset a lot of the time you dont even think of what you are saying or doing. Heck I once had a mistress who (after a minor disagreement) went on every single site were on together and slated me to everybody we were friends with on them. Doesnt make her a bad person, just makes her hurt and lashing out.
Some people are just like that, when sombody gets you down you trash talk them to anybody who will listen, when your down try to tear the person who hurt you down with you.
Some people are just like that, when sombody gets you down you trash talk them to anybody who will listen, when your down try to tear the person who hurt you down with you.
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*laughs* Sorry, but I call that a bad person. When they won't control their mouth when they're pissed? That's just immature and low.
jamesie_85
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some just explode when they get like that.
A nicer person you couldnt hope to to meet and very apologetic when she calmed down but some people are just like that
A nicer person you couldnt hope to to meet and very apologetic when she calmed down but some people are just like that
satindesire
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Just in case you forgot, THIS IS WHAT YOU POSTED:
That is not venting, that's you being a jerk. Unnecessarily. You don't know that person, you don't know if he likes porn, and you don't know if he has a sorry life. If you are going to vent, stating things that you have no clue about isn't the way to do it.
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I don't know, why don't you stop posting and go back to whatever it is that you do?
Satin, I
you.Lacus, once again, just because someone doesn't want to play with you, doesn't mean that they're not a "true" sub.
Also, let me direct you to our "Isolated Blurt" thread for venting, and our "Dear X" thread for directing your venting at someone in particular.
Now please fasten your seatbelts, and place your trays in the upright position.
Thank you.
Works Cited
Dom, Writer: "Isolated Blurt". Web. 19 Jun. 2010 <http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=181849>69, Kiten:"Dear X". Web. 19 Jun. 2010 <http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=506399>
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*raises hand*
Since when does a sub wanting out of a contract mean that they aren't a "true sub"? And where is the line for a "true sub," anyways?
And here's food for thought... how long did you know this "not-true sub" before the two of you entered into a contract? How many conversations did you have regarding similar likes and dislikes? How many questions did your checklist have? Was it one of the short 50 question ones or was it the 200+ question one? How many times did you play together before deciding you were compatible? Was she wanting actual submission or just bottoming? Or were you wanting just bottoming and she was seeking submission? How long was the initial contract for? How often did you have contact with her? What percent of that was non-sexual contact? Was she service oriented and were you treating that part of accordingly?
*shrugs*
Just curious.
Since when does a sub wanting out of a contract mean that they aren't a "true sub"? And where is the line for a "true sub," anyways?
And here's food for thought... how long did you know this "not-true sub" before the two of you entered into a contract? How many conversations did you have regarding similar likes and dislikes? How many questions did your checklist have? Was it one of the short 50 question ones or was it the 200+ question one? How many times did you play together before deciding you were compatible? Was she wanting actual submission or just bottoming? Or were you wanting just bottoming and she was seeking submission? How long was the initial contract for? How often did you have contact with her? What percent of that was non-sexual contact? Was she service oriented and were you treating that part of accordingly?
*shrugs*
Just curious.
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I can talk a lot to a person in 2 days - that doesn't mean there's enough time for them to get a good idea about who I am or me them. Not contract good anyways.
The journey to get to 'let's do a contract' is not a quick one, in my admittedly limited experience. Not if you want to do it right the first time. That's also the time in which both (or all) sides decide how good of a fit it'll be.
Leaving a contract isn't the end of the world. It isn't an insult to one half or another. It simply means that things have changed and it's not a good fit any more. And it could be that he was having his own subbie-headspace issue. God knows I still have them that can get severe enough that I want to give my collar back and run. That's why communication is so important, as well as tasks.
The journey to get to 'let's do a contract' is not a quick one, in my admittedly limited experience. Not if you want to do it right the first time. That's also the time in which both (or all) sides decide how good of a fit it'll be.
Leaving a contract isn't the end of the world. It isn't an insult to one half or another. It simply means that things have changed and it's not a good fit any more. And it could be that he was having his own subbie-headspace issue. God knows I still have them that can get severe enough that I want to give my collar back and run. That's why communication is so important, as well as tasks.
BiaTcHiNFiRe
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Having fun Satin...?
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Are you sure you aren't bloved?
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Having fun Satin...?
Was that sarcasm or a genuine question?
